who's the boss, wife or husband?
By cheodej
@cheodej (102)
Germany
July 12, 2007 2:56am CST
at home, it is equal and it must be. it doesn't mean that if you are the man in house you must be the boss at home. it's unfair, isn't it? every decision made in the house must be talk with both parties like when buying things use in the house or which auto we will buy or anything else. when we make our vows it says that we must respect each other and that means both and that also means we must be equal, right?
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@anonymili (3138)
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12 Jul 07
Marriage involves a lot of give and take. He gives and I take. LOL Just joking! Seriously though marriage does involve give and take and compromise on both sides. Compromise is not a bad thing as some people would have you believe. There are decisions which a husband will automatically let the wife make and vice versa. There are no hard and fast rules about which decisions these should be but it's unique to each couple and their own situations. My husband lets me take care of our social calendar, if someone asks him about us attending a party or event, he always says "you had better ask the boss" (boss being me in this scenario). In other situations he is the boss, can't think of any RIGHT now - maybe it's because it's different all the time :)
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@gilly123 (157)
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13 Jul 07
Hi cheodej24,
Well i must admit it is my wife who is boss!she make all the decisions,then we talk about it ,after she has already made her mind up!
@cheodej (102)
• Germany
13 Jul 07
:)...do you mean all?as in, really all? talk...you must talk to her heart to heart. man and woman are made equal. it may have differences but when you open your heart then it could be easier. i found it not good also that a wife is the boss in the house. the kids may lose respect to their father when they sees that their mother is in charge.
@bubunyellow (32)
• India
13 Jul 07
dear friend i am fully agreed with u that both are equal and both should run their lifi by mixing with each other.but some traditional countries are ther like INDIA,THE MUSLIM COUNTRIES LIKE PAKISTAN.IRAQ,AFGANISTAN and many more in which generally the husband is considered as the boss, because in this countries a tradition has been contuing that according to god 's order husban should be given more priority than his wife.because ghusband gives protaction to his wife ,he earns mony to manage the family such and such .
@fuddyduddy (1)
• Singapore
12 Jul 07
well..i also think that both of them should work hand in hand...both should have the veto on decisionz..
@nsuchees (3)
• India
12 Jul 07
I do agree. We must respect each other decisions and can advise/comment to the views. We all are human beings. Cos being a wife we take care of the whole house and see to it that the baby is also taken care and infact we treat that caress our husband also like our child and take care of him like a mother in one way. So I think both must repect each other and lead the life to a happy and peaceful living
@Cassie3107 (40)
• United States
26 Jul 07
My husband playfully calls me Boss. I might comment on something he did and he will say "Okay, Boss I will do it that way. Biblically speaking the husband is supposed to be the head of the household and the wife is supposed to submit to her husband.
@3r7sweetie (937)
• Philippines
12 Jul 07
I believe that husband and wife have equal rights at home. It is not only for the husband to say and decide, the wife has the right, too. In that way, marriage is more fruitful and peaceful.
