what level of frankness can be maintained with students of teenage?

There was a Korean boy living opposite to my house. His father went to Korea back and the boy with his mum and sis had to stay back since he was in yr10. He used to come to me for English and Psychology lessons. One day he was very serious and I asked him what the problem is and he said its my mom. I asked him what is it and he said she refused me to go to the Valentine day party to be held the next saturday night. when I asked the reason for his mom's refusal he said she said it will be too late by the time you come back. He wanted a crying shoulder so expected me to support him. He was ready even to go to the party without telling his mother. Then as a teacher and an elder I suggested him that what do they do in the party. He said just go dance and come back. I told him if you are really interested in going to this party try convincing your mother and tell her what you do over there try telling her your interests so that she can also talk to you openly. I felt that he didnt like my suggestion but did not say anything. The next day he came very cheerful I asked him what is the matter and he said he could convince his mother and she came to him openly with her fear that she was not aware of what happens in the party. this I gave an example that if we are free with them they will also come out openly and we will be knowing what is there in their immature minds.

Good Post indeed! Sonlaika1 It wil all depend upon intimacy with the students. If I feel that my students would take my suggestions and advice in the right spirit...they I would like to help them in any of their problems either personal or related to their family. I believe, I will have more experience than my students and there is no substitute for experience...and also sometimes students feel comfortable talking to their teachers, instead of their partents. I strongly feel, that they must be guided, if they are sincerely seeking your advice.