Marriage, how do you know when it's right?
By carolline_c
@carolline_c (143)
Brazil
July 12, 2007 1:54pm CST
My cousin has a boyfriend of four years that just propposed to her. She says he satisfacts her in almost all ways. They really seems to be happy. But she said that at their relationship there's lack of adventure and sometimes romance. All the rest is ok. Then she asked my opinion. I had no right answer, I guess. But, for you, When do you thing marriage is the right to do?
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7 responses
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
14 Jul 07
4 years is a long time to have studied each other-I feel in four years these people know each other well enough, it the right time to get married, let them go ahead, the rest they will sort out as they live together in marriage, marriage is a continuous process of knowing each other and moving along with each others'traits that cement rather than tear love apart!
@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
14 Jul 07
My fiance and I have known eachother for almost three years now. He proposed a month ago, and we are now planning our wedding. We had a lot of serious discussions, and got to know eachother as well as we possibly could before deciding to take it to the next level. We have been through a lot already, and we have stuck together. We can't wait to spend our lives together. Marriage is right when you know that you and your partner are complatible.
@marisalvilla (9)
• Philippines
13 Jul 07
marriage is right when you feel that you are already ready to be in higher level of relationship. elements of love, romance, excitement and stability should be there. it should be overflowing to be able to share with another individual... it she feels a doubt, then don't. it might not be the proper time yet.
@shmily6599 (3)
• United States
12 Jul 07
I think you know right away. You have to weigh your options about what is most important to you. If the lack of adventure and romance is bothering your cousin, she must decide how much this would over-rule everything else that "satisfies" her.
Once you get married, you still need to continue to build and grow your relationship, just like when you were dating, so knowing when it is right, is more about if you want to continue to commit to the relationship. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, it is just about how much you will accept them or not.
@circumstance (283)
• Malaysia
12 Jul 07
for me i will consider to marry when i already can care about myself, my stuff by my own self.. my income is good, my future is safe, my life is secure and i can take care of my parent.. even if i add someone new and that will not disturb anything that time I'm sure that I'm ready.. oppps! of course when i already have the candidate.. :D
