Being Secretive!
By sweetmom3
@sweetmom3 (43)
United States
July 12, 2007 3:27pm CST
Well my husband is very secretive when it comes to the internet. He won't check his email in front of me at all. When it comes to the messenger he won't turn it on if im here. Well one day I got into his email and checked his messenger and I found alot of women on there. He denies talking to them. Well im not stupid. He knows when I do this because his password gets changed. So how do I check his email and messenger without him knowing? PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!
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@mean_queen (1713)
• Malaysia
12 Jul 07
Wow.. I think I'd be suspicious if my boyfriend was that secretive too. I think it's no use for you to snoop around anymore. I personally think that you should come clean about this to him and tell him what you already know. If you decide to check his emails again, you're still gonna find the same thing right? And most probably, he'll still deny it. I think you should have a serious and rational talk with your husband about this and don't let him get away with it. :P
@sweetmom3 (43)
• United States
12 Jul 07
The thing is, is that i have talked to him about it and hes very defensive over it. Which means i know he's lieing to me when he tells me he's not doing anything. I just wish that he would come clean. But i know hes not gonna so the only thing that i can come up with is to move out. No, its not the same thing he has different ladies on their every time. Well he adds more to his list. I dont think he will ever stop but i need to do something to let these ladies know what hes doing and I dont know how. There is one that wont believe me at all. He has lied to her big time. I told her a different name, said i was his ex, that hes only 27, and has 1 child. Well thats all wrong. He has 2 sons and a step daughter. Hes' 30 and we are married. But she wont believe me at all.
@mean_queen (1713)
• Malaysia
12 Jul 07
Woww, that really is sort of a dilemma you're in. It really is obvious that your husband is deliberately hiding and cheating even after he knows you already know about his scandals. I couldn't really tell you what to do. But if it happened to me, I would move out. I wouldn't want to give him the satisfaction that he thinks he can just manipulate me like that and I would buy into his lies. I honestly feel sorry for you. I hope you're able to find a brilliant idea on what to do.
@sweetmom3 (43)
• United States
12 Jul 07
Well i do plan on moving out. I just have to save money up so i can. If money wasnt a problem i would have been gone by now. I really just dont understand why hes doing it.
@Yatayee (117)
• Australia
13 Jul 07
This must be very painful and I am so sorry you have had to endure this. Whose house is it, can you tell him to move out? If not I hope you can find a way to do it soon, maybe you can put your belongings in storage and stay with a friend until you get some cash together for your own place. You are very brave to stand up to him and I think you deserve a medal. You can make it, stay true to yourself, you do not deserve to be just one of the crowd and one day someone will come along who only has eyes for you. Good luck.
