Do you plan to pay for your daughter (or daughters) wedding?
By 4monsters4me
@4monsters4me (2569)
United States
October 25, 2006 7:34am CST
Do you think in this day and age it is still the bride's family's responsability to pay for the entire wedding?
We have 3 girls (they are 6, 4 and 6 months right now) and we don't plan to pay for their weddings. We will help in any way we can be we won't go into bankruptcy to give them the whole $2500 dress and such. If they want extravagance they will have to save their own money to pay for it. My parents didn't pay for any of my wedding. So my husband and I had to choose what we wanted. We could have put ourselves tens of thousands of dollars in debt to have my dream wedding or we could keep it simple. We chose simple. In all was spent maybe $100 on our wedding. $40 was the marriage license itself, we gave $40 to the preacher that performed the wedding and the rest was on food for afterwards. My sister-in-laws sprung for decorations (which were bought at Wal-mart and the Dollar Store) and the cake (which was about $40). My parents brought the wine and took us out for dinner and drinks the night before.
We paid for our honeymoon ourselves, too. My dad did give us $500 as a wedding gift which suprised me. We spent it all at Disney World. It made our time more enjoyable because we wouldn't have eaten in the places we did without his gift. It never even crossed my mind to ask my parents for money for the wedding. They didn't have any to give me anyways.
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@MrsFrizzle (1963)
• United States
27 Oct 06
We spent $2,500 on our wedding and it was a very nice wedding with 150 people. We got the cake as a gift form my aunt who is a baker, my grandfather is a printer and he gave us invitations as a gift, My grandmother let us use her huge house and yard to have it at, We got my father in law to take the pictures because he is a profesional, others also helped with picture taking, Our friend was a dj at the time and his gift was being a dj. My family all pitched in a cooked the food. We really only had to pay for my dree which was on sale, food, and chair and table rentals... I also made my own programs and gave out these cool candles as favors that I got free for being a candle consultant.
I would not have done it any other way. My father and mother are divorced and slit the cost of the wedding. My inloaws also paid for the flowers and groomsmen gifts.
@MrsFrizzle (1963)
• United States
27 Oct 06
oh and to answer you question I would help pay but they would have to keep in in a reasonable budjest. I have had friends who spent $20,000. Not only do my parents not have that but they said if they did they would want to give it to me for a downpayment on a house not just one day worth of partying.. everyone had fun at my wedding and I was just so happy to be marrying my husband after 9 years of dating that that stuff did not matter.
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@4monsters4me (2569)
• United States
27 Oct 06
That is so awesome that you had all those people that could donate their time. My dad likes to take pictures so he did the photography for my cousin's wedding. They turned out really nice. No one took pictures at my wedding. Well, they took pictures, but none of those really nice ones. I don't even have a picture of just me and my parents together because the only people on my side were my parents. The rest were my husband's family and friends since we had the wedding in their town.
We didn't have invitations because I knew no one on my side of the family would come. My parents were 300 miles away and the rest of my mom's family was about 450 miles away. Too far for them. I did send out announcements afterwards that I made myself on the computer. Oh, I forgot. My sister in law and her friend were trying to start a fake flower arrangement business so they did all the bouquets and flowers. And the wedding was in my in-laws living room and the"reception" was at my sister in laws house.
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@4monsters4me (2569)
• United States
26 Oct 06
Thank you for finally giving a thought out response. I get so annoyed with the fly-by posters that just post one word answers or nonsense just to get their post count up.
@amberbambers23 (2615)
• United States
28 Oct 06
My parents arent paying for my entire wedding. They are helping though. My dad is giving us the money for my dress and our ceremony& reception site. He said just let him know about anything else. We are paying for honeymoon, i would never ask anyone else for that. I didnt ask them for help, they offered it and said it wasnt a problem because its the day we have all dreamt about
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@Theresam (1177)
• United States
27 Oct 06
I don't have any girls. If I did have girls, I would probably tell them they have $5,000 that they will get when they get married, they can use it for a down payment for a house or for their wedding. I will probably do that for my three sons anyways.
Weddings are so expensive these day even for being in one.
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@crystal8577 (1466)
• United States
8 Dec 06
We paid for EVERYTHING ourselves. We were prepared to do that & it was not a big deal to us. We were old enough to get married so why should we have expected anyone else to foot the bill. I will give all of my children (even if I have a boy) an equal amount for their wedding. Anything beyond that is there responsibilty.
@4monsters4me (2569)
• United States
26 Oct 06
Thanks so much both of you for your wonderful, inciteful comments.
