How Old Were You When You Moved Out of Your Parents House????
By monkeywriter
@monkeywriter (2004)
United States
July 13, 2007 3:42am CST
I am 27 (28 in December) and my sister is 24 (25 in December). Neither of us are yet married. My sister has left the house for months at a time traveled a bit to another country, went to bible college.
Our parents are Christians but raised us wrong. And treat us bad. Not like abuse but verbal abuse stuff. We had a disagreement. Its the last straw. We are tired of being picked on. We are moving out! But we are now dealing with where to (state wise) and finding jobs and such. It wont be easy, costs lots. But its important that we do it NOW. Our goal is by Octobers end of this year!
So I'm kinda curious. How old were you when you moved out? Either marriage or just out?? Why did you move out then too if you dont mind??
Thanx for your thoughts :))
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15 responses
@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
13 Jul 07
Well good for you two that you've decided to take a stand and do something for yourselves!! I'm 26 and I still live with my mother, we have a roommate like arrangement and I suppose we'll continue to do so until one of us gets married, lol. It is scary to move, I do understand that, we moved cross country with very little money and knowing nobody. As a result we had (and still have sometimes) a hard time money wise. So please learn from our mistake and do it the right way, meaning...
1) Tavel out to a place and check it out before just up and moving, to save money try and schedule job interviews for that same couple of days. Monster.com, jobs.com, careerbuilder.com, ect are all good places to look for jobs.
2) Check out apartments and compare prices(or houses) online but make a trip to view them before moving. I made the mistake of looking online and paying and signing a lease via fax before seeing the place and not only did I not get what I signed up for but it cost me $1,000s to get out of there and get a new place. apartmentguide.com, apartments.com and rent.com are all great for this.
3) Know that you really can do it, you don't have to know 100 people someplace before moving there. Just make sure you research and have a little bit of $$ saved up for the unexpected.
Best of luck!!!
@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
17 Aug 07
I was 27. I got married and went to another city to stay with my husband.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
13 Jul 07
I was 17 years old when I moved out of my moms house. I had two more weeks of school to complete to graduate and I finished it. I graduated and have been on my own every since then. I moved out on my own and got married 6 years later.
@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
17 Aug 07
I was 20 I guess because I was married during that time and decided to get into our own house and start living on our own. But my communication and bonding with my parents was not affected by this. I visit them and made vacations. Even when my parents move in the province, I visited them once in a while together with my daughter.
@ratburn (939)
• Philippines
14 Jul 07
i will be 25 next month and i still live with my parents. here in the philippines, the tradition is to move out only when you get married. also, even if people want to move out, expenses are really high and it's hard to sustain a life when you're earning so little.
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@UDDERONES (887)
• United States
13 Jul 07
I was 17 when I moved in with my boyfriend who is now my husband of 14 years.
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@monkeywriter (2004)
• United States
14 Jul 07
I'm glad you do. I know some people still have good relationships with the parents. But not us. Sorry its how it is for us. My sister has traveled a lot in part some times just to be away from home from them. Its just me who has traveled little this will be a BIG change for us both. Living with my parents over the years hasnt been good on either of us emotionally seriously. My sister jokes but is still serious to say we could be need lots of therapy eventually! But for those with a GOOD relationship stay there long as you need!
@meljessxena (2315)
• Australia
14 Jul 07
i was not quiet 16 and half when i moved out, i grew up with 2 brothers and 3 sisters and my parents, they were constantly always fighting and because i was the youngest i was always known the "baddy" because my siblings thought my life was so different to their etc etc, and they still do to this day, so when they are at my parents i cant be there for to long with them as we fight.
i have recently moved back to my parents for work reasons, but if i could id love to move out again when afford it anytime soon. i love my parents heaps and i rarely argue with them, because all my siblings have moved out.
when i moved out when i was 16 it was with my partner and his family were willing to take me in.
@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
14 Jul 07
I moved out of my parents house soon as I graduated from high school. I went into the service and it was a good move. There was no reason as such. I just wanted to join the service and see a little of the world.
@rubenlicera (141)
• Philippines
17 Aug 07
I'm a career proffessional earning six digits annually. I'll be 28 and I'm still living with my parents.
Living with parents, like in any culture, is an issue to us. We value the family that we prefer to stick together until such time circumstances requires us to separate.
As of the moment, I enjoy the bliss of being single with my parents. I intend to serve them the way they have nurtured me to become the person I am now.
God bless our parents.
@rubenlicera (141)
• Philippines
17 Aug 07
Like any other Asian culture, one of our greatest asset is our family. We live and grow with them until such time that we have our family of our own.
I'm proud to say that I am 27 now and still lives with my parents. I live with them not because I can't afford to be independent, but because I always value my relationship with them.
It is with my parents nurturing that I became a person I am now with dignity and passion for the spirit of volunteerism.
I'm planning to move out soon. Soon for me is when time requires me to do so.
@serena_wai (970)
• Malaysia
13 Jul 07
I moved out at age 13 to study in another state. I will go back during semester break. Then after that I went to University and start to work in another different state. I don't know if i am really a homey person, i don't owe a room in the house cause i was always absent, i don't even have a bed, cupboard or watever.
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@psyche49f (2502)
• Philippines
14 Jul 07
I moved out only when I got married at the age of 23. My parents were not the perfect parents, but there was no such verbal abuse. Of course, I had a traumatic experience as a child, but that was no reason for me to leave home, until of course on the day that I got married. Since both of you are already grownups and can already live independently from your parents, I guess your move was a wake up call for your parents for having been mean to you. I hope they realized that what they did was wrong. Do you still have contact with them now? Of course it would not be easy at first, but later, you will pick up and will soon be economically independent...
@jonaida (574)
• Philippines
13 Jul 07
When I first got my job at 20 years of age, I planned to move out of the house but my parents don't want me to so I stayed for sometime until I was 23 to 24, there I started to stay away from home. I started to look for work outside the city so as to have an excuse to have my own place. It feels good to be independent, do what you want to do, eat what you want to eat, budget your money(that's tough), and so much more. I wanted to learn and explore things and being with my family hinders some decisions I have to make.
I encourage you to move out, it's tough but you can do it as long as you are hardworking and you persevere.