How long did you know your partner before moving together?

I don't think that it is the length of the time before marriage but the time after that counts. I lived with my husband for 2 years before marriage and we are going into our 24th year and I am just now finding out stuff that I did not know about him and it is very disappointing and may lead to parting of the ways very soon. I am not at all scared about moving on as I am the bread winner of the home and very self reliant. He has been telling me that he doesn't make enough to pay the bills or buy food or anything but seems to be buying lotto - booze - gambling - golf - bowling and any other fun activity he seems to enjoy. Me I go to work come home sit and watch what tv he has on and pay the bills. The first mastake I made was to get direct deposit of my check or marry him I am up in arms over this one. But I would forget about the past and dust yourself off and move on life is to short. But for me I will never marry again I would rather live alone and not have the extra baggage and work. Hugs and good luck as it sounds like your on the right track to forfilling your life.

Me an dmy bf did move in together after about 2 weeks =) We are still going strong and it has been a year and a half now. I know that was fast but it did feel right at the time and it still does. I do not think that it would have felt more right if we would have waited until now. We spent every night together and it just felt ridicilous to spend that much money on an empty apartment.

I have been married twice. I knew my first wife about a year and a half before marrying and my second wife about 2 1/2 years before marrying. You are saying that you knew after 3 weeks of marriage that you had made a mistake? Ok, I can understand that. But what I don't get is that you waited 27 years to divirce him? How could you live in that kind of relationship for so long knowing it was not right? That is an even bigger mistake. But it really doesn't matter now. That learning lesson is all in the past. What matters is what you do now. I think you can still have a great relationship if that is what you desire. Getting to know someone can be done quickly, say in six months or a lot longer, say 3 or 4 years. It depends on the people. Some are easy to get to know because they are open from the start and have nothing to hide. Don't let a past mistake in judgement keep you from moving ahead in a new relationship. Your life is always new from moment to moment. It is when we stay locked in past memories or expect the future to make us happy or fulfilled, that we lose sight of the present moment. You need not be filled with fears of repeating the same mistakes. That is because the time you have right now is new and different. Therefore you can get new results.

Before I settle down or marry my hubby now (we've been married for 20 years), we had been sweetheart for about 5 years. I guess we get to know each other much on that long period of courtship, but then we still discover more about each other after the marriage. During the courtship, all you can show are the good qualities or positive side, but then when you are actually living together, you discover the negative side of your partner and this is the hard part of marriage. But love conquers most of the negative qualities and turn it into positive. Understanding, patience, much love, communication are some key to a successful marriage.

My husband and I knew each other for alittle over 3 years before we got married...both of us had been in a previously bad marriage and were not in any hurry to rush into another one....LOL We have a wonderful relationship...as many of you know...because I talk about him frequently....we have been married almost 20 years...

Well, my husband and I dated for 3 years before we moved in together, but that was because we were in college. We had seperate rooms in college, but did spend a ton of time over in each others rooms, so might as well be considered living together! Then, we lived together for 2 years before getting married. So by the time we were married, we knew each other for 6 years and had dated for 5 of those years. I do think it was a good thing that we had 5 years together before getting married, because we both changed a lot in those 5 years and had our bumpiest times during that period. This allowed us to find out whether we were growing together as we changed or apart.

It's probably no consolation but I moved in with my partner far too early, trouble is I was in a very vulnerable situation at the time and there was no way I wanted to move so fast, but I had lost my job and I was worried sick about paying the rent and my partner said it was stupid both of us keeping places so why don't I move in with them RENT free! I stupidly said yes and it was a decision I've bitterly regretted even till this day and that was 9 years ago now!

i dont have partner till now.

My husband and I have been married a little over a year and we knew each other almost 3 1/2 years before we got married. My mom and dad only dated 3 months before they were engaged, and got married less than 6 months later. They've been together for 30 years now. Granted, they knew each other prior to dating for quite sometime, they weren't friends and didn't really know a whole lot about each other. My dad is actually my mom's best friend's older brother, which is how they knew each other, but they didn't start dating until my mom was 19 years old.

LOL, I have you beat! I married my first husband after only knowing him for 6 weeks, LOL. It took 2.5 years to get out of that mess. Now marriage #2, I went the smart route. I finally got with my child hood friend. We met when I was 10. There would have been no first husband if he and I could have gotten our timing a bet better. Sadly at the time, he seen me as a sister and didn't want to chance our friendship. After I got married, it hit him he screwed up. Fortunately he grabbed hold of his second chance after my divorce and we have been sailing together for 11 years. My advice, make a best friend before you make a spouse out of them. Really take the time to know this person almost as well as you know yourself.

I moved in with my boyfriend after dating for about a year and 2 months. We aren't getting married anytime soon or anything, and only have to live together for the rest of the year... so we'll see how it works out.

My partner and I knew each other for about 3 years or so before we started seeing each other, I was in a different relationship and we were just friends, then I seperated from my ex and my partner and I just hit it off one day, basically we started seeing each other on one day and he moved in the next and 6 1/2 years later and he is still here! We were friends before we had a relationship and now we are still like best friends.

me and my wife had 7 years as boyfriend and girlfriend before we dicide to live together.i think we should use our head too not just the heart to make our marriage work.w

I have always been a slow mover. I dated a girl for almost 5 years before she left me for another guy. ever since then, i have taken my time in a relationship. it wasnt until i met Angel that i was swept away. in no time i was in love. now its been a year and a half, and we are on the verge of breaking up. i spend a lot of money, and she doesnt like that, she saves hers. i am not in debt, but i also have no savings account. we are engauged, but i dont know if she will stick with me much longer. im trying to show her that i will change, and i think shes starting to see it. but when we first started dating, we didnt "move in" together, but she rarely stayed at her own place. she was always sleepin at my place.

I'll talk about my second marriage, as it's the one that is the lasting one. My hubby and I met and were inseparable right from the first day. But we only dated for the first year before we got engaged. Then, the engagement lasted for another year (both of us living separately for the entire two years). We moved in together about six days before we got married, only because I didn't want to have to pay for another month at my apartment. And so far, so good.

I've been dating my boyfriend for a little over 4 years. We just moved in together last month. We are in no rish to get married right away because we know that you also learn a lot about a person once you start living with them, regardless of how long you have known that person. I've noticed that people now-a-days are waiting longer and longer to get married because living together doesn't have the stigma on it that it once did. But to be honest, I've known couples who got married after a few months to some who never plan to get married. For a lot of people it doesn't matter how long they know each other, when it's right, they just know. I still plan on taking things slowly. We are both quite happy just the way we are for now.

I knew my husband for a year before I moved in with him. But only because he hurt his leg and was laid up (he ripped his Achilles tendon while working out at the gym). 14+ years after he healed up we are still together. I don't have any wisdom to pass along, just that you have to be willing to compromise and put up with certain things in a marriage to make it work.

well, I met my guy when I was 17, in May, when I turned 18 in August we moved in together, he was 19. We have been together six years and have two wonderful children and one on the way. Some people think we moved too fast and got together too young, and started our family too young, but it all depends. We have bad times, but we are dedicated to our family and we make it work. We are still in love and we get through those bad times and it makes us stronger as people, a couple and a family! =)