Estranged Feeling In Your Own Home ?

Thiruvananthapuram, India
July 13, 2007 12:22pm CST
Feeling yourself a stranger at your own home. It is the feeling that I carry at times when I have supposedly done something which is not exactly acceptable to the entire household. Erring ...it is as simple as negligible. But the behavior of family members add to my tension . No explanations would suffice them . I begin to feel that I am an absolute stranger in my own household. Strange . Isn't it ?
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@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
13 Jul 07
No I do not think it is strange at all. all the time I was married I never once felt that this is our house/home. it was his house and I was only there as long as I acquiesced to him. Most of the time I felt more like a servant never never like I thought as a wife. I was always an outsider looking in. So no, I understand your feelings. and it is not a good one. I know mine was because I believed myself to be less than everyone around me. Now I know I am equal to anyone and everyone.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
13 Jul 07
I feel like that when I am in other family members homes and not my own, especially the inlaws. I get along with them but don't entirely feel comfortable. Sometimes I do feel like I overstay my welcome at times and prefer only to be in their home for a the most a day or two. After that I feel the way you described.
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
17 Jul 07
That's how it was for me during my first marriage. Nothing would change my husband's demeanor toward me if I had done something that he thought was wrong. And it is definitely a very lonely feeling. It's strange, yes, that in a house filled with our own family members we can feel totally and completely alone at times. People don't think it's possible until they experience it for themselves.
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@subathra (3519)
• India
30 Jul 07
sometimes i too feel like this..i feel ambrassed to sit along with them and just walk out of the place and keep silent in those situations.My home people will never accept my wordings and i feel completely lost in my own home.Its a way of punishing my home people have adoptep towards me whenever i do some blunders.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
I had that feelin before I used t live with my ex-husband and his mother. All my actions seems she is watching me and just waiting to my mistakes actions and she will criticize me. But I overcome that feeling and I'm already costumed in that way.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
14 Jul 07
Stranger? no. But i did feel much like an unwelcome guest when I lived with my daughter's father. It was his home. The bedroom i slept in was HIS and he referred to it as such. I loved him and his sons and worked very hard for us to all be a family. It was quite hurtful really. Is that what you are feeling? Maybe you could give us more to your story and we would be able to offer you better advice. You sound terribly sad.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
14 Jul 07
oops...something is up with my computer...I didn't think my first response went thru and so typed again...sorry about that!
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
14 Jul 07
no for right now I feel the same way I had to go pay light bill then to the liabrary and I was gone quite awhile but when I came in I didnt feel very welcome so I came in here t omylot lol Only grand daughter greeted me
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
13 Jul 07
This is very sad to hear. I have experienced this before while living with my older sister and it would put me in a real funk of depression. I have learned to take everything as a lesson to be learned, no matter who is really at fault.
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
15 Jul 07
Personally, I feel it is indeed strange if you feel estranged at your own home. I am most comfortable at my own home. What others did do not add any tension to me. Perhaps you are really stressed out such that you are feeling estrangled from your own home.
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• Kottayam, India
14 Jul 07
This happens in most of our homes, you brought an important subject.
@steve9737 (918)
• Colombia
16 Jul 07
I have felt like that and it is not a good, I think I will move soon of my home because I want to like alone.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
14 Jul 07
Looking at all the responses you have here, I would say it is not so strange. In my daughters fathers home I felt like an unwelcome guest alot of the time. It was very hurtful as I loved them all and tried very hard. Is that how you feel? Maybe you could tell us more of your story and we could be more helpful. You sound so sad.
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• India
14 Jul 07
yeah i do get dat queer feeling at times..sometimes without any particular reason..mayb itz jus bcos..am d only person of my age around..!!i guess datz it.!!
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• Philippines
14 Jul 07
well mid you, your not alone for feeling a stranger in yourown home..i had this borther who lives with me and partner for over years now and he act like it was his after all..he uses everything till he breaks it..he uses the computer like it was all his to begin with and we cant even distub him to say, excuse you but we need to borrow the computer for a while..DUH..he uses the computer 24/7 over the year and he just dont get enough even if we tell him to not to do things..he acts like this is his house and we are just hsaring the part of it..i completely feel like this isnt my home after all and i should get ashamed to interrupt nor intrude..ugh!
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@gsat2002 (22)
• China
14 Jul 07
its maybe your feeling.u will take it easy,then u will feel better.Good luck!!