Who's the Boss in your Marriage?

Dabebe and i both want to have things done our way when it comes to career and personal decisions. But when it comes to our relationship as partners we give each other equal chance to voice out our opinions and feelings. We make it a point that decisions are not a single lane, but a two way communication where we both have to agree and be comfortable with it. Otherwise, we look for a better alternative where both of us are comfortable with the outcome.

Hello d00d00! I don't think there is any boss in our relationship as such. And I don't think that anyone one of us has stronger voice than other on issues related to home or even other things. What we do is, whenever we have to take a decision, we put the matter open, we discuss, share our views, see potential problems, their remedies, other options available and keeping everything in mind we arrive at an optimistic common decision. It isn't always like this process, though. Sometimes I say something and my partner agrees as such and vice versa. We haven't thought over it if anyone needs to "rule" the other, there hasn't been such a need. It is understood that we will either decide through discussion or will simply accept other's opinion if one has nothing to offer as an alternative. And it works excellently to this point in our married life:-)

I do like to think that we are equals and that we both have a ssay in it all. We do share all the housework and so on since we both work full-time =) I would not want oit any other way.

we make decision together,but if we both dont agree my husband is the one who make the final decision.(",)

It seems like we both make the decisions. If it is about the house or about the cats,I usually do. If it is about electronics, trucks or building something then my husband does. It just seems to make sense that the person with the most knowledge in that area makes the final decision. If it is a big expensive decision, we both have an equal say. We listen to each other in most of the choices, though.

most of the time we consult each other and way our options before making any decisions. this way we preserve our being partners in life. try it. my husband and myself have been together for the last 31 years and we have preserved our relationship by being open with one another.

I'd have to say that it's me. My hubby has a say-so in it too but he usually lets me make all the decisions. He's just a laid back type of guy and he doesn't really care what goes on. And he doesn't mind if I'm the one that makes the decisions. But he probably knows I'd do it my way anyway. LOL

well we are pretty much 50/50 on almost everything and since we both work outside of the house, we are 50/50 on the house work as well...