My daughter is acting like a spoiled brat

well for me its healthy for grandparents to have kids around them. Dont you find any traits from her similar to your daughter? or even you? try to discover what you grand daughter's interestsd or talents and surely its going to be a lot fun. they say a children can ease the stress of life just by a mere smile from them.

I think that 'toys' are over-rated! Perhaps this is a perfect opportunity for you to bond well with your grand-daughter, spend time with her (PLAYING), and teaching her a different vocabulary. If she is having more fun with Grandma and hears good words with Grandma, she might opt to use the words she uses at Grandma's house more often. She doesn't need a bunch of toys, anyway. You probably have a whole TON OF STUFF around your house that your grand-daughter can play with. You don't have to go out and buy a whole ton of toys. You can make or find some at home. Do you have a few cleaned, empty and assorted sized margarine, cottage cheese, sour cream containers and stuff like that? Some plastic cups that you don't mind her putting in a 'toy area' from now on that will be 'hers'? Some colourful scares that you can't believe you bought 'cos they're so flashy you're afraid to wear them outside of the house? An extra little handbag, totebag to put the scarves in? (She can play 'dress up' or 'going shopping' - but should be supervised with the scarves). At your granddaughter's age, some kids feel that 'having' some toys is more important than what the toys are, because they're learning about 'sharing,' 'ownership,' 'belonging,' and boundaries. Just so that your grandchild doesn't start to think that EVERYTHING in Grandma's house is open and available to her (like YOUR KEYBOARD), can you work on teaching her that almost everything is off limits to little hands, EXCEPT certain items that you show her to be 'hers'? And then can you designate a small area that is 'kid friendly' and let her know that what is in this area is hers? If you do this, although it means some heavy restrictions, it also gives your granddaughter a 'space of her own.' If you sometimes don't have time to fully supervise, you can always say, "Grandma is a little busy right now, but you know you're not supposed to play with the keyboard. There are things for you to play with in 'Your Space' so try those." Maybe if your daughter ever DOES bring a few toys along, you can tell her that you're keeping those ones at your house (so that YOU don't have to buy toys). Keep them in a small area so they're not all over the place. You probably won't need many toys at all if you're sitting down with your granddaughter, playing with her, anyway. Just a few ideas - that shouldn't cost any money or too much hassle.

How old is your daughter?..Sounds like she needs some rules laid down..She is the mother and if she is not working while you are taking care of your granddaughter then it is her responsibility to take care of her..She is a mother now and needs to act like one..She can't expect you to be there 24/7..I can understand that you do not want to fight with her, but if you do not lay down some rules then she will continue to walk all over you..She also needs to be careful about what she says in front of the little one..The words I believe you are trying to say are the most vulgar words I have heard...She needs to grow up and do her job as a mother..It was her choice to be with the father of the child and now she needs to face the facts and work something out..I am only trying to help..I hope I wasn't rude...