indirect attempt of suicide?

Obviously I have no way of knowing if that IS what he's thinking but your theory does make a lot of sense. Just to be general about it since I don't know your husband's specifics...I think people who are suffering from depression often quit caring about their own well being. Since they don't really care anyway they are more likely to take risks that they wouldn't take if they were not depressed. Taking a high risk job is like saying "I can go do this because it won't matter if I die" Obviously someone would good mental health wouldn't be thinking that way. I don't really have any answers for as far as what to do for him. Just try to be supportive and calm and keep educating yourself about depression, just don't bring it up to him much. It will be perceived as you pointing out one more thing that is "wrong" with him. I'm sure that isn't how YOU feel but that is probably what he is thinking. Chances are, if he does seriously look into a job like that, he will have to undergo a full physical and mental health evaluation first. Hopefully that will catch whatever issues he's having and he will be given the opportunity to get help before it gets any worse. Good Luck!

I agree with something that the first respondent said about how your husband will get a full evaluation, mentally and physically, if he tries to take certain high risk job positions. If he is in DENIAL, there's not a lot that you can do to help him 'see' that his thinking process is a little morbid and 'off.' If he is completely serious about taking a position in a country where there is war, maybe you can try to support that decision - with hopes that he will gain a 'health' evaluation. Also, if you become 'supportive' of his ideas, at this point, it may help him believe that you put some 'value' toward the kind of ideas he has. He may start thinking of himself as 'valuable' instead of 'of such low value that a risky job is a good idea.' You can say that you are afraid that he might get hurt or killed in a country that has war issues going on, but that you are willing to support the fact that he has certain wishes to take a 'risky' job if it means gaining more money. You could also try to figure out if 'money issues' at home can be decreased. Often, because of how society labels a man as being responsible for finances in the family, a man thinks in different terms about 'money' than women do. For men, bringing in a lot of money is part of being a man, whereas for many women, bringing in money to the household is an 'extra' supplement to the man's income. For many women, 'money' isn't part of being a woman, but for a man, it most definitely becomes part of the way that a man identifies himself as a good man (have money/good man). If money issues are a huge problem and a man doesn't believe there is enough money in the household, it is easy for a man to feel that they are not a valuable 'MAN.'

I don't know how your guys finances are but maybe he is just worried about that and knows that demand for workers and pay level could ease any financial problems you have. On the depression side of things, he really has to seek medical or professional help. I was diagnosed with depression several months ago and wasn't really aware that I was depressed until I sought out help. It's not always the way it's portrayed in movies and tv. I could still function but had days where I wasnted to do nothing but cry, was afraid and nervous to go out even with friends and family and just spent more and more time at home. For his sake, he really has to get some help. I got put on Lexapro and it has made a world of difference for me....good luck

I guess you need to give him that chance, maybe change or environment will do him good. it would be therapeutic for him.