Should my friend pursue the girl?
By pauloahorro
@pauloahorro (232)
Philippines
July 13, 2007 11:58pm CST
My best friend has never had a girlfriend even though he's already 22. Not that he hasn't had flings or stuff like that, he just wants his first girlfriend to be someone he really really really likes.Recently he has been hanging out with this girl nd it could be said they have fallen for each other, I've never seen him so happy even with just talking about it. But there's a problem, his classmate and good friend is also in-love with the girl. The guy has courted her for three years and has been rejected many times but he just wont stop, he's a persistent little bugger. It's obvious she doesn't like the guy but my friend is about ready to give it up because he doesn't want to hurt the feelings of his good friend. My best friend is now depressed, what should he do?
10 responses
@cybermom45 (196)
• United States
14 Jul 07
If she is free and not in a commited relationship and they are both really interested in each other, he should go for it. If the other guy is a real friend he will be a real man an be happy his buddy and the girl he cares about are happy. Just because somebody else wants the best peach on the tree but can't pluck it, doesn't mean you shouldn't take it if it falls into your hands.
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@pauloahorro (232)
• Philippines
14 Jul 07
Very wise words, I couldn't have put it in a better way. I just hope he follows it, he's very stubborn even if it pains him. Thanks!
@Nathariel (13)
• Philippines
14 Jul 07
I think he should he follow his feelings. The one that he wants to pursue the girl that he wants. I think eventually his friend will understand that the girl they both want doesn't have feelings for him.I hope there would be a positive result for your bestfriend and for all the persons involved.
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@pauloahorro (232)
• Philippines
14 Jul 07
Me too, that guy has too many quirks when it comes to relationships. I'm trying to help him but the guy is just too proud and stubborn, and picky too. Anyway I'll add you as a friend alright!
@pauloahorro (232)
• Philippines
14 Jul 07
yeah he deserves the love and it's presenting itself almost in a silver platter. He's dumb not to be grabbing it right?
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
15 Jul 07
Maybe if my friend has just started courting the girl, I would give way to him. But if he has been courting her for three years and rejected many times, well it's my turn now! You've had your chance pal! Ultimately it's the girl's decision who she loves.
@pauloahorro (232)
• Philippines
15 Jul 07
If only he could say the same he'd be the happiest guy on earth
@hiddenball2 (77)
• United States
15 Jul 07
If both of your friends truly care about each other then they will remain friends regardless of what happens. If your friend cares for this girl then he must tell her. THe guy who is constantly rejected will have to deal with it. It isnt his place to be the cause of your friend not being happy.
@pauloahorro (232)
• Philippines
15 Jul 07
There are many times friendship is destroyed by a single, heck even two nations supposedly wentm to war because of one helen. I'd choose the girl over the unsure friend though anytime.
@tantal25 (838)
• United States
14 Jul 07
you know, if he really likes the girl, he should tell it to her straight that he is in love with her. and why will he give up? just because he doesn't want to hurt his friend? i think that is not a good excuse because if he did that, he'll be depriving his own happiness. and i think that every person deserves to be happy with someone who they really want. besides, it is not his fault that the girl rejected his friend a few times right? it is up to the girl's decision and of course, if ever the guy get mad at your bestfriend when for example, your bestfriend confesses to the girl he like, i think your bestfriend's friend would be really immature because there is nothing he can do about it if the girl he like rejected her. when courting a girl, he should be ready that there is a possibility that he will be rejected.
@pauloahorro (232)
• Philippines
14 Jul 07
What you said is so true that I'm thinking of e-mailing it to him..=o)
@rohitdinho (189)
• India
14 Jul 07
no it still isnt a reason to pass up this chance..itz a cruel world that we live on..no point of sacrificing everythin for some1 else..!!u gotta find ur own ways n friendz..jus mah 2 cents.1!
@rohitdinho (189)
• India
14 Jul 07
yeah..i guess so he shud pursue this gurl..luk at the end of the day itz jus u nn ur girl..no1 else..besides the girl aint happy wid d other pal..den y leave her wid him..besidz y do u wanna lose somethin u took 22 yrz to find??..
@pauloahorro (232)
• Philippines
14 Jul 07
My best friend is a contradiction by his own words, so much so that he even contradicts himself. I gues he still has doubts about everything even from the simplest of things. He's afraid of not only getting hurt but also hurting other people.Still that's no excuse to pass up a possible love isn't it?
@pauloahorro (232)
• Philippines
14 Jul 07
true.. my wife now was actually being courted by another friend of mine, she fell in love with me though and I her so I followed my feelings and true I have lost a friend but I am with the love of my life hence I have no regrets. If only he would follow my example..sigh...
