Will you leave or not?

You know, I don't really know how I would feel if this really happened to me. I would hope we could work it out but that would depend entirely on how this came about and what happened to "us". If there was a child involved, then I hope to think i would want to be part of his/her life if he/she wanted to be part of mine.

It's true that infidelity is rampant nowadays. I decided to separate from my husband because he was cheating me. If ever my husband has a child before we got married, I can accept him and even treat his child as mine. But if he has a child with another woman while we are still married, I don't think I can forgive him for being unfaithful during the marriage. There's nothing I can do to change the situation but to accept the fact that he has a child out of his illicit love affair.

If he had a child from a previous relationship I wouldn't think twice about taking that child in as well. That is perfectly acceptable. If he had a child with someone else while we were together, I don't think I could forgive that, because I would always be thinking in the back of my mind that he would do it again. However I would NEVER take it out on the child, because it is never a childs fault. They don't ask to be brought into this world... so why would you hold it against the child?

If I find love on that person, I'd gladly accept every single thing that she have in life. I believe that's one important thing to consider in keeping relationships smooth-sailing, I know it's not easy, but if both do help one another nothing is impossible. I think maturity, respect and trust for another is what both parties' need. For me, being forgiving is being humble..

my man and i both had children before we got together. and now we have a wonderful little girl that we both love very much. if he had a child out side of our relationship we would be done and over in a New York minute. and i know if i got pregnant by someone else then he would leave me. i don't think that going outside of your relationship when you are having problems solves them. if you want to be with someone else then i think you should leave the relationship

No way I would be gone. If you love me dont cheat on me. That is a big time deal breaker for me.

Very good question.. I would have to say if I love that person and he does have children from his last relationship yes i would glad take his children under me. Not just because I want too just because I will accept the person for who he is not what happened in his past. Alot of people these days do have children from their past marriages or relationships but that doesn't change who that person really is. Love is a very powerful thing at least in my eyes it is. For a person who loves children I can't say no.

I don't believe in divorce as an option for a marriage. If my husband cheated on me, I would take him back. He would be miserable for QUITE SOME TIME, because he would be cut off from everything except access to the house, but i would take him back. I feel like taking them back and making them live with you when they know they have lost your trust and your respect is a bigger punishment than divorcing them.

Actually, if the child is before the marriage, I wont mind because it means that it happen just before we got married. But if the case is after marriage, I would really have to talk to him. If he would promise that he would not do it again... I may forgive him. But if he keeps on repeating it then it's a different thing. I believe that it is also important that we respect ourselves even if we are loving someone.

It actually needs a great heart, very few people are like this.

well, love is between forget and forgive. Nothing is more than that. If you love him and he already have a baby but you still love him just a little of this. So will you leave him? Also, it might be two different kind of situation here... if he is a player and he just goes around and get the baby then you have to go too. But if the first relationship didn't work out but he has a baby and he also a good man for you, so why dont you forget about this and accept him?Share some love with another people is a good thing. Like one of my friend, she loves this guy and they have been dating for like 3 years and she never know that he has a baby at all until the last minute. But she still accept him and be with him until now. so it is depend on the person too. make the right decision and I hope you will be happy with it.

loving her is not leaving her~~~ so love her and be together with her together make happiness...make a great tommorow

You pose an interesting question, though you place infidelity squarely on the mans shoulders. Remember, women commit infidelity during their weakest moments too. Either way, I would find it extemely difficult accept my partner back. Yeah, that sounds cold-hearted but I can't honestly say that I could foregive and FOREGET. Are you really foregiving the act if you can't foreget it?