i just hate it if someone gives my daughter sodas!

I say lighten up, your child will only get rotten teath if you dont care for them , soda dose no cause diabetes, and there is nothing wrong with a child enjoying a soda from time to time. I wouldnt make it there daily drink of choice but occasionaly there is no harm in there having something different.Allow your child to enjoy life.

Zorrogirl, You are fully within your rights as your child's mother to ask that other type of drinks be substituted in place of high sugar and caffeinated drinks. Maybe you should carry her juice and milk to your mother-in-laws house with you when you go. It's this very mentality of lighten up let the kids eat and drink what they want that has this countries youth in a health crises now and struggling with obesity. Your doing a fine job, and Mom it is a fight but keep up with it, your child will love you for it in the end.

i would have to say i agree with you. my family does the same thing but i don't mind it but giving a child soda to shut them up is wrong totally wrong. I say if you are going to give a child soda it's fine but not for those reasons. I don't give my son much soda because it does make their teeth bad even if you brush them the acids are still there. But than again some juices are the same way. My sons dentist has asked me before what kind of juices and sodas does my son drink of course i am not going to let him have coke or anything dark like a 7 up or something light I'll let him have and the juicy juice is really bad for a child's teeth i think and have been told it's worse than a can of soda. but this is your child and you need to do what you think is best. Best wishes!

No you arent wrong at all...I'm the same way and get right ticked off when someone sugars them all up on pop etc...My kids arent even allowed to order pop with their meal when we go to McDonalds etc...They dont need that damn sugar ya know.....I would just tell her that under no circumstances is she to feed that to your child UNLESS YOU have given the ok to do so and you would appreciate it if she would please respect your wishes! If you've already done that and its still happening I would speak up again and speak to your husband too.....

one or two soda every now and then will not cause all those problems. and as long as you make sure she brushes her teeth then that is fine. and one or two sodas are not going to cause ulcers or diabetes. since you are so against them though, maybe let her have one just once in a while but make sure it is either diet or caffiene free to sprite. i only drink sprite because the caffinene in other sodas make me sick.

What I learned is that you can't control grandma's and how many times does your daughter see or spend your grandma just focus on your aspect & grandmas will spoil no matter what you do or what you say. You can go on and on about it but they will do whatever they want the only way to stop is by prohibiting your dear daughter from seeing her grandma which would be worse than worse than the actual soda. In ways it's okay to have sugar in moderation -too much of it throughout life can bring a health risk if your grandma is going to give her soda suggest caffeine free soda so you don't get a hyper kid home because caffeine double the sugar makes a double hyper kid. I actually went on a sugar free diet with me & my son what does his grandma do in front of my face after she knew we were on a sugar free diet give him some bite of her pie and i'm going i'm trying to break that habbit so he could fill up on more better food than sugar. Then when I only get him chicken nuggets because I wanted him to eat his nuggets first but then grandma gave him fries w/o asking I'm like mom I want him to eat meat instead of filling up on fat greasy food and I go that's why i didn't get him fries i wait til he done eating his nuggets then if he is not full I will get himself else. Then of course he didn't finish his chicken nuggets. Whatever I know the only way to stop her is to never see her again but of course as a mom I need a break more than one time break so it's like don't worry or tell your mom your concerns or your mom would be like my mom going you going to change your child into a freaking worry wart and they will be so afraid of everything. It's definetly too bad that grandparents don't respect wishes and don't feel as if your blamed if they get hurt because of their grandparents don't listen it's their fault we warned them and we tried to stop them.

you are not wrong, you are the mother so you have all the right to know and to see what food or drinks your child put inside her mouth. when my children are still little i make it a point not to let them drink sodas or eat foods that are not healthy. so when people are giving them something to eat or drink they ask permission first if that is alright. if they dont ask permission and i saw them eating the food i drink something i will not agree on i get angry that instant. as i said you are the mother and it is your right.... maybe some people will think you are over reacting.... well thats MOMS.

I do not believe that kids should be given empty calories at all. If nothing in a food is going to benefit in any way, then they don't need it and should not have it. You need to have your husband talk to your mother-in-law about this and make her understand how important it is that she follow your rules.

I actually went through this myself when my kids were younger. Their grandparents would always give them food and drink which they were not allowed to have. I would have a discussion with them and let them know that this violates the rules that you have set. I do think it is a matter of respect. I calmly did this with our family members and it worked out well for everyone. cheers,

I think what would bother me the very most is the blatant lack of respect for you that your mother in law shows. She knows how you feel and is deliberatly going against your wishes. Your child is going to learn that if mom says "no" gramma will give in. I love to spoil my grandchildren too but i would not dream of going against mom and dad's rules. There are other ways to spoil them ....do something together to create some memories!!

You are right, soda contains way too much sugar and carbonic acid. the acid might hamper correct development of the child 's bones. And just so that you know, soda aint good for you either!

um how old is your daughter if she is in her teens you might just push her away but if she is young there are bubbly water bring it over to ur mother in laws house they have flavored no cal no carbs tea i think crystle light and mix instead with water mix with selzer water will tast just like soda and is helthy i baby sit and i have took many healthy snack classes and if your feeding her like i said i dont know how old she is but now in my classes they are saying supervise children but let them serve them selfs at dinner for some reason they will not take more then they can eat i know funney right lol go figure um if that dosent work brush teeth morning and night if she is the right weight dont worrie about diabities right now if she is young i wish my mom cared for me like that because i am not over weight with cavities and might have diabities so yeah and im working my butt off to loose it for my health so keep on her if u show her good eating and health habits she will stick with them throught out her life write me tell me how it goes and if she wont eat like most kids i have some yummy recipies so email me babygirlmd15@yahoo.com

I don't blame you. That's the problem today people are giving their kids too much caffeine and wonder why they can't get their kids to go to sleep. Sodas also messes up your insides all that acid. Don't feel bad about not wanting your kids to have stuff that's not good for them anyway.

You are right. My grandson has never had soda and i respect their wishes. They have a friend that gave their daughter soda in a bottle and when her teeth came in they rotted. That is bad parenting. Tell your mother in law to follow your wishes or limit her visits. as a grandparent i know she will follow your rules. we hate lose time with our grandchildren!

You are not wrong to want the best for your child and it is hard to have to tell your mother in law to listen to you, because they will end up doing what they want anyways. Maybe buy the drinks for her when she visits with them next time and ask them to only give her the drinks you have bought her. I don't know how much that would help but there are lots of caffeine free drinks around and flavoured water too. I have to fight my husband on this from time to time because he constantly gives him sprite and coke and i prefer he drinks juice, water, chocolate milk or something other than a fizzy drink. The only time I let my son drink coke if its caffeine free. I have seen the results of drinking too much coke (my husband is a prime example and gets gout because of it). So I totally understand where you are coming from. I use to get irritated when my neighbor use to take care of my son now and then and she would always put coke in his bottle/sippy cup after telling her the first two times not to. I made sure that his bottle was filled with milk, water or juice and nothing else.

I would talk to the mother in law and ask her to please refrain from giving your child sugary sodas and instead switch to diet soda and have her drink it with a straw. This way the child isn't subjected to the sugar or the acids on her teeth. Juice is just as bad as regular soda because it's sugar (fructose) and in order to make one glass of apple juice, it requires many apples to make it. So she'd be getting all the sugar of like, 12 apples, but none of the benefits like fiber. Also, controlling your daughter's habits at home is fine. But grandparents like to spoil children. Make sure that your in-law knows that having a treat at her house is fine, but that it should be limited to ONE treat, instead of gorging the poor child as grandparents are wont to do. And don't make it a big deal in front of the child. If the child starts feeling resentful about what you're feeding her at home because she never gets any treats, she may start hiding food or eating poorly outside the home all the time.

Rotten teeth will only come if you don't brush her teeth on a regular basis, or depending on how old she is, if she can brush her own teeth. Junk food might be bad for you but only if it's an all the time thing. I think you're taking the whole thing a little too seriously, how much fun is it for a child who cant have ANY kind of sweet stuff? It's not - you don't wanna go too over the top & disallow everything for her whole life. Diabetes is something you shouldn't be concerned about, it's hereditary & if it's not in the family, then if you have a super unhealthy diet with nothing but foods that are bad for you & no exercise. I'm sure you're doing a good job, you just need to calm down a little bit & let her enjoy being a kid. One mouthful of soft drink/soda wont rot her teeth if you brush them every night!

i completely agree i do not give my daughter anything fizzy and expect people who look after her to do the same.

I know how you feel. My parents and my husband's are far away. Yet I've seen my mom do similiar things with my nieces. My sister-in-law or my brother will say no to something = like cake or something and my mom will say, "You can have just a little. " "Or its alright, just this once." She tries to veto things they say, do the grandmother thing. My husband will likely take my son for junk food now and then and say, "Don't tell Mom." For the most part though, he knows its unhealthy. We both have diabetes in our families. I feel for you hear. Its hard.

I too get angry about this subject. My daughter's main drink is water and she never drinks soft drinks, especially coke! I do give in sometimes and let her eat a little "junk", but i make sure she eats her fruit and veg. I get so angry when i see ignorant parents giving their children soft drinks and too much junk food. Sometimes i see 1 or 2 year olds with coke in their bottle!