What would you have done? Please read on...

Do not threaten, just please do call the police. I had a similar situation, and it involved both parties drinking. The long and short of it is that my neighbor was murdered by her husband. I was so remorseful for so many years afterwards. I did not want to believe he did it in the first place. I did hear them argue, she did miss work because she "fell down the basement stairs" and had horrible bruises. I did offer her a place to go to get away, but she refused, saying that she would lose her house, as it was all she had. I did not call the police when they were yelling and screaming and drunk and fighting. I turned away and did not look, I minded my own business. I was ready to call the police "the next time it happens". The next time, he took her to the basement and killed her. I should have known better. I watched my uncle try to kill his wife when drunk. I do not drink. I saw my sister go back time and again to an abusive husband, because she "loved" him, for thirty years, to the point that their children were ruined. I made sure I did not marry someone like that. I heard my neighbors argue and scream, and I did nothing. It is my fault.

Well Sweetie it is a catch 22 Situation I guess I think I would have done the same as you but it is a bit dangerous as he could have turned nasty with you and why does this Woman put up with it Ok I put up with Physical Abuse the first year but then it went to Mental abuse and I was scared of People then I ws scared to stand up for myself but she does not seem to have this Problem if she is throwing things at him Just be careful Hugs to you xxxx

i agree with what you have done and would have done the same if i were in your place. You are correct in protecting the individual rights of the wife being assaulted by her husband. No person in this world has any right to violate the physical safety of the other person.

I don't think you want to be called as a witness to a murder, right? I would do the same as you, warning him to let go or I get the police. In my opinion, I feel it is right to prevent something nasty from happening even if you are not sure whether they are playing the fool. It is still a life saved if not lost. I am sure both man and woman will be thankful to you when they realised later how foolish they have been. Well done!

I definitely do not think you are overreacting sweetheart! I just wish when i was in that situation I had had a neighbour like you! While I do not know the couple or their situation I do know that there is no such thing as a 'typical' victim - I used to fight back and say nasty things - I just refused to give in and be a total victim! I also used to be affectionate with him when we had made up - this was to try and stop him from getting upset and violent! I can understand your husbands opinion but I think you are right to do what you did but there is not much more you can do. I think you are a wonderful person and you should be proud of yourself - you may have saved her life! xxx

of course you are not overreacting! such couple is unbelievable. i don't understand why the wife is still staying with him? love? i don't think so. you don't beat or hurt your wife when you really love her, right? just close your eyes & ears and pretend you don't hear or see anything because if she allowed her husband to do so then we can't do anything not unless she yells for help!

I think that you are doing the right thing and are being a concerned citizen and neighbor. He should not be hitting her at all, for any reason. Even if they make up and kiss and whatever, he has no right to hit her. That is still domestic violence and should be reported. I do not know how anyone would allow someone to hit them. I would not want to be in a relationship where someone was hitting me.

I would have done the same thing. I would not want it on my conscious if I seen something and did nothing. I don't know why people live that way, and we'll probably never understand, but I would not want to think that I could have prevented a disaster.

If it was me i would of called the police in the first pace and told them that there was a woman being assulted in your building it think that when the police had arrived it might of given him a big shock and might make him think twice about hitting her again.The poor woman makes you wonder how many times this has already happened to her in the past and the thing is that once they start hitting they seem to continue .The next time someone as caring as you won`t be around to help her .I think as human we need to treat each other as we ourselves would like to be treated and we should protect those who need protecting .Congratulations on helping this poor woman you have shown that you care and thats so important in this day to actually find someone who will speak up.Take care and stay safe you are truely wonderful

This is not something that people should do ever, let alone out where they can be seen. You are now marked as a possible caller to the police that might make you a target. Let us hope that they both can start to act better. If it is part of they love making ? then they should stay indoors and be just a bit less noisey Good luck living near this drama filled couple.

I don't think you are overreacting. Too many people in our society prefer to turn a blind eye to abuse. It doesn't matter that they make up afterwards, as this is not the point. The point is that thios man is abusing his partner physically. Ity is against the law, & more importantly, against socitioes humanity in decent behaviour. Certainly, next time you observe outright phusical abuse, call the police.

No, you are NOT interfering where you do not beling. If you see violence, you SHOULD try to stop it. You SHOULD call the police. This is obviously a toxic relationship for them both, most of all her. They need to get out of it. It doesn't matter that they "make up afterwards." They still get into it and they still are violent.

You may have just saved her life if you had not yelled out at that moment. I tell ya, that man will think twice about doing that again, especially if others can see it very clearly. I think you did the right thing and she is lucky to have a neighbor watching out for her, I mean you can't help it anyways since they are loud and everyone can probably hear. I don't know how people can live like this but I cannot judge them for it either. It is their lives and there way of living but if I do see something that may be hurtful to someone, then I think I would call the police, even if it was not by business to do so.

Definitely call the police. Just because they look like they love each other at time doesn't mean she can't be killed in a fight. I wouldn't yell at them anymore either, just call the police the next time you see/hear anything.

No one has "the right" to hit someone else. Never. No matter who does what. Ever. You are not overreacting. I wouldn't yell at them yourself next time though. Just call the police. They are both obviously violent people and the last thing you would want is for either of them to unleash their anger on you or your husband. They both need help and you would be doing them both a great favor by just calling the police and letting them handle it. Chances are though it won't do any good. Even if they both spend a night in jail for their abuse of each other they obviously both feel as though they aren't doing anyything wrong if they make up afterwards. It's a sad situation and I'm sorry that you have had to deal with it.

you can always call the police in such a situation...make it the cops problem....that's what i would do but then again if they wouldn't bother me i wouldn't do much....way to lazy to interact in such situations etc

I think you did the right thing. Next time just call the police. Situations like that can escalate and become extremely violent and as the previous poster mentioned, they can become fatal for one party or the other as well. Sure, some people could see it as interfering, others will see it as potentially saving a life.

yeah you just did the right thing...it's hurting on the wife's side of course...good you say those words at least he stops.