Advice

If your husband was like that before you got married then its still your own fault because you knew what he was like and you still said those two little words "I do." You have no one to blame but yourself. Why would you ever even consider getting into a relationship with someone when they treat you like that? Im sorry to come off as mean but it pisses me off that people think gay marraige is such a bad thing when STRAIGHT people seem to think its a big joke most of the time.

Its great that you and your husband have an open marraige... And no i cant grasp it but its working for you two so go for it! And yes, I would say the same thing to a g/l couple if they were in the same situation. Only in America I would tailor my response to "How do think gay people will ever have the right to marry if you treat your relationship like crap?" Or something like that. And it IS shamefull. Its not just the original poster but its couples all over the world... America is probably the worst. They are always the first to speak out about morality and what not when everyone gets divorced right al left and no one cares about it anymore. It DOES seem like a big joke. And even though I have no idea what her opinion on gay marraige is - its the simple fact that she embodies the hypocracy that bogs my partner and i down EVERY DAY. And Im mad as hell, if you havent noticed. I dont mean to attack her personaly but she gets up here on mylot and sings her sad little song and dance... oh boohoo im not happy in my marraige anymore i want to trade my husband in for a newer model... boohoo... Well I'm sorry but she may be able to get pity from some people, but she DOSENT have me fooled. Maybe she should be gratefull for what she HAS instead of drilling for pity from millions of strangers.

Oh by the way is wasnt saying your marraige was shamefull, i was reffering to divorce situation. Your marraige is your business and an open marraige is obviously working for you guys so thats just great. But then again, you arent the one who wants the divorce so you are on a completely different plane than the original poster. Im not saying divorce is wrong, but it seems like she wants a divorce just for the hell of it... that she wants a new partner. Im sorry but that NOT what commitment is for... and if people think it is they shouldnt get married in the first place.