what's the hardest part of being a wife?

My husband and I have been married two years and we are going through a pretty difficult time right now. He is in grad school and I am a part time community college teacher. Which means we are low on cash and low on time to spend together. We are both always tired and cranky because neither one of us is satisfied about where we are right now, but we can't do anything about it until he graduates. He has also hit a frustrating time in grad school where things are going as smoothly as he hoped, which cause more friction in our marriage. Besides, my husband is bipolar which puts a whole new swing on everything as well. Plus we are two different types of personalities, I am extroverted and a feeler and he is introverted and a thinker? Its a wonder we got together at all. We do have our good days and we are both looking forward to a brighter future. Its driving me nuts, but I am sure we will get through this. If you love him then its worth the working out, the tears, and the yelling. I will add you to my friends and when you are feeling down you can always private message me, sometimes it just helps to talk to another wife who is going through hard times.

the hardest part is my weight gain, i feel i'm not worthy of my husband anymore since i have gained 60 lbs since i met him so it goes with insecurities, and depression! that's the hardest part then i accuse him of looking at other girls! i try to convince myself he doesn't love me anymore!

My husband and I have been married almost 8 years. To me, we have been through a lot together and we also brought what I call 'excess baggage' to the marriage from our previous. By excess baggage I mean emotional problems. We both have children from a previous--myself, 2 and him, 1. My oldest was diagnosed with ADHD and BiPolar disorder a mere 2 months after we were married. His son was diagnosed with RAD, ADHD and severe depression not long after that. We were able to help get my oldest on track and he is doing well. We were not able to do the same for my stepson. My stepson's problems were rooted more deeply than we could have ever imagined and after 2-3 therapists a year for more than 4 years and listening to my stepson say that he wanted to live with his grandmother (hubbys mother), my hubby and I finally decided that it would be better if my stepson went to live with his grandmother. With my stepson, we went through all sorts of things that threatened to tear us apart--socail workers (my stepson would tell elaborate lies to school personel who would call child protective serives and an investigation would be done--nothing ever founded but still they had to investigate it anyway--was a very stressful time), tantrums that lasted 4+ hours, stealing, running away--never ending list, believe me (or what seemed like it). Hubby was hurt at work and was off work facing surgeries (yes plural) for more than a year. Income was low and paying bills was hard. Hubby has faced being fired and loosing income for several months when we moved. Then we think things are working out and I am preparing to go back to work in the fall 2005 while the kids go to school, and I find out I am pregnant at 36. Talk about WOW factor LOL My pregnancy was very difficult and stressful---lots of heath issues were going on and then right after delivering my daughter, she suffered a birth injury because the doctor didn't catch her as she was born. She was hospitalized. While she was in the hospital, I was re-hospitalized and diagnosed with post partum cardiomyopathy (mouthful I know) and it bascially is congestive heart failure due to pregnancy and child birth. My heart was functioning at 25% (50-65% is normal). I am now as of Feb 2007 functioning at 50-55% for heart function (still scares me though). Now after all of this, my hubby has been diagnosed this year with sleep apnea (which we kinda figured), DVT which is deep vein thrombosis (blood clots in the legs), depression with possible PTSD, and incompetant valves in his legs. WHEW I think thats the highlights of things...of course these events trigger others. Bottom line is, if you love each other, you can work through ANYTHING and I do mean that. Love is a powerful thing. Don't loose faith in that love and bond. In the end its so worth it.

Hubby not loving her and have relation with another woman.

im sorry to hear your difficulties. i hope things turn out the way you want them.

I am not still with my husband and for good reasons. Im not sure what your troubles are but if you love each other and are both working together on your problems then I would say that it is worth it to stick with it. I have a very good friend who almost left her husband years ago. Back then,I really did not imagine they would work things out. They did tho and their marriage is one of the strongest ones that i know of now. They are such an inspiration.

My husband and I will be married 4 years on August 1st. Last year was very difficult for me because we were fighting a lot and ended up separating. It was supposed to be temporary but ended up lasting for 9 months! We moved back in together at the end of April. Marriage can be very hard. You have to give a lot. You have to make your spouse the most important in your life (apart from kids, ofcourse) and he has to do the same for you. You both should always put the other one first and make sure the other one is happy. If you both do that, then you should both be happy! Right now my marriage is struggling a lot because of trust issues. When we split up last year my husband lied to me a lot and I found out a lot of things he was doing behind my back. He says he wants to spend the rest of his life making up for everything he has done to me but I'm trying to figure out how to build the trust back when I already know he has lied and hurt me in the past..and that memory is always there. The memories always pop up in my head, little things trigger the memories. It's difficult but we are both doing what we need to do to try and mend our marriage.

the hardest part is biting your tongue when u know you are about to say something you shouldnt. Marriage is well worth the bad times, everyone has them.

I think patience is very much critical to a relationship. You both have to learn to give way to each other whenever a fight arises. WraithStrider http://www.wraithstrider.com

I have been married to a wonderful man for almost 13 years now and let me say that it has not been an easy ride. He was in a lot of trouble when we met and he did change a lot when we go together. I had a child from a previous relationship and her dad really made things rough on us for awhile. He filed for custody of her and we had to fight that and it cost us almost $10,000 and then a year later he wanted my husband to adopt her so of course, he did( She was 2 when we got together). That cost us another $5,000 so we had spent all of our savings and then some and we had to move back to our home state to get back on our feet. We left my dream house in a place that I loved to come back here and I was totally against it. That caused a lot of hard feelings and it was hard to adjust for me. We have also been through a loss of income and a time that I thought he was cheating on me. However, he wasn't and I know that he loves me and would never do anything to hurt me. He is a fantastic father and husband. He provides well for us and although I have to work currently, he says that with the new job he has I may be able to stay home soon.

i just married for 6 months and still have many things to learn but for me the hardest part of being a wife is dealing with my hubby's family.i come from small family(i'm the only child) and my hubby comes from a big family with 5 children total in his family.it just his family always asking money from him which is hard for me because my family is not like that.for example his 10 yrs little brother asked expensive laptop for study as the reason,lol.i was very angry when listen this but i tried to calm myself and talk to my husband and give him reasonable reasons for NOT buying him the laptop.i don't mean to be stingy but if they have proper condition to ask money then i'm ok with it.so,i'm still learning in handle these matters but i'll try my best not to look angry or things like that in front of my hubby.

We are married for just a year and a half and of course we still have our ups and downs due to money and time. He is working for a call center international account and me also for a local account. We are working in different company. His time of work is shifting he's working at night till morning and slept in morning or afternoon while me shifting also but my work is till night only so I still have a normal life and can still give time to the family though my salary is not that high but my hubby has a higher salary than mine. What are we earning is just enough but we don't and can't have an alloted money for emergencies. Though we are still figuring this out. For the time, right now my hubby's doing the best he can to have time for us. Of course to keep this family bond. We are still in our learning stage of having a family but it works well now not like before . Just put God in the center if your life and learn how to give and take and everything will go smoothly.

Hi babysunget,thanks for bringing up the subject. I am married to my husband for 20 years ( got married at the age of 17). He is 10 years older than me,i thought that when the guy is older than you, it will be more eassier to cope up. But it's not, my husband is a conservative type. It's so hard to deal with him when it comes to the clothes i wear on my work, the way i put my make up on or the words that i'm going to say. Funny thing is, i enjoyed the way he's treating me.Sometimes when he is silent and not giving any comment,i can't help wondering if he still loves me. We have 2 children,one is 19 and the youngest is 16. they were asking me how do i stand thier father.Simply because, I love him so much.Or maybe is there something wrong with me? All in all my husband is a very caring person,and loving too. And i realialized that in a marrige there is a lot more sacrifices for a woman than a man.