Bad news - AGAIN!!!
By Marie2473
@Marie2473 (8512)
Sweden
July 18, 2007 9:32am CST
There´s been so much bad things happening lately and I do not know how much more I can actually take.
I thought things was turning around and that the trip with my mom will be a good new start and that the bad things are gone for now - WELL I WAS WRONG!!!
My bf´s family called him last night. His dad is really sick and will need surgery in the middle of august. Since Turkey is a land where medical things are really expensive and there are no insurance system - or atleast not a very good one this is a huge problem.
Now my bf also has to help out, and also he has to go there in time for the operation so yesterday we were looking for his passport wich is mysteriously gone... This means he first has to go to the embassy in stockholm, then to bulgaria and then to turkey. This will mean that he will be gone for atleast 2-3 weeks and it will cost alot of money.
This is horrible for me as well since we never have been apart for that long, I might even be gone when he gets back... also it brings back memories that I do not wanna handle--- from when the ex went back to his country and really messed up.
I do trust my bf that is not it - it is just that it feels as if the bad things never stopps coming.
When are we supposed to have OUR time to be happy?
I am trying to be as supportive as I can now since he is really worried about his dad and I can see that he is hurting inside. I really hope that he will be fine...
when will my luck turn around?
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8 responses
@sunshinecup (7871)
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18 Jul 07
Oh sweetie, when it rains it pours. I am so sorry to hear this news. I know your heart is hurting right now. It's easy said than done, I know, but you have to find the positives. You will only be separated for a short time, you are not breaking up. You need to be the support for him right now, be strong for him and your self. Bad times come and some times it feels like they never stop coming. However good times will be here, you make them come if they don't come on their own. Does that make sense? I will keep you all in my prayers and close to my heart. Don't let yourself get too down, just keep in mind things could be worse. You will get through this, I have faith in you.
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
18 Jul 07
I am sure that we will get through this as well, but it hurst so much when someone u love is hurting and there is really nothing you can do to make it all better. The only thing that can help him now is to go there so that he can be with his family in a time like this. I know that I will be fine without him these weeks as well - i trust in him and his love.. but still my stomach aches when I think about the past and what happened last time. I know I shouldnt confuse them with eachother - but it is hard =(
@Backpack30 (924)
• United States
18 Jul 07
Oh, Marie, I'm so sorry that things aren't very good right now.....
It is horrible when we have worrisome things happen in our families, I really feel for you and your boyfriend.
This is all a BUNCH of stress and it does effect a relationship, but it also TESTS the relationship.
Every single thing you two go through as a couple is going to just make you all the more strong.
It is never fun to be away from your significant other, but it sounds like you are trying to be very supportive, which is the best thing you could be doing right now. Good for you.
Some partners are not that understanding.
Time will pass and as the saying goes, "This too shall pass".
You will be apart for a while, but you will come together again.
It sounds like your boyfriend has alot on his plate right now. I hope he stays as strong as he needs to be and is lucky to have such a supportive girlfriend.
During all of this, try to remember YOURSELF. You have to be supportive of your boyfriend, but you have needs too!
Do activities that YOU enjoy!
Take time for yourself while he's gone and try to get involved in other things to help your mind focus on other things.
It's easy to go crazy when thinking of only one thing ;)
Take care of yourself and, I don't know if you're a religious person, but pray as much as you can ;)
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
19 Jul 07
it's difficult to be in such a situation like where you are now marie. like one bad thing going to another and another. you always try to make things be right and one just can't make everything right. it's hard to fix things. and there are lots of worries around which make it harder for things to be straightened.
sorry about what happened to your boyfriend's dad. i understand you saying that you'll surely miss your boyfriend. it's difficult to be away from the man you love the most. i hope you can come with him though. and i hope that he will come back to you with no more worries at all. and since you trust your boyfriend, i know he won't do anything wrong to destroy the trust that you have for him.
everything will be okey one day. just hang in there marie. you can do it!... anne
@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
Oh Marie, I'm sorry to hear about this. I know how this bad things kept lurking around us. Seems like after we endured and folded up a problem, another one will come along. They kept sprouting like a mushroom.
I can emphatize with you. Your boyfriend is now the one who needs your support. I know you never ceased to support him but try to take everything in stride. I also wish for luck to strike on me but seems like my fairy mother is still sleeping. I hope you will be able to cope with another round of problem. Luck will be with you in no time at all. My thoughts and prayers are always with you.
@fairygreen (533)
• Philippines
22 Jul 07
Welcome me back Marie!!.Our internet connection in the office was cut off.Maybe you could extend help to your bf's father by prayer it will mean a lot to him.
@fredgame (1260)
• China
19 Jul 07
It's rather unfortunate that your ex, did that but i think you should this one a chance to see what he'll also do or else as you said he may go back to see you gone and in so doing you'd have lost your best chance and your lucky partner in life. so i'd suggest you give him a chance to prove your right or wrong.
good luck and cheers.
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
19 Jul 07
Remember that life happens while we are making plans. Not every happening in your life will always be good, nor will they be bad. Focus on the good and the bad will be less. I know it is difficult for you to think of being without your BF. But, remember that it is important for him to be with his father at this time. He will return to you. Huggers to you both.
@punlonnjack (1308)
• United States
19 Jul 07
I hate to say it but I know from my experiences it always gets worse before it get better. I know youve heard that before. Just try to stay positive as you can and find happiness any way you can to keep you going. Try to be hopeful and have faith. Try to believe with all you heart things will get better and it will eventually. Things change in life and we dont have control over most of it. But the things you can control stay focused. Remember tomorrows a new day. Tomorrow may be the day things turn around for you.Dont give up it only makes things worse. Stay strong and believe and it will change. Ask god for guidence and pray. When you say things out loud you would be suprised how much that can help.
