what punishment that you give to your child

Punishing my child is becoming a big challenge day by day. Usually I am an indulgent mother but not over-indulgent. Like if he wants something, I’ll get it for him maybe in 2 cases out of 10. Many times I’ll tell him that I cant afford a certain thing and explain the value of money to him. Regarding studies, since I help and guide him with it, I always say that we are a team and his success and failures are mine too, so we both should work hard. I never put the blame squarely on him. Regarding food, I made him write out a list of his liking and disliking which I matched with mine and we came to a general consensus as to what he should have for health and what I can give him for his taste-buds. I never impose anything on him, instead I try reason, logic and information. But of late, I have seen a subtle change in him. like if he is not doing something which he should, and I explain the consequences of not doing it, he bluntly says that come what may, he is just not going to do it. If he wants only chips and chocolates for tiffin and if I refuse to indulge him, he smartly tells me to go ahead …he would rather go to school without tiffin than with the sandwiches that I give him. the examples are plenty. I am at my wit’s end how to tackle him. he’s just turned 8 and I know that I can still mould him, but I don’t want to beat him, I want him to understand…how do I do it? have i become over-indulgent...maybe i should not have asked for his opinion on everything!

The punishment needs to fit the crime. I take away certain things, send her to bed, or spank. Whichever fits the crime at the time. I am not afraid to spank her as most people are.

It depends on what they are being punished for....if its something minor they may just get a scolding...if its something more major they may get grounded, no phone, no video games, no computer (other than for school purposes), no allowance and so on..

i don't have any children, i'm not old enough to have one :D . my parents usually punished me and my sis by taking away whatever was dear to us, like the television, or our allowances. sometimes we were not allowed to go out and play with friends. as i grew older, punishments were, and are, no movies, can't hang around with friends............and ofcourse, no internet.

I try to use logic, if they're old enough to understand. The punishment has to fit the "crime". If they throw their toys, maybe they should have them taken away to teach appreciation. If they willingly disobey, they need more stern limits. The way we raise and discipline our children really affects what kind of adult they'll be, and how they'll raise their children. It's our responsibility, as parents, to train them so they'll grow into respectible and responsible adults.

It depends on what they have done (mainly the "why" they did it) and how old they are. Also it is important to note the diffrences between discipline and punishment and when to use them I am pro spanking until they can be reasoned with. But i will never debate with my child, i will answer questions and diologe but what i say is how it is, im happy to explain "why" a particular thing is how it is and answer questions but I wont be challenged, at least not until they are older. It is important for a parent to remain an athority but also be loving, understanding and reasonable... if you are wrong you admit it but when you say "Go help the nabour carry there grocerys up the walk", it is not a debate but they are obidient becuase they love you and trust your judgement, and then can talk to you about any objections after they have done it. That is personaly what i believe, it has only been reinforced after i taught a few classes at a public school. When i ask a student to move to a diffrent seat or do something, it should not have to be a debate, they simply should move and talk to you about it after class if they feel the need to, where of course you should be reasonable and admit any wrongs if there were any.

well, i still havnt got any child for i am single. but with my encounters with my younger siblings, i have a brother who's only 7 and im already 26. imagine that! LOL sometimes i shout at him when im angry. but i know approaches are different from your younger brother to your real child. but i try my best to talk to him, when he did me wrong.