Mylot friends

Thank for saving me a lot of typing and trying to think how I can answer the same as you but word it differently!! That is too hard because I do it all exactly the same way you do with one addition. I check the number of friends they have and if it is hundreds and they only have been here a short time then I deny them. Usually they will not respond to your discussions or they just want a "trophy" friends list. I think some people must be betting to see how many friends they can get. LOL

I will only request a friend if I find that we are responding to a number of the same discussions and if I find that I like them personally, whether they agree with me or not. If a person requests me, I check their profile to find out what discussions they've started and responded to. If we share no commonality, I reject the request. I take mylot friends the same way I take friends in life. We have to share a mutual respect. Some of my best friends in life, are also great sparring partners, but we feel strongly about our views. Same with some mylot friends. But hate or lack of respect is never acceptable and I do check to see how people respond to discussions before deciding whether to accept or decline. I've never deleted, but I need to. I have a few people on my friends list who have been AWOL for a time and it's just a space thing. I really have no idea how many people are in my friend's list; maybe 100 but not much more than that.

I am like you. I usually only choose people that have similar interests or they have discussion that interests me. I have dropped several because of them spamming me to try to get me to sign up for something else.

I just check out their profile, sunshinecup, and see what discussions they have posted. I rarely turn anyone down because I feel that everyone deserves a chance, at least. I have not deleted anyone to date, however I do have 2 people that I am considering deleting for my own personal reasons. If I see that they are inactive for a while, I will take a wait-and-see attitude.

When I first joined Mylot I accepted everyone who asked me to be their friend. That was until one day when I received a request and before accpeting I decided I wanted to check this person out a bit... I am glad I did! This person had all sorts of graphic pictures and had posted some really disgusting questions. Not really the type of person that I would want to be associated with. I don't frequently ask other mylotters to be my friend, I save that for those that I tend to really enjoy their questions and responses. I think I have only asked 2 mylotters to be "friends" since I joined.

Hi, I've noticed your Avatar around, then saw your comments on my site...checked yours and find this an ineresting discussiOn. I am fairly new here...just over a month. So I haven't quite got a friends plan figured out yet. One thing I do know for sure is I will not want to scroll through pages and pages of them to find the one I am looking for. So less will be more for me...at this point anyway. I have somewhere around 70 friends so far and most of them are active. They contribute to disucssions on my site and I enjoy going over to theirs. My approach with friends will be enough that I can manage to respond...to respondents. I am delighted when memebers (new and familiar) that add to disucssion. After I have made comments on their comments I like to visit them and participate on their site. If I had too many friends it might be challenging to juggle that scenario. So anyway for now I not rejected a request. I even broke my own rule not to have anyone under 20...but then there are two young male members under that age with what appears to be 'emotional maturity'...and they are friends. Their talking points are well thought out...so there go the 'rules.' For me I plan to treat on-line contacts the way I do others...with the "to have a friend...you need to be one." So I will do my best to keep in touch, commuicate and appreciate. If they end up being disrepectul, abusive etc..they will be deleted. When I signed on I made a commitment to seek out 'like-minded' others...so far I feel very blessed to be participating in the wonderful, welcoming world of Mylot. Good post, informative and interesting!