Pain of Love failure; Is it momentary or permanent?

The pain of love failure is momentary .. I don't think that we keep on thinking about this for our whole life .. it's just a bad experience .. which we always remember and we definitely forget this when we get a new Sweet - heart .. I don't think this kind of bad experiences need to have place in corner of our heart .. heart is for special ones and not -- for the bad experiences or love failure kind of things. We have to understand that this happens in life and need to move on.

Only if you are healthy or well adjusted enough do you get on with your life and possibly look upon it as a growing experience. Each relationship offers us a chance to grown and some of us learn others do it the hard way. When a break up occurs it is time to take care of you. Rearrange the furniture, get the foods you like in the house now. Put the things where you wish them to be. Sleep in if you like, work more if you have the opportunity. Helps you and then in turn helps your bank account. Start a new hobby, you might in time meet someone new. When the time is right. A certain amount of mourning for a lost relationship is quite normal, Just limit it and do not drag it out. Good luck if you are in such a postiion as this.

The issue of being momentary or permanent lies in the state of emotion and the level of being hurt on it! So if one is very careful of emotional state of mind, then the pain does not affect by heart. So emotion must be well and safe guarded always, more particularly in the matterof love and relationship. Thanks without emotion.

It depends on the depth of love. When true love fails it will give a pain everlasting.

in my opinion, the pain of a heartbreak is usually temporary. it depends on the person's willingness to move on and start anew. there are some of us who dwell on being heartbroken for too long to the point of not being open to new experiences, thus a new life if not a new love. when you are in pain because of a lost love, it is best to turn your attention to other things -- go out with friends, develop a hobby, find a new interest in a sport, there are many ways. you just have to be positive and will yourself to go on with your own life. everything that happens to us happens for a reason and only god knows what's in store for us. who knows, maybe somebody better is on the way. :-)

i think it depend on the person itself. But like every pain usually time will help in healing it. At first it might hurt badly. Now for how long the pain stay inside our heart, i can't say. It really depend on the person and how bad the failure .

I think the pain of love failure is momentary. When we fall in love for another person that shares our feelings and we are happy together, the pain of a former love failure will cease.

I think that once you love someone, you will never stop to love. I have never loved anyone who physically abused me or anything so maybe in that case it's different, but I hope that I would not fall in love with someone who could treat me like that. So, based on my experiences, I don't think you ever stop loving someone, No matter how it ended. No matter what happened,I think there's always a place in your heart dedicated to that person, whether you ended it or they broke it. In some ways, if they broke it, I think a bit of that pain lingers. When I meet someone who reminds me of someone that I once had a relationship with and loved more than anything, there's this twinge of pain and it hurts almost more that someone else can do those same things. But I do not think it is enough to effect a future relationship .

I have experienced love failure in 5 different types on 5 different occasions, being cheated, being unrequited, etc. I'll only say that, whether its momentary or permanent, is what you make out of it. The pain surely is there and it is bound to last for some specific period of time and affect you deeply during that time. However, after that, it is entirely upto the person how to deal with the situation.

I can only speak from personal experience and I have to say that the pain does stay in our hearts permanently. I'm sure most people say it goes away but if we REALLY love a person how can we seriously get over it? We don't suffer as much through the years but we still feel the pain especially if we think back to a time when we were happy with a person. I think only the people with little emotions can ever get over a lost love.

for me, it's permanent with a scar. ouch! Well, maybe it depends on the person dealing with it but I still believe that it is permanent because it has been a part of your life no matter how you denied it. Somehow it happened but the good thing is that through time, the pain is lessened and it heals.

I had pain of lave failure before too. This wont be esy for anyone who been thru this before. I will tell you according to my story. I was full of pain when I failed my love. It took sometimes to forget all the pain inside me and it would be like this until I decide to get rid of it. Once I decided, I would really left all behind so I could fall in love to another person with my real feeling.

hi friend, in my view if love is one sided than failure is natural, u cannot force other to love u, and this is the position where u repond more than he cares , than he misuse u. it is always better to observe closely, before diciding to absolutely fall in love, ask for opinion, look his serious ness than move forward. if u say love is blind than failure may be one of the result. think from his position, his remarks, his views than decide. i think love is not to gain every thing, u can always loose in love still u will be happy if he is happy, as he is u r love. pain of failure is mostly long lasting ( remains fore ever in one corner of heart), but if u think and find out the reason of failure, failure will not be repeated. any away life doesnot stop, u have to stay in this world till u r life quota is there and accept the truth. than life is easier and smooth.

Loosing a love is very painful and I agree with alot of others in your discussion that in time you will learn to deal with it..I know that I've had my heart broken many times and one thing I've learned from it, I cried in private I would not give the person that broke my heart the satisfaction of knowing how much he hurt me...This person in question is my husband today..He realized what he let go and came back...It doesn't always happen like that I feel lucky..But for the time we were apart I had other relationships that didn't work but I spent alot of time with my family..I thought about him often but time healed my pain..And I just lived for me and my son...I'm sorry if I'm coming across mean or my words aren't right this is how I delt smiles

Although i never falled in LOVE till now, yet i've observed many things about it & can speak something about "LOVE". I think that if someone really loves someone & the result is LOVE-failture, he/she'll feel a permanent pain for that real LOVE. This pain'll decrease as time'll pass but this pain can never end either that person finds new bf/gr or not. I think so & i think that i am right.

do you really mean love failure? or just the hurt that it has caused? when you love, there always is the risk of getting hurt.. as they say, when you love, and you got hurt, just love some more.. love some more till it hurts no more. :) I have fallen in love and been deeply hurt twice or thrice, after that i began to think not to get involved again, but then sometimes love comes your way, not in your front door, but on the back, and you never knew it, it comes right through bum! you're in love again.. and now i'm afraid of getting hurt.. but I love this person and i'm willing to risk it no matter what. that depends on you, because in love, pain that you felt that is caused by this person, would only be healed in time, AND when you get to meet somebody new. That is according to my experience.. it depends on you, because permanently? i don't think it's nice because you'll suffer, you just have to move on, and still open your heart to the word "love" there's someone out there for you. :)

Hey I_L_U, I think the pain is passing even if you don't find a new love. +'s |:)

It doesn't last forever, if you don't let it. It does remain a memory, but it can be a running sour, a scar or a learning tool. Neither of the last 2 are bad. I met a guy I liked a lot. But, I'd already seen signs that he might have relationship issues. I put it to myself - do I want to invest a lot of time, and pain in making this a relationship that is doomed to fail, or do I confront the issue head on. When I did ask him, he was unsure - hesitant. I decided that I liked him enough to just be his friend & not try & invest more than that in him. Its been 20 years, we still are friendly, he's still got relationship issues & I'm happy & single. Its kind of like a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle. Nobody needs a relationship to be happy unless they DECIDE they HAVE to have one. Whatever your love-failure is, use it as a learning tool, let it scar over & get on with your life. None of the cases you present is worth a running sore in your soul for. You can be happy and alone or you can be unhappy and with someone. Unhappiness is not the exclusion of love. You are only as unhappy as you want to be.

Apart from the situations mentioned by you contributing to Love failure,there's one more sitaution when love fails,even though it really doesn't.Lol.It sounds confusing....Well! It happens when sometimes due to unavoidable circumstances,you and your soulmate are forced to live apart,away from each other's lives....then! The end result is the same..but the pain,undoubtedly remains lifelong.

Ok. I totally read that first line wrong and I thought you said few people had experienced love-failure and I was like what are you talking about!? I think there is no right or wrong to this question as each person can only answer from personal experiences and opinions. Personally, I think that once you love someone, you never stop. I have never loved anyone who physically abused me or anything so maybe in that case it's different... but I'd hope I wouldn't fall in love with someone who could treat me like that. So, based on my experiences, I don't think you ever stop loving someone. No matter how it ended. No matter what happened. I think there's always a place in your heart dedicated to that person, whether you ended it or they broke it. In some ways, if they broke it, I think a bit of that pain lingers. When I meet someone who reminds me of someone that I once had a relationship with and loved more than anything, there's this twinge of pain and it hurts almost more that someone else can do those same things. But I don't think it's enough to effect a future relationship and hinder it from blooming into something. So I'd say it's pretty momentary, but with a little bit of permanence.