DO YOU ALLOW your kids to play in your neighbor's house?

I will allow my kids (if I have any) to play in my neighbors house if the time is suitable. For example I will make sure that I am not causing the neighbor any trouble to look after my kids. But I would prefer if they just play at the playground with my other neighbor's kids, because being in someone's house is like intruding their privacy, and I don't like doing it. If people's kids keep coming to my house everyday, I wouldn't like it either.

Hi, My kids are older now so this is no longer a huge issue for me. However, I remember when they were much smaller I always worried about them being out of my sight and playing at other people's houses. Eventually however I let it happen as I knew it was important for their development. Not an easy thing to do however. It is much more comforting to have them all at my own place. cheers,

Exactly! I would rather have MY house be the hang out house. The one that all the neighborhood kids come and hang out in. That way I know where my kids are and who they are hanging out with. I am extremely protective of my kiddo!

hmm... this one is hard to answer. I have yet to have kids of my own. When I was a kid, I used to go over to my neighbour's home to play computer games. My neighbour was kind enough to allow me into their home to share the game console they bought for their kid. Now a days, it seldom happens anymore. People are not as trusting as before. Everywhere you go these days, every home has its doors closed. Even when we meet in the lifts, we don't greet each other. Greetings usually goes one way, never reciprocated. It is sad. If i have kids and my kids want to go over, I will accompany them the first few times so that I can at least befriend the parents of the other kid. That way, we also expand our circle of friends.

Even our neighbors are my ex-husband relatives I don't allow my kids to go with their houses. I do always want to see my kids whats doing and whos playing with. I do let there playmates go to our house to play rather go out or other houses.

No! when my kids were young that was a rule...they were not allowed in other's homes unless I knew about it. Likewise, I did not allow other kids in my home unless it was confirmed with their parents. I was always more comfortable having the kids here than elsewhere.

True, i do just that, i tolerate my boy's friends round but insist they should not make return visits or eat in other peoples homes! I have neighbours but we dont relate beyond the greetings and chatting from outside our homes, I dont want to see my children cross the line where we have kept our neighbourliness all these years!

My house is the house the children in the neighborhood come to. I prefer if I know the children and their parents first though. There are some children I don't like to have here because they're disrespectful. I don't like my child to go to others houses too often, except for a couple that are next door or across the street whose family I know well. There is one house where I don't like for him to go because the boys father isn't so nice. He thinks his child is perfect and he expects everyone to share everything with his son, but tells his son that he doesn't have to share because these other kids might break his things. So, I guess my answer is sometimes, but usually, like you, I prefer for others to play here.

I have always preferred to have the children come to my house instead of sending my children to another house. I know that I supervise the kids when they are at my house. I don't know what is going on when they are somewhere else. Sometimes they aren't supervised very well.

I don't have kids but if I had certainly I would ask them to invite their friends to come home so that I could be on to them and watch over them and if they ask me to go to their friends house I'd take a look at where they're getting into just in case.

i think its ok if you know your neighbours well & they don't have any problem in such things.i used to play in my neighbours home when i was a kid as we knew them well.they were just like my family.

you have done wise thing.i agree with you.a neighbour can be a good friend or a worst enemy also.so without knowing them fully well, one should not send his kids to a neighbour'house.

It seems pretty hypocritical of you what if both parents acted that way then the kids couldnt play together in bad weather. Perhaps you should go get to know the neighbor better to feel comfortable.

I have to say no to that. My neighbor is pretty fond of cussing and his kids have already picked up some of those words. Because I hear them cussing as well. My male neighbor already told my husband to bring our son to their house so his sons can play with our son. My son is language delayed and I'm thankful for his intentions. He thought it might help our son talk more if he is with kids his age on a regular basis. But I told my husband no, because I heard his sons cussing like veterans and they were only 3 and 5 years old. I prefer that my son is language delayed than hear him talk finally only to hear him cussing.

I do allow my kids to play at someone elses house even if I don't know the parents. It's a risk I know. I know at least half of my neighbors in my small community (117 homes all together) and we have a community directory with all the names and phone numbers. I don't worry much. Some of the neighbors have allowed thier kid to play over here even though they never met us.

Hey. Back then we had an elderly couple living next door, with grandchildren who came on holidays or some weekends that our children would play with... I would let them go next door, but they were'nt to go in the house... Although they were a very nice couple I would never allow for our children to go inside there home, incase they touched something and broke it, which they probably wouldnt off, and for the fact that I was not comfortable having our children out of my eyes view, even though they the eldely people spoke to us, and said hello and were our neighbours, I just didnt allow for them to go inside... On the other hand, I would let there grand children come into our house and handout ice creams and let them watch movies, I even invited the old people over so they knew there grand children would be safe here with us, and they would appreciate us letting the children in our home... So really for me I think it was more about being cautious and aware for our children saftey... Because you never know when you might have weirdo's living next door, and strange things can happen behind closed doors...