Have you ever been..

yes i have! and i can sleep well at night, my head is aching in finding ways how to fix them... i really dont remember exactly how i fix them, but what i do remember was, i try to keep to myself what they were saying to one another, whenever i'm with one of them , i tried to steer the topic out of the other friend,,.. coz you see, they're friends, they will reconcile their differences in time, even if you think one of them is right, let them realize it to themselves, without you telling them,

A pretty awkward situation puchapox, my brother and his girl friend are both dear to me, every time there is a quarrel, each come to me to seek support but I find it extremely hard to take sides, I just remain on the fence because they are all very dear to me!

My best advice is NOT to take sides even though you think it's your girl friend's fault. If you want to continue to be friends with both of them, the best thing to do is to tell them straight that you really value their friendship and would hate to have to lose it over something like this and that you want to continue to be friends with them both and what they are doing to you by telling you about all their problems, quarrels and expect you to give advice and hopefully take their side is wrong. So, tell them if they want to talk bad about the other person, they should go to someone else instead and not tell you these things as it puts you in a bad position. I know cos' I have been in a similar situation before. And I took that approach and it worked. I don't let them talk about each other when they are with me cos' I tell them it's uncomfortable and I would rather just enjoy the time when we're together and not spend it talking over such sensitive stuff. They continued to war with each other and I managed to maintain a decent, civil friendship with both and not be sucked into their silly problems.

I have experienced situations when friends have been at war and I was caught in between. I had one situation years ago when a friend A fell out with friend B and friend A told me to stop talking to friend B. When I told friend A that I had no intention of breaking off my friendship with someone on someone else's say so she was furious and said she felt I was being disloyal and because I had known her longer I should side with her and not friend B, she also said that I had met friend B through her in the first place so I should dump her! I told friend A that even though I actually did not feel friend B had done anything wrong but friend A had done something wrong I wasn't siding with friend B and I didn't appreciate being told who to have a friend or not (and more especially I didn't actually meet friend B through friend A). It all ended with friend A having to back down because I said I would not choose between them and note that friend B (who was in the right as far as I was concerned) never asked me to make any kind of choice about who to side with! By the way this did not happen when I was 12 but when I was about 28 years old LOL!

if i were you i'd simply tell my girl friend that she's at fault and she should appologies without the knowledge of the guy. if she agrees, that'll be perfect abitration but if she refuses to accept her fault try and be neutral as possible. when you meet any of them try and avoid talking about the dispute and if any of them raises the issue especially the one at fault let her know her wrong but let them know that if they'll not settle the problem amicably, you're not interested in talking about it if you meet them. i think the thoughtful one will accept a change of attitude. good luck.

i surely had it. mine was worst because it were my cousins fighting. both are close to me.i didnt realize how serious the argument was til i saw them fighting. shocked,i was stoned to my sit. it was the neighbors who called the police. bobong who was so big was now giving a blow to elmer whom the family calls skinny man.i gave them treatment to their pains and aches.

Just stay strong and say you are not going to side with either as they both mean a lot to you and you couldn't possibly choose a side. If they aren't happy with that tell them tough luck. I think you should also tell them that asking you to pick a side is selfish as you are not involved in the argument. That way, if and when your friends make up neither one can resent you for siding with the other.

yes i did...and i didn't side with any of them...i don't want to be bias that's why...

the best thing to do here is to remain neutral...even if you are not...do not get involved....it is not your battle. Let them both know that you are not going to take sides and that you care about both of them and then back off.

you don't have to side with anybody, stay in the middle and try your very best to help patch up things between the two of them.

you had better tell them what you think and your views in front of both of them, then ask them say out their own opinion face to face and let them think about the situation if they were each other,have a try!