is marrying again an option for you?
By jncdavao
@jncdavao (115)
Philippines
5 responses
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
20 Jul 07
I would consider it if the relationship was right...it certainly would NOT be for the sake of my kids though.....and I quite frankly never could understand ppl who think like that....My kids DON'T need me to be married or even in a relationship in order for them to have happy healthy lives..
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
20 Jul 07
I feel exactly the same way! In fact, kids whose parents jump into relationships that aren't right for them just to be in a relationship for the kids are going to know if their parents aren't happy!
One of the excuses people make is that kids need role models of both genders, so if the other isn't in the kid's life, they're missing something. However, role models come in all shapes and sizes, and often a good role model for a kid can be someone other than a parent or step-parent.
@ctiu80 (216)
• Philippines
20 Jul 07
hmm.. its really depends on the situation.. if ever the first marriage didn't work then you found one that's very nice to you and especially to your children maybe its not bad at all to remarry again. But to think just to the SAKE word i don't think that's not a good reason to get married again. Surely that marriage will not work again. Just make sure that you marriage him or her when he or her love you and also love your children... not just you. =)
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
20 Jul 07
It's very hard for me to imagine my current marriage ending, but if it did, I'm sure I would consider marrying again at some point. I am only 26 years old, and I can't imagine spending the rest of my life alone just because my marriage didn't work out.
However, if I did marry again it would be for my sake and not the sake of my child. I think my child would be just as well off either way, whether I remained single after divorce or married again. Even if my marriage for some reason broke up, I would trust my husband to continue to be a good father to our son, because if I didn't believe he would do so, I wouldn't have had a child with him in the first place.
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@lifebeginsat40 (1)
• United States
14 Jul 08
I am in this situation. I met my ex when I was 13 years old, married him when I was 20...had two children with him prior to marriage. After 24.5 years of marriage...he kicked me out and I didn't go back...best decision ever. I have now met (actually knew before, good friend) a man who lets me be me, doesn't try to change me. He has never been married before (49 years old), but proposed to me last December. I excitely said yes, but we are taking it slow, no date set...when the time is right we'll get married. It did take a special person to make me want to make this commitment again...and it is a commitment...like holding 2 full time jobs, it takes work from both partners. So, I guess you could say I'm doing it for my sake, my happiness.
