what should i do next?go on or stop?
By maxwell12
@maxwell12 (40)
China
July 20, 2007 9:25am CST
I lived in a big city which I like very much but my girlfriend live in another big city which she likes very much but I donot like .She asked me to come to her city and live with her, but I think I cannot give up my career in my city. Afer careful consideration I finally came to her city because I donot want to lose her and I tried my best to adjust myself to this new place , however , the reality is I really donot like this new city at all ,what's the worse,I cannot find suitable new job in this city,the burden makes me feel sad everyday.What should I do ,live here accompanying my girlfriend or go back to my loving city?
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@teison2 (5921)
• Norway
20 Jul 07
This is a very difficult situation. I think the two of you need to discuss and think this through carefully. If there is no way you will be happy there changes has to be done. If not you might end up restenting her - she is the reason that you live somewhere that make you feel so miserable. I wish you the best of luck, and hipe that you can work out a solution that allows you to stay together, and both be completely happy.
@maxwell12 (40)
• China
20 Jul 07
Thanks for your comments. I have hesitated that for a long time ,there two reasons for living here, one is I love her indeed,the other is she said and I think she cannot leave me ,but...but I really cannot find pleasure in this city.I have asked her to move to my city ,but she refused,is she selfish?should I give up this love and persue my career?
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@teison2 (5921)
• Norway
20 Jul 07
I do not know why she does not want to move, so it is hard to say anything about her motivations. maybe there is some middle ground? Maybe you could start over as a coulpe in a completely new place? To me, nothing is more important than family, friends and love and health. Other things does not mean much if I do not have these four. But people are different. You'll need to find your way. I believe the only way to reolve this is to have an honest and open conversation about it.
@maxwell12 (40)
• China
20 Jul 07
I have asked her for reasons but she said no ones, I am quite confused .I am young and I believe I would prefer my job to love ,because I think success in work can bring me sense of pride, even I was happy staying with her at most time,but to me ,my own future may be more important,I have decided to leave her back to my city ,but I willnot break up with her at once ,I hope she could think of something to me .
Thank you very much!
