What do you think of online dating?
By jazzyjess
@jazzyjess (199)
United States
8 responses
@samar12 (991)
• India
23 Jul 07
Yes I can happen when people meet on the internet. I have seen some people meeting online and getting married later on and they are successfull in it. For me I don't think I will meet someone whom I don't know. I am very scared of these things and I don't even chat with other people whom I don't know onlnine. I don't feel safe meeting people whom know online. I tried meeting some one, not dating but just freinds but when I could not have the guts to meet the person and I just came back from that place so I for me its s big no.
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@TheUhgii (30)
• United States
21 Jul 07
I think to really get to know someone, you need to spend physical time together. To pick up on their habits, and truly get to know them. The internet is so... anonymous, in a sense. It allows anyone to appear any way they wish. I've never believed in online dating sites, or any online relationships for that matter, though I do enjoy finding people to chat with and such on the internet. I feel it's extremely social, but just lacks in what could make a relationship work. The majority of relationships I've witnessed falling apart were due to time apart. My friend who went off to boot camp, my other friend who went and studied abroad... all of those led to the end of rather lengthy (1+ year) relationships. You'd think that trust alone could pull them through, but it's not always the case.
@jazzyjess (199)
• United States
21 Jul 07
I was in a long distance relationship once and it was quite difficult, like you say, to keep it going. Because both of us had our own lives separate from each other, and we didn't spend a lot of time actually together. It was hard to get to know him, because when we met, he already lived a couple of states away -- he just happened to be on a business trip in my state. I can imagine that this is somewhat similar to those who meet online that live distances apart, except for those people meet first on the computer--and like you say, it's hard to tell who is genuine on the Internet without actually seeing them in person. I think body language is a really large part of a relationship and you don't get that on the computer!
@slavezero (833)
• Philippines
21 Jul 07
Yes I think its possible to love be found in computers... its just the way of crossroads... and relationship itself would depend on both of you and not on how you met each other.
I guess there are times that love moves i extraordinary way... you just have to be careful...
@jazzyjess (199)
• United States
21 Jul 07
It's kind of like...computers don't kill people, people kill people...or something like that. I can see your point.
@jazzyjess (199)
• United States
21 Jul 07
Yeah, long distance relationships can be really difficult.
@HereLiesSlobe (71)
• Canada
21 Jul 07
I think its a good thing as long as you can handle it. It does take a lot of work if you choose to be in a long-distance online relationship. There's the general work involved with a relationship where the two people don't see eachother much, and then there's added the trouble of having to make sure the person is in fact who they say they are.
I was once in an online relationship with an amazing girl who sadly lived two hours away from me. I never met her in person but I do cherish the relationship we had. Even though it didn't work out, we're still friends, and I find her to be one of the most amazing people I know.
@jazzyjess (199)
• United States
21 Jul 07
Thanks for the comment. So, this person that you dated, online, you're friends now? Have you ever thought about meeting them now that you're friends? Or, would that possibly ruin the connection you have with each other?
@Uskglassraven (39)
• Philippines
21 Jul 07
it COULD work out. It depends on a lot of circumstances but i think one of the biggest factor would be the sincerity of both parties. one thing that sucks about online dating is the anonymity that we enjoy. it's possible to take on a different identity. But as i said, it could work out :) i think it'd be sweet if an online relationship can survive and blossom into something more
@jazzyjess (199)
• United States
21 Jul 07
Yeah, it's tricky. I think it would be easy to be deceived by someone online. Although, there are honest people out there looking for a connection too.
@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
23 Jul 07
I think it is fine- I mean why not use the internet to find love- we use it for everything else. I wouldn’t do it- but that is because I’m happily in a relationship- I have a friend who tried it and she met some great guys- But she isn’t with any of them- but why not try it.
@jazzyjess (199)
• United States
21 Jul 07
Yeah, I prefer to meet someone in person first. Although, my aunt and uncle both met people online who they ended up marrying and having families with. So, it does seem to work for some people... I've become friends with people that I've met online, but they were never quite how I had imagined them to be. It was almost like meeting a pen pal or something...
