Half stepping fathers

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It really pains me to see children waiting for there fathers on visitation days. I am talking about fathers who do not live with their children and have visitation rights, but never show up. Or make a sorry excuse why they can't take their child/children for a weekend or whatever the time frame. And what really kills me is that these children will wait, wait and wait more. They truly believe he will be there for them. They even pass up other events that are offered just so they won't miss him. What these fathers don't understand, is that these children grow up and become damaged adults. Yes, I know we all heard that you shouldn't take this baggage with you in your adulthood. But the pain and the believing are still there. Especially girls who are waiting for their fathers. This starts low self esteem. Bad enough young girls can fall into the trap of low self esteem anyway. They become women who have problems in relationships, eating disorders, child rearing, etc. As for boys, they too have problems in relationships and lose direction. There is so much that damages these kids in so many different ways. Why can't these so called fathers step up to the plate and be there. Don't they understand that it is more than a responsibility. It is a relationship and a future. I see one of my friends that as a child she would wait for her father to come and pick her up and spend the day with her and he never showed, never called. She is now 51 years old and still tries to see him and he still stands her up. When she was 40 years old that is when she found several other half siblings that he had with other women. Guess that is why he missed all those visitation days huh? Too busy making other kids. So now I watch my granddaughter sit and wait, wait and wait some more. Come on people. Wake up. If you don't pay your dues today, tomorrow will collect. And tomorrow adds late charges and interest.