Mylot friends deleted!

1. No. I would only PM some of the ones who were real friends and let them know. 2. No. I would not post these kind of discussions/responses. 3. No. I like to be aware of their discussion just to see how far they go in being idiots or just plain disgusting. 4. No. Again I do not make these kind of posts.

I would probably make a goodbye post if I was leaving since everyone would obviously miss me and wonder where I am. I don't want anyone doing anything drastic out of the distress of not seeing me on mylot!

Hey Sunshinecup, I've not been on Mylot for a bit, and have been busy with another writing gig and hanging out with my family. Answers to your questions: 1) No, I would not create a goodbye post to let friends know I was leaving. If I was leaving, I would create a PM and send it to the friends that I've pretty much tried to respond to when they've had discussions that were engaging and/or up my alley. 2)This is another reason why I've spent less time here. Many of the discussions, lately, have returned to the old days when there were poor quality discussions and meaningless discussions. It's not just a few of my friends doing it, as I was choosey from the get go with who I added as friends, but it's other members doing this as well. It just makes Mylot not so nice a place to come to anymore. I am glad that most who are on my friends list do not spam with nonsense to make their daily quota of posts a day, but many of my friends have moved on from Mylot. 3) I don't regret having friends on my list that I do not respond to every one of their discussions. The main premise of Mylot was to have meaningful discussions, not respond for the sake of responding. If I have nothing new to add to a discussion, or the discussion is something I am not too familiar with, I am not going to type up some junk just so I can say I responded to all my friends. I would think that would be rude of me to do--I want to be able to add something of quality to discussions, not some dribble. 4) Just like offline, I try not to be cruel or rude. I may be sarcastic and witty, especially when it's a political debate, but I would not be cruel and mean spirited with my responses.I find that if you have to stoop to mean and cruel you basically lose the battle or debate, because the mean and cruel will overshadow any intelligent comment you may have tried to make. I think if Mylot becomes such a place that you have to dig so deep to find a meaningful discussion to respond to, then it will truly fade from existence. I'm finding myself hanging out at another forum more often now when I want to debate, discuss, or type out my views on a topic.

I did put a post on about leaving to finish my degree and it did not deleted. I have made some great friends on here and I wanted to tell them I would be back later instead of just going. I am not very good at putting discussions on, so this will never happen with me.LOL I am very loyal to my friends and everyone who requests me as a friend I will answer their discussions, but if they never reply or answer mine I do tend to give up as I don't see the point. I tend to choose friends that have the same interests as me and so I would not be bothered if they read what I say. It's not as if I am insulting them and when do we all think the same anyway. I suppose respect for fellow mylothians freedom of speech is the ideal situation and I tend to take this stance unless I read their responses and all of them are against what I believe, then I will hit the delete button. I must admit I am going to delete some of my friends who have been dormant for ages. I would never delete you my friend, I enjoy your discussions and have often read your responses to other posts and I always agree with what you say..comrade!LOL

I think I have about 60 or so friends and they were all carefully chosen. Some are not active but I still keep them. I've been inactive for awhile here myself and I expect that some of my friends will come back from time to time. I try to respond to at least some of their discussions as much as I can. (It's easier for me in the winter when I have more time) In fact, almost the only discussions I look at are the ones posted by my friends. 1) I would probably do a private message good by to my active friends if I were leaving for good. 2)There's not enough profet here to get obsessed about. 3)Sometimes, I just hope they understand, I don't have the time to answer them all. 4)I try not to do crude or rude posts. The only time I would do that would be a sarcastic response to a crude or rude thread.

Good for you for the cleanup- I do that too. I have one inactive friend I can't seem to delete though, because he was great and I hope he comes back. I'm worried about him though, he went from posting every day to not logging in for the past few months. Yes, I would post a goodbye to my friends. I worry about Mylot pals when they disappear for more than a few days, so I even posted when I went on vacation for a week. I would never spam or post crap. Yes, I have a few friends I should delete because they never post anything that interests me so I pretty much never respond to their discussions. And one friend downright depresses me. Not you though, sunshine! (:

i just deleted 6 pages of friends took me to 60 friends left. no one had been on here in months or responding to my topics so i deleted them.

Wow-- great discussion- I would not post a discussion telling everyone I'm leaving- I would tell the friends that I have the most contact with- so they would not be worried. I would never do this- I am lucky to start 2 discussions a week- I do have some friends that went money hungry and post alot and never respond to our responses- I try to respond to as many discussions as I can (friend ones anyways)- if a person keeps posting discussions that I can't respond to I may delete them- I do feel bad. I do not make rude posts- I try to be respectful even when disagreeing- It is what I ecpect of others also.

Hi Sunshine! Wow, that was a massive cleanup. I need to do the same, but am in such a time crunch that I can't just now. As for your questions: 1. If I felt that I was leaving myLot for good, yes, I would post a goodbye to the entire community. I would formulate a more private goodbye that would be sent via private message to my closer friends. 2. I would never (I don't think!) start 20 nonsence posts per day...so there would be no thinking about the effects on myfriends! I suppose,if I really got desperate and did that, I would feel very guilty about it and its effects on all of myLot...friends and nonfriends. 3. I very much regret that I have friends on my list whose discussions I haven't gotten to. I have very little time on myLot now that the beginning of a new school year looms around the corner. Meetings for faculty have already started..especially in my department as we are doubling our admission by adding a never-tried January class in addition to our August class. I try to respond to at least one posted discussion by each friend if I can...but of course there are days I can't get to all of them. 4. I don't make cruel and rude posts. I write nothing that I wouldn't care for my friends (or non-friends) to read!

I try and answer most of the discussions that my friends start. I really dont care what they have read that I have responded somewhere else. I am who I am and thats that if they dont like it then thats their bad luck really..

So far I haven't removed any of my friends, although there are some that I probably should remove because they have been inactive on the site for a few months. I would never remove them for not responding to my discussions, because there are times when I can't respond to theirs. I only respond to discussions I can relate to, and even though they may post discussions I relate to at times, perhaps they haven't posted one in a while. I would never consider spamming the site, or become obsessed with making a profit from myLot. The earnings here have dropped so drastically this month that I won't even be reaching the minimum payout for the first month since I have been here, but I surely won't consider trying to make up the difference by posting nonsense. I would hope that none of my friends would do this either, or they probably would be the first ones to be removed from my friends list. I don't regret adding my friends, because I do respond to them when I can. Some I respond to more often than others, and some of them it is hard to respond to, but I will find a way to respond to most of them at some time or another. One that comes to mind in particular gets very few responses if any to his discussions, so if I can manage to respond, at least it gives him some sort of response where he might not get any. I don't have to worry about making cruel or rude posts because I don't make them. The closest I have come was in responding to such a post when I tried to re-explain my point several times. Eventually I walked away when it became obvious that the other member wouldn't stop without having the last word. I didn't come here to argue. I think that if we can't get along, we shouldn't be here in the first place.

you have done such a good thing for yourself. one of this days when i'll have time i'll do the same. Having this friends that never respond to you or that post nonosense post everyday it's not ok.

1. I think that is the only decent thing to do. Loads of people have gone through my pc/laptop over the years. Most of them disappeared as well without a goodbye. Some of these as close friends as you can be online. It's a sad shame never to have the chance to say bye and good luck. 2. Well, i do not consider my friends, as that question to me is never going to happen. 3. No, not really. They don't respond to my post, so why should that worry me. Soon i will have a clear up too, and then im past that problem too. 4. Not at all. My freinds know me and will laugh in the spirit most of my comments are made. So being a little rude/cruel/cheeky dos not bother me at all, wether its coz i am pissed off, after a laugh or just in one of them moods.