Question for you daughters about your mother.. Does she drive you nuts?
By UDDERONES
@UDDERONES (887)
United States
July 21, 2007 7:45pm CST
My mother calls me everytime she is bored. She is on disability and has alot of health and mental problems. Some she brings on herself with medicine, etc.
Everytime I talk to her, she starts telling me about her health problem (which involves her Sh*t*ng her pants) I told her tonight "mom could you please stop saying that to me and my husband" it is nasty and I know you can't help it but we would prefer you to say you had an accident. She says this in front of friends and everyone. It is embarrasing. She started yelling at me and I told her I didn't mean to make her mad and I know she has problems but if she would please just use another term for it.
She then started crying and said no one understands. I told her she was probably right that no one could understand unless they were in that situation. Then she said she had to go and hung up on me. Now I feel sorry for her. But she is so moody one minute she is crying the next she is SCREAMING at the top of her lungs at me for something stupid. I just can't deal with her anymore. I know I will miss her when she is gone, but how do you cope with this and handle it?
Do you get along with your mother? If not how do you handle things like this? She will not let us go to the doctor with her to find out any info on her health problems.
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10 responses
@raychill (6525)
• United States
22 Jul 07
My mother and I completely butt heads. She calls me to ask me how I am, but then doesn't actually want to listen to anything I have to say because she instead is talking to someone else in her house (normally my nephews and/or brother.) and then she just cuts in to go on and on about my nephews and my brother and his wife. I don't get along with my brothers wife which means my bro and i rarely speak. This is not completely my fault and I'm the only one who ever put in effort yet my mom is constantly on me about doing more to make it work and I'm so tired of it. I love my nephews but you know what... I Don't have kids and I don't want to talk about kids! Great I'm glad my nephews are cute and said this or that. because then it inevitably turns into how I should have kids. oh she's already willing to buy me a test tube baby! I'm 25 years old!@! not hopeless YET! nor do i even know if I WANT kids!
Then we inevitably fight.
because I'm careless and i'm this or that and 10 thousand other things.
I don't have the same situation, but I've found it best to just pretend like i'm listening, nod and respond like I heard everything...and then try my best to change the subject.
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@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
22 Jul 07
My mother just lost my brother last year, so she watches over me like a hawk now. I love my mother, but she needs to give me my space. Another that drives me crazy with my mom, is that she bends to my step-father's will, it drives me mad.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
22 Jul 07
Sometimes my mom can get on my nerves but I think its because she is lonely. My dad works during the day and she is retired so she doesn't have much else to do but sit at home, attend to the house and sometimes volunteers at the local Salvation Army thrift store. Everytime her and Dad have an arguement she texts or calls and I have to calm her down. She is very sensitive and has been through a lot and almost had a nervous breakdown a few years back and also lost her father at the same time too, so I am careful when around her and when talking to her too.
I guess it takes a lot of patience on my part and just be there to listen to her when she needs to talk. That is what I do.
@kitty1234 (1476)
• United States
22 Jul 07
My mom drives me nuts sometimes but she is the first person I think of when I have a problem! She always has ideas and sometimes they are a little old fashioned, lol. She has always been there for me but sometimes she is there when you just want some space. Love ya, Mom!!!!
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
22 Jul 07
I never got along with my mother growing up. She was very critical and demanding. She never had a kind word to say to me ever. I grew from trying desperatly to please her to not caring either way what she thought of me.
Now that we are both much older, she has alot of health problems and does not get around well. Now she has alot of time on her hands and wants to be my best buddy. She calls me all the time and her conversations are all about all of her health issues and her diet etc. She goes on and on and on.
I listen to her because she is my mother. I do take her to the doctors and I do try to make it a point to visit her when I can because she is my mother. And I pray all the time that none of my girls will ever feel like this about me. I do love her and I know I will miss her when she is gone but I really wish we could have been closer. She is really sweet to me now and I feel guilty that I don't feel closer to her than i do.
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@jeanena (2198)
• Bucklin, Kansas
22 Jul 07
My mom and i live in the same tiny little town.She knows everything I and my family does . Sometimes she drives me crazy too , but i know we make her just as crazy. We have a pretty good relationship , I know when she is gone i will miss the heck out of her. Sometimes I think maybe she should let me make my own mistakes without her telling me about it.
You know maybe some of the other people are right , talk to your moms dr. Go with her to see the dr.(make her let you go) Tell them what is going on with her sometimes it is for the best. You didnt say how old your mom is ??
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
22 Jul 07
I have a very strange 'relationship' - my mother, that's my birth mother, I live 20 miles from and haven't seen or talked to her in 2 years - there have been times we've not talked for 10 or more years.
I was raised by my father's 3rd wife, my step-mother, they divorced years back but she and I remained close, she's my 'Mom'. I talk to her regularly, spend holidays together, and miss her often - we both have busy scheduals and don't talk daily, when we do we are mother and daughter and best of friends.
@dreamleaper17 (702)
• Philippines
14 Aug 07
I love my mom, no doubt about it. But she can really drive me nuts sometimes. Actually, I used to associate 'resentment' with 'mother.' There are times really that I just cannot understand her, like yesterday when she got home and started ranting as if I was just a lazy fat a** in the house (which I'm not; it just so happened that I got suspended from work and she had to pay the bills that I used to pay). I wasn't able to hold my peace and I talked back so now she's not speaking to me.
I know that as her daughter, I am to honor her but sometimes, I can't help but tell myself, "I know better than her, so why follow?" But we know that Scripture tells us in Proverbs, "Pride goes before destruction.."Our parents were given to us by God as a blessing and as the cliche goes, there is always a reason for everything. We are to love our parents unconditionally, in spite of our circumstances. When she starts screaming, we have to muster all the self-control to deal with her gently and calmly. Sometimes, simply telling her the words "I love you" is more than enought to comfort her.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
15 Aug 10
No she never, because she is just 1 years old..so may be in future!
