Embarrassed To Be Seen Out With Your Parents.

I remember being embarressed to be seen out with my mother, but I had a very good reason for it: she refused to wear proper clothing. Seriously, my mother never wore enough clothing when I was a teenager, and it was pretty darn embaressing. We used to have those typical arguments you hear between teenager daughters and mothers "You're NOT going out in that!" except it was me telling her that. =p I was only ever embaressed to be seen with my father if he was drinking, I think. Otherwise, I never minded. In fact, going places with my father once he stopped drinking (and therefore being an abusive jerk) was something I looked forward to. I'm sure someday my son will be embaressed to be seen with me, but I have many many years to wait before I have to worry about that, seeing as he's 1 year old now.

I love it when they don't want to walk with me. I make it a point to start dancing or singing in the mall to really embarass them. When we drive, I put the windows down, put on music and dance behind the wheel. I only do it if they are in the car with me because I love seeing how they will react. When they beg me to stop, I start to bargaining process. If you take out the trash when I ask, I won't sing in public. If you wash your dishes when I tell you to, I won't dance. You get the idea. Having teens can be trying, but it can also be a hoot!

ya dont worry its normal. being just 21 now i know wat he feels. its just dat d kids grow up and wanna do stuff alone so dey can show d parents dat dey r capable of doing it. dont worry he still loves u :) take care

It's not something that I ever went through as a teenager. I was always real close to my mum and we actually hung out a lot and that caried on throughout my adult life until she passed away. I am though starting to see a little bit of it in my daughter. She is 9 years old and is already starting to cringe at my antics. I love to carry on and make a scene when we are out and she lookd at me the other day when we were at a restaurant and I was singing particularly loudly and says..."Daddy, will you please stop, you are embarassing me"...it's only a matter of time before she disowns me completely.

Oh I think most kids do go through this phase. I went through it when I was 12. Our house was near my school and one day it was raining very hard, so my poor mum decided to do the nice thing and meet me at the school gate with a rain coat so we could walk home together without me getting wet. Well, I was so embarrassed to see her there that I refused to walk with her and got soaking wet, which I preferred to being seen walking home with my mum. She rightly told me that was the last time she was going to do that for me! Ironically, later on, when I was about 16-17, I enjoyed going shopping with my mum.

I guess this depends very much on the culture that one lives in. In my country, it's not uncommon to see parents out with their children of any age. These can range from the very young toddlers to teenagers to adult children, sometimes with their own offspring in their arms. There isn't much pressure for teens to avoid being seen with mom and dad. Although they usually prefer hanging out with their own friends than their own parents. I think your son is just going through a phase when there is a need to look independent of mom and dad. This should change when he's older.

My 3 boys have been teenagers for quite some time pal , But if my memory serves me correctly they all went through this stage at some time , so yes I think it's normal lol xx

My Son was a bit strange about it lol I guess it is not the In thing for Boys but my Daughter has always loved and still does going into town with me and that and going shopping I think it is a Boy thing Allsorts lol

No my kids aren't doing this to me yet, key word "yet". I know they will hit that age and try it. I did with my parents so I reckon they will with me. I however have a plan. I will give them a choice, either be seen with me as I am or Momma will put on some Daisy Dukes, a tube top, red lipstick and some heals and they can be seen with me like that. Plus I will be sure to let everyone know I am their Momma. :oD

I guess some teens do go through a stage like that. I don't think I did, or maybe just a little bit. Now I'm an adult and I'm always accompanying my parents to eat out, watch a movie, or buy groceries. I love my parents and I wouldn't be embarassed to be seen with them, and my friends probably feel the same way. If other people think that's uncool, well, that's their opinion.

yes its normal that teenagers reaches a phase where they do not want to be seen with their parents. give it a while and they will reach another phase where they think its cool to bee seen with their parents and dying to introduce you to all their friends. i know i did it when i was ..oh! that long ago teenager.

I think it depends on how the child is grown up and on what surrounding. If he is treated friendly by parents then I do not think this would happen. This happens when there is too much strictness in a relationship and that children are not used to talking freely with their parent. I feel this is a part of growing up. Once they cross the teens, they will be more loving and more acceptable. At one point of life, i remember i felt shy in front of my friends when my parents were with me. i think all teenagers has to go thru this stage in life. Later, they become more close to their parents. So, do not worry about this. This is just a passing stage. Just take care and love your children.

It's not uncommon for teenagers to be imbarrassed to be seen with their parents. More so for boys because they want to be seen as cool and independentand. Girls tend to mind it less. Just remember they will out grow this phase and want to do things with you again.

He is acting normally for his age. It is a normal part of child development for children his age to want to establish their own identity separate from their parents. That seperation can feel like being pushed away or rejection, but is their job really to become independent. Unfortunately, children don't usually know how to do this and it is with spontaneous behaviors that can sometimes be hurtful. It's something you could talk about with your son from the standpoint of saying you understand what he going through and also set some boundaries of respect. The most important thing is that your son still needs you and as he embarks this journey to adulthood will appreciate knowing that safety because it would be too scary for him to comtemplate if he didn't think his family was his safety net. Like all phases of development, this, too, will pass.

I have never been embarrassed to be out with my mum, even as a 36 year old man I still enjoy taking my mum out shopping or going for a leisurely walk with her, even as a teenager I would go down to the sea with mum, she was my best friend, she's given me everything and there's nothing I wouldn't do for her, however with my father that's different now I WOULD be embarrassed going out with him!

Well I don't have kids, but from friends of mine who have, I would say it is totally normal. As they're growing up teenagers start to forge their own identity and want to be independant. They are also very keen on being seen to do the "cool" thing to impress their peer group, and this will almost always include being seen to be so "grown up" that they can do without their parents, and don't want them around in front of their friends. I think boys may be worse than girls as it's part of the manly, "macho" thing. I wouldn't worry about it too much!

Yes for sure. Teens hate to be with the parents. I was that way my whole teen life. Its how they are and we are. I mean they. I'm not a teen anymore I'm 27 but still yeah :))

I think it's just a phase, you love your parents & being with them when you're younger, then they get to the age where it's just not cool to be with your parents :) then there's the later teen years & over where it's ok to be around your parents again coz it just doesn't matter! I went through the same thing, being with your parents when you're trying to be cool just doesn't happen. Don't take any offense to it at all & tell your hubby (?) not to take it to heart, he'll grow out of it. At that age they want their friends to think they're more independent than they are, they also only ever want to be seen looking cool with their mates & parents aren't cool to a young teen. Wait until he's over the age of about 16 - 18 & he'll be normal again! He wont be worried at that age about how he looks to his mates, it's all about popularity at 14 & you cant be popular if you're seen going out with your parents!

i think this is normal? when i was a teenager, i was quite embarrassed to be seen with my parents too. i'm not sure why i feel like that, i just felt rather weird why i'm with my parents, and not out with my friends or boyfriend. but as i grow older, i don't mind being seen with my parents..this is the time when we should spend our time with them, if not now, when? :)

many teens do that! the boy's story is horrible