How do you deal with a molestor?

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Hi all, Ok my question seems rather off wouldn't you say? But it's something that sits in my heart often, Two yrs ago everything was going good, my life was good and then the world collapsed on me. I was working in another country when I got a phone call from my wife, and she told me between tears that my 2 eldest kids, my son was 12 then, and my daughter was 9 had been molested by a family friend, Well I was on the phone to my boss, and 7 hrs later I was on a plane coming home, some 19 hrs later I get of the plane and meet my wife and two cops waiting for me, the cops warned me not to go for the guy or even to go near his house, my wife had told them it would be a waste of time but they had to try they said. I told the cops to take my wife home and i took my keys to her car and drove off towards the city, tired yet bloody angry, when I made it to the so called family friends house there were 3 police cars parked outside his house and waitng for me so it seemed.They wouldn't let me even call the guy out side and they searched me and my car thinking that on my drive I may have stoped and found a gun somewheres, I didn't even think about killing him on the drive... So I ended up going home and the following day he was arrested and his house was searched and his computer was taken, and me well where ever I drove I had a police car following me. The guy was bailed on his own security and the first thing he did was call me up and say my kids were liars, I just hung up the phone and really talked to my two eldest kids and they told me what had happened. I won't go into details here but it turned out he had been molesting my daughter for mths and she had told her older brother about it as long as promised not to tell me.as they both know what I did for a job. I am a VIP bodyguard and have looked after alot of famous people, anyway the guy got drunk one day and he'd called the wife up and asked her to go round to the house as he was lonly as his wife was working,my wife never thought nothing about it and told him she had my eldest son at home as he had a day of school as it was teachers day,so he asked her if she wanted a break from my son and he could stay over if he wanted to, my son said yep right away as at his uncles he could play playstation and xbox anytime,so they went over to visit and the first thing he did was offer my wife a drink and then when she said no and had to go do something he let her go. About 4 hrs later our son phones her swearing at her for leaving him there and to come get him. She knew something was up and went round right away to find uncle sitting in the kitchen with a bottle of vodka and cursing my son,then he tried to come on to my wife so she just used her knee on him right where he'd be singing sweetly for a while and grabbed our son and drove home with our son swearing he never wanted to go to his uncles again,At home my wife sat my son down and said Ok what happened? my son said uncle told me to have a shower and when I said I'd had one he forced me into the shower and then he made me do things to him and he did something to me and told me what happens in the house stays in the house and he hit me Mum.My wife just stared at him and then got the phone and called my boss who told her to call the cops, which she did, in this time my other 3 kids came home and the eldest went to mum and told her that uncle had also molested his younger sister. mum fainted and then when the kids fgot her up she was screaming for the cops and when a detective came round and told her to stay calm she nearly hit him in between tears, the youngest two were sent to thier grandma's and the cops and my wife questioned my daughter and son for hours, then my wife called me. So now whats happened? well the guy is in jail for another 4 yrs for 3 assults on minors, we didn't know the other child he'd molested, or that the cops were investergating him already,I never got to touch him or see his face even but his wife swears he's innocent and is sticking by him,But my question to you is when he finaly gets out of Jail, Do I go after him, as I only want to hurt him as death is instant but pain is forever,Or should I get others to get him? or do I forget? I have quit my job as my heart did a slight summersault at all this and I was put in hospital foir a little while untill the docs got my heart slowed down,I'm living off my savings at the moment and its lucky I had alot saved and that I got a good payment from 20 yrs in the same company,And I'm still watching over my kids, most likely to close as they are now older and they know better, all the family had to have conselling and the two oldest are still getting it, but my anger still simmers and really I don't know what i want to do, I mean it feels like a family matter as in payback but it also gets me angry and writting about it seems to be an opening in a way to get the anger out,I know men can now go to anger management, but its not the thing is it?How do I tell strangers out loud what i'm angry about? if I could write it down I'd be fine but I just want to punch brickwalls all the time,What do you do in something like this guys, what do I do?