Is age gap such a bad thing?
By touchnshine
@touchnshine (2821)
India
July 22, 2007 12:10pm CST
What is more important a peerson looks and age your who they are. Would you rather be with a very good looking young person that will make your life miserable or with someone older not as good looking that will transform your life and make it wonderful? What you guys thing. Someone may say that they want a good looking that will make your life wonderful, but if you have only two first choices, which one would you choose. And why being older is such a bad thing? questions question question.......
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14 responses
@Seaclans (215)
• United States
22 Jul 07
I prefer being around people who make me laugh and have interesting things to say. Age really doesn't matter to me that much. I'd say it only becomes a problem if the age gap also means that the people involved have few interests in common.
@kevsgirlalways (5883)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 07
age is just a number! lol. everyone grows old one day and our age will keep on increasing. anyway..what's the use of being with a good looking young person that will make our lives miserable? hehe..i think it depends on the individual, some prefer someone who's older, some prefer those around their age..everyone wants someone who makes them happy, that's what matters the most..no matter how old that person is .
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@mae1216 (658)
• Philippines
15 Aug 07
I am not really after good looking or not. I am after the attitude of the person. I am also in a situation where the one I like is older than me, but of course he doesn't know that i like him and we are both committed at this time. I am also confused of this age gap thing. I don't know! But what is given to me, of if this guy that I like will be my partner for long time even he is much older than me then it is ok with me. If it is the will of GOd. Why not?right?..
@mystic_0318 (937)
• United States
22 Jul 07
I personally would like to be with a older person. I use to date a guy that was 17 yrs older than me and he was wonderful. My hubby that I have been with 12 and half yrs now is only 8 yrs older than me and my life hasn't been that great. He has been in prison more than he has been home with me and our daughter. And if I could I would go back to the guy that is 17n yrs older than me.
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@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
girl, theres nothing wrong with putting an age gap with a relationship..having a partner with age gap is way better than having a young partner good looking or not..remember we are 2 years mature than men thats why its better to have a man older than us..
a boyfriend who is older than us are very caring and loving..very passionate and can be very comfortable to be with..a girl here talking from experience
@bhappy2 (327)
• Australia
23 Jul 07
I have met a man who is 14 years younger than me and we get on very well. We enjoy each others company and share many interest and, more importantly, have similar outlooks on life.
However I am always aware of the age difference and what people may say or think. He tells me it doesn't matter that we are happy and that is all that matters and I know what he says is right
Don't worry about age and as for looks? A person's character and how they treat you is much more important than looks, believe me.
@gvnath2007 (84)
•
23 Jul 07
Yes age is one of the factors in life/.When the mal ewas aged and female is less aged more than 5 years, their life will be happy till 50s, later there will be possible differences in both thoughts and opinions. due to age difference. At the age of 15 to 45 the age is not a question. But the problem starts after 50s. It may be mental or physical. adjustmentallity decreases after 50 in both the genders.
Psychologically also there are differences btween the two.It is natural that either of the spouse be adjustable ,their life will be somewhat better .Age will create many changes in life. The mentality of a 50 years person is different from that of a teen. Whenthe hot blood starts to coool,then there are problems that will react later life. Young and old isnot the question at early stage but will be complicat4ed at later age due to age differnce
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
23 Jul 07
Preeti, it all depends upon a personal choice. I think your questions is with regard to females...does a female would go for a younger guy or for an older guy? If this is the question....my reply would ....that there is 'no substitute for experience'...perhaps it would be better to go for a older guy....who has more experience of life....it is strictly my opinion....your decision or choice...will entirely depend upon your own experience and liking or disliking.
@naadia (828)
• India
23 Jul 07
it is not a bad thing.my papa and mom have 7 year age difference!here in india 90% of people marry younger girls.marrying a elder woman is very rare in india.so i dont think it is a bad think.but personally i prefer a man having same age or maximum one year age difference!
@asahibza (388)
• Canada
23 Jul 07
Age is just one of the factors. In these times when longevity has gone up considerably, the importance of age gap has gone down.
Yeh, it is very important that there is compatibility between two persons. They should be emotionally connected.
I think an age gap of up to 10 or even 15 years is not such a big deal if the match is right and perfect.
@larskie23 (866)
• Philippines
23 Jul 07
i would rather be with someone that always makes me smile.it doesnt matter if he's older as long as we are happy together.
@scarywhitegirl (2766)
• United States
23 Jul 07
I am one of the strongest proponents of the idea that age doesn't matter. I have always gotten along better with people younger than me, and usually find people closer to my own age to be much less interesting. I'm quite a few years older than my fiance, but we are both happy, and the age difference really doesn't bother us.
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
23 Jul 07
Hi touchnshine! Having good looks is a plus factor but if I have to choose, I want someone who is mentally stimulating so we could talk anything under the sun and who is someone really good that will transform me to a better person. Age wouldn't matter, there are still some older people who are so immature and some younger ones who are matured for their age. I just want someone who would be with me for better and for worse and can make me a much better person. I am fortunate though, that I have already found him and we're married for 7 years but we've been together for 20 years now and the best part of it is, he is good looking too.
@funguruz (11)
• India
23 Jul 07
hmm.. it doesn't really matter..
If age gap is more than 10 year.. may cause problems for Family Planning..
but under 10 years Gap, doesn't matter..
But Love never see Age....
If you are going with Arranged marriage, then family members really looks for Age..
That is creepy thing..
