How to for give and move on
@marshall_blake2000 (304)
United States
July 22, 2007 12:23pm CST
Do you find its hard to move on when you wife or husband does some thing wrong. I can move on alot of the time, But I do not for get.
Some time I do not even know what a fight is all about, and go to bed and stil awake wondering what is was all about. Or is it was even about me or maybe some thing the kids did. May be she had a bad day at work. Who knows, Guess some times we just do not understand the person we are with.
I try to be understanding, but face it when some thing is sad to me that hurt I seem to have a nack about saying some thing hurtful back. Then later it always seems to came back up.
Just the way life is some times I guess just wishing I could have some more under standing about my wife some times, And what sets her off.
Who else seems to feel the same way about a husband or with?
2 responses
@wa_sted (34)
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22 Jul 07
I am a female and I sometimes get mad at my partner for really insignificant things (not that I would ever admit this to him or anything) and he often asks what he's actually done wrong, when most of the time he probably hasn't done anything wrong. Maybe you are in the same position, I don't know, but I thought I would offer my advice.
I think when this happens the best thing for my partner to do is let me get my anger out and I don't think insults are the way to go, they make the situation worse.
I think when she is in a good mood you should talk to her about it, maybe she can offer more insight.
And also when I have these little tiffs I can say some real nasty things to my partner, but not mean one word of them. I imagine whatever hurtful things your wife says are meaningless and just a product of anger.
Hope I could help!
@blog8withJ (136)
• United States
22 Jul 07
Take things by day to day, yet with motivation and positive attitude. You always think that you hurt your wife eventhough there's nothing you did that hurt her. As I read your sentences, you're just being paranoid and always asking yourself if yu do bad things. Remember, not everything are so perfect. If things doesn't seem correlated with what you want, or the way you expect it to be, it is natural manifestation of life. That's life. You don't need to think that like, "Oh I think I hurt her, what should I do? Well....the best thing to resolved things betweenhusband and wife is to talk things out.
