He's On The Phone Again and Again and...
By Brian
@wolfie34 (26771)
United Kingdom
July 22, 2007 7:11pm CST
If you work from home, or are not working and you spend your day at home whilst your partner/wife/husband/housemate goes to work how many times in ONE day do you expect them or want them to ring you?
Do you like to have a phonecall once a day from your partner at work to see how you are?
Or do you prefer him/her NOT to call you because you don't see why it's necessary
Or do you get fed up with them ringing you up to check you've done this or that, or if there's any post, or what's for dinner or the price of fish!
Is there a limit of the amount of times your partner rings you in a DAY before you start to get annoyed?
Since I made a big song a dance about it my housemate used to ring me sometimes three or four times a day to tell me about work and how they were treating him badly, or how the cats were, or checking up on me and what I was doing
Now he's suddenly realized that I use the answer machine to block his calls, when he phones I'm suddenly 'out' but then he wants to know where I was when he called LOL!
I once had a partner who used to phone me about four times, and when I ran out of things to say, surprise surprise my partner would tell me I was boring LOL!
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25 responses
@weemam (13372)
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23 Jul 07
the only time my hubby phones me is to pick him up from the pub pal . h isn't able to walk very far so I drop him off at the pub and he gives me a wee ring when he is ready to come back home , Ross rings me to let me know if he is going to be late and if he is in an out of the way place I go pick him up too , I am going to have a sign on my car saying Mags cabs lol xx
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@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
26 Jul 07
lol…. That is funny- I have to admit I call home when my sig. other is home and I’m at work- Not to check up on him- but to chit chat because I’m bored- or I will be heading to the store and want to be sure we don’t need anything else while I’m there- : ) but usually only one time a day- not 3 or 4- Geesshhh—He’d go crazy- and I don’t call to talk for long- heck we live together- I can talk when I get home : ) Sounds like you partner is controlling- calling to see if you are there.
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@ladysurvivor (4746)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 07
Hmmm... I think I don't need my partner to call me during his work time in the office. Even though I am staying at home, I am working too and do not have time to think about expecting his call. If he calls, I would appreciate it but if he calls more than twice I would start to get annoyed because the calls disturb my work.
Furthermore, he goes home every day for lunch and he has never failed to do so since we got married almost nine years ago. So, I meet him every day during lunch hour and we could talk about what's happening during the day at that time. If I miss him I can hug him at that time, and I suppose it's more than enough blessings for me.
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
23 Jul 07
Hubby and I talk a number of times during the day because we have so many different things going on and just need to check with each other to be sure of certain things. Ya know biz type stuff. I sometimes need an answer right away to something and he will call to say certain things have changed or whatever. I do not get annoyed because we are partners in crime here and after nearly 30 years of marriage we are pretty settled in our ways with eachother. He is my best buddy.
Hugs
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@kevsgirlalways (5883)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 07
hmm..at the moment i can't recall being annoyed whenever my partner calls me. unless i'm very angry at him, that is. if not, i wouldn't mind..usually my partner will call me once in the morning, and when at work, that's it. i wouldn't get any calls from him :( because we're both busy and he doesn't like to be disturbed when working. besides, we talk to each other on MSN. after he finishes his work and stuff then he'll call me, and it's a must for him to call me at night! hehe..
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@hermitcrabheaven (645)
• United States
23 Jul 07
I like to talk to my husband at least once a day while he's at work. It's nice to hear how his day is going, or for me to be able to complain a bit about our kids. If your partner/spouse/etc. is calling all day long and demanding to know where you are, that is technically considered abuse. There is no reason why they need to "check in" on you all the time, or need to know where you are every few minutes.
@rhinoboy (2129)
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24 Aug 07
My wife usually calls once or twice a day when I'm home with the nipper. Generally just to see how we are and what she's had for dinner etc. I'm usually the same the other way around, or she'll call me in the office to tell me if the little 'un has done something good/bad/funny.
It does get annoying at times because my wife is one of those impatient types who rings off when the machine kicks in and calls again straight away. This usually happens while either; the baby is napping, I'm in the middle of changing a poopy nappy, I'm on the throne myself, we're out for a walk (so i get home to 15 blank messages).
@ItTakesAllSorts (4096)
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23 Jul 07
My partner and I will always call each other everyday as he is working away at the moment. However, when we see each other everyday we do not call everyday, that would do my head in.
I will sometimes send him a text saying I love him and out of the blue he may call on the odd occasion to say the same.
This to me has meaning and makes it special. Luckily we never have been the type who want to check up on each other. I know couples like this and it is a suffocating relationship.
The only time I have had lots of *missed* calls is when I go out and forget about the time. Then he calls because he is worried. I do the same too.
In your case, thank goodness for answer phones.LOL
@34momma (13882)
• United States
23 Jul 07
my man use to call me oh my goodness 5 to 10 times a day and i tell you it made me nuts. i just kept telling him honey if we talk all day long then we have nothing to talk about once we get home. it really drove me nuts. he doesn't call me like a crazy person any more. once in a while he slips, but not that often. LOL
@rekhum (2420)
• India
23 Jul 07
I once had a partner who i used to call everytime i get a little bored at work.She didn't complain but wanted me to do that.But no, i would'nt want somebody to call me more often at work.I switch off my cell and only take calls when on lunch/cofee break. Unless we go out of our work building we can't make or take calls. We have a tight security over here.If i were at home i'd very much want them to call me at any minute and hour of the day lest they shouldn't disturb my afternoon nap.Home can be very boring for me.
@mummymo (23706)
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24 Jul 07
Oh Wolfie honey you have had a rough time and I think the last thing I would ever call you was boring my darling! I like it when my other half calls and sometimes I call him but the thing is we BOTH want to do it and are happy with the situation! He phones to make sure i am ok maybe 2 or 3 times a day! xxxx
@peachcelia (37)
• New Zealand
23 Jul 07
I have never been able to understand these people who feel the need to phone their partners constantly, during the day...
It smacks of insecurity, or control issues to me...what is so important, that you cant be out of contact with them for 8 hours?
If I was a boss, I would be very annoyed at my workers taking personal calls, on a regular basis...I,m paying them to work, not have a social life...
Self employed/work at home folks are no different...you are your own boss, & it is disrespectful for people to be constantly interrupting you, with trivial chitchat..
You are at work....business related calls only!
Of course...emergencies are different...
Please note:You need a carton of milk, is NOT an EMERGENCY!!!...lol
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
23 Jul 07
Well Sweetie my Man phones me 3-4 times a Day but I do not mind as we do not live together and we do not see each other every Day and I love him very much and I love his calls so in my case it is different
Just tell your Housemate to sod of
It sounds like you are in a prison there xxx
@irisheyes (4370)
• United States
23 Jul 07
This is a real problem for a lot of people with home businesses. People refuse to believe that a person can be taken seriously if they are working at home. Some of it is probably naievete but I'm convinced that some of it is downright spiteful. Most people harbor a secret desire to have their own business but don't have the guts to give it a try and will definitely try to sabotage anyone who does try. I've been through this crap. After making it clear to family and close friends that my income depended upon being alowwed to work from home in peace, there were still a few annoying people sho wouldn't stop bothering me constantly. Fortunately they were not family or close friends so I didn't feel so awful when I had to cut them off and I had to get rid of them in no uncertain terms.
@pillusch (1147)
• Mexico
23 Jul 07
Well, I'm the type of person who doesn't like to be bothered with phone calls if there is actually nothing to say. If my spouse would start calling me several times a day I'd wonder what's the matter with her. But she doesn't do it, because she repects my way of dealing with the phone. However, I know that IF I get a call, it's something important, so I attend to it. Surveillance over the phone is still surveillance, which might mean that there is a lack of trust in the relationship.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
23 Jul 07
I'm pretty much single now, wolfie. I have an off-and-on relationship with my ex of twenty years, and when we're "on" he will call me before he comes home to see if there's anything I need him to bring home. My best friend complains all the time that her boyfriend calls her too many times during the day-I have seen this. This would cause me to think that I was not trusted. I would not call to check up on him either. After all, he just left in the morning. It was a little different when I was younger, but I'm just not a clingy person.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
23 Jul 07
I work in the public and it is very disturbing to get interupted with phone calls. When I am at work, I am working and I don't like to be called for trivial things...my boss does not like me to get trivial calls. I have never been one to call my husband/boyfriend at work just to chat or vent about kids etc. and I don't like it when it is done to me.
@truartiss (386)
• United States
23 Jul 07
I think there should be some sort of limit. Like tree times or something a day unless it's REALLY important. I wouldn't anyone calling me all day long every two seconds just to talk about nothing. And I don't like talking on the phone anyway so I'd say keep it to a maximum of three times a day.
