I am really sad.... =(

You don't say why the break-up occurred and what his reasons were for leaving you, but reading this, I have a theory. It seems to me that he might need a break from a fairly full-on relationship, to take stock and breathe again. Sometimes, guys get scared about the intensity of their feelings and need time out. He's told you he loves you and always will, and you say he doesn't have somebody else, so I would think this is probably his reason. I have a guy who I know loves me, and I love him above everything else, but whenever we get really, really close, he panics, and withdraws for a while. At times like this, I give him his space because I know I can be fairly overwhelming with my love for him. It grows all the time... I can't walk away from him, and I know he will be back... as always. I feel that you might be in a similar situation and if you can just carry on with your life for a while, but keep him in mind and drop him the occasional little note telling him how much you miss him, he might well be back. He needs a breather, and you should respect that. Take the time to take a breather yourself, have fun with some girlfriends and then assess what it is you really want from life. Brightest Blessings... I know how hard this is. It's a type of emotional abuse, but if you can accept his needs as important as well as yours, then you should pull through this. :)

I'm feeling very sad for you as well. I know how a heartbreak feels. Actually, I just wrote an article on how to deal with a heartbreak on my blog yesterday at www.yourguidetofashion.blogspot.com He may have his reasons but just doesn't want to say. Maybe he just feels as though you two weren't compatable. Sometimes, people can love eachother deeply, but still, they are not meant for one another. I believe everyone has a soul mate, maybe he wasn't yours. You WILL go on, and you ARE a great person. It's perfectly okay to cry, I say, let it all out. Once you can cry it all out, then it is time to move on with your great life, and find who is actually right for you. I don't know if this has helped at all, but I sure hope so. If ever you need someone to talk to, I am here, I will lend you my ear, or in this case, my eyes (I will be reading your words, not hearing!:D), and I will always try to give you the best advice I can. It's be okay...it WILL be okay, you just need time to greive.

Hi Marie, I don't mean to rain on your parade or make matters worse for you, but this exact same thing happened to me, several years ago I was dating this guy and we were to the point of living together and things were getting very close with us. Then one night after a wonderful dinner at my favorite restaurant and then a shopping trip where he bought me a beautiful watch. I came back to his house (where I had been staying for the past 6 months), and he proceeded to break up with me, telling me those exact same words. I was devastrated to say the least, it came out of the blue, we had been dating at this point for 2.5 years, I could not figure out what was wrong. I went back to my apartment which I had not been to for the previous 6 months and tried to start my life over, it was hard, I cried everyday, I called my friends, even went and visited some since he refused to talk to me after we broke up. About a month afterwards (still not over him) he showed up at my doorstep with explanations (they always do months later) seems he had been seeing his ex girlfriend and he got married to her 2 weeks after he and I broke up. I was even more devastrated and it has a whole another story after that. But what I wanted to say to you, I know you are hurting, and truly have no idea what happened, but you have to know you will get through this and someday, hopefully soon, you will really know why he broke up with you, perhaps when he is stronger and can talk about it. I wish you the best, my friend!

Well Marie I can tell you, this is the worse of it, right now where you are at. From here in time, it will get better, not worse. I wish I could send a magic wand your way to wipe out the pain you are in right now, but I can't. I can just say, as with all bad things, this too shall pass. You may never have an answer as to why this is happening, he may not even know why himself right now. The only thing that is in your power at this time, is getting through this, I have faith in you, you can and you will. The tears have to come first as well as the pain, but you are going to fight your way past it all and you will smile again. I promise you that.

Oh Marie, I am sad for you. I know how much you loved this guy - your love for him shone through all the posts you have written in the past where you mention him. Of course it is hard for you, and it is also hard for someone who has never met you or him to analyse the situation.......... But perhaps - maybe - he has just got scared I remember you have been posting about the recent health scare...... I know he was very supportive of you, - but maybe it made him think. Maybe he is scared of being with someone who has had health problems, and feels he cannot cope properly? If he says he does still love you - then I am sure he does. But perhaps he realises he cannot be strong enough to look after you if you get ill again? Or maybe he is having pressure from outside? His family maybe? All I can say is - it will get easier. I know it doesn't feel that way right now, but time honestly is a great healer. You are a good person, and you have lots of love to give. You deserve someone decent to share their life with you. And if you want my advice.......... for the first week or so - don't try and fight it. Let the tears flow because they need to come out for you to heal and strengthen with time. Stay indoors until you feel well enough to face the world. Maybe even buy some comfort food, and just rest until you feel strong enough to face the world again. And I can assure you, that you will.

Ending a loving relationship is much more painful than ending a bad one even tho both are hurtful. One thing I do know is that time not only heals but also brings to light new understanding. You say that he isn't seeing anyone else which is usually the reason that people do such things. Myself, I broke up with a man because I had so much going on in my personal life at the time that I did not have the time to be fair to a relationship. I needed some space. Trying to fit in time & energy for him was stressing me out and not fair to him. He did think I was seeing someone else. In time, he learned that I was not. Keep busy...vent on here and there is nothing wrong with crying.

Wow, this sounds all too familiar to me! I went through the same thing a year ago with my husband. It was the hardest time of my life and lasted for 9 months! Just be strong and I will give you advice that my husband gave me: hope for the best, prepare for the worst! Maybe some day he will change his mind and come back to you..but you have to prepare yourself that he might not!

ohhh what a situation? i'ved been there... all you have to do is keep yourself busy and think that there is a bright future waiting for you without him... show him that the loose someone who really cares for him... donnot show him that it is you who lose the fight... unwind... go out your cocoon and spread your wings fly, soar leave life to the fullest forget him...

I hope love always win. You are in deep love and same with him. Maybe there was some reason but I think time has come to reunite. I think you should try to be strong from inner heart and believe that you are true, your love is true and that's you will get a loving life very soon. You can go ahead with this strength in mind. Hope everything normalise very soon.

I feel sad for you. But, how can you just accept this. why don't you ask him the reason? See, you have every right to know why you are being left. I know it is difficult for you. But, if you love a person and the other person also loves you, then you should try to find out the truth. If you find any genuine reason to leave, then you have to be strong and have to face it. Remember, that time will heal your wound. Now, you may feel that you cannot live, but be strong and face it. I pray for your well being and happiness. Take care.

at this this time you need to be strong. think positive, that is not the end of the world. cool.........

break-ups really hurts, but what really hurts is that when they leave without any reason... you can't move on beacuse you don't know the reason why he left you, but there is also no reason for you not to stop crying... don't waste your time on him... you showed your love and care, its not your lost its his lost... so try to open your heart again and look for the rigth person to love....

he probably has a reason but is hiding it remember, if he breaks your heart, is he really for you?

awww....there will be plenty others out there. You just don't want to believe that now. Life is a funny thing. I am sure there is a reason, but he doesn't want to talk to you about it now. The beset thing to do is to keep busy and take care of yourself.

life is very misteriuos and we need to consult it very carefully...some times god wishes us soo much of happiness n sometimes darkness curses us.....the person how told u that once he loves u n onces he doesn't loves u is not a caring person and u never choose that person as u r life partner.........

Hunny he is a creep to beat all creeps. He is lieing through his teeth to keep you in line tell he is done getting his stuff from you. I would bet anthing he has a girl or a guy that he cheated on you with. You can do much bettrer then that creep. If he beleaved all that stuff he told you then he wouldn't leave. You need to stop crying and get angry at him for using you and tossing you aside.

i think that ive been through of what you are undergoing right now. i think that you need to wallow and cry right now. you need to release those emotions. allow your self to cry, to be sad, to be depress because there is no better way than to let it all out. however, when you go to bed, remember that tomorrow will be a better day. tomorrow will be full of promises, new hopes, new love, new life and new you. remember, nobody owns your heart but you. and it is only you who can make you happy. you have been whole even before you met him, therefore, you can be whole again even if he is gone. start all over again even if it hurts you so much because you have no other choice but to move on.

it's not the end of the world. be strong and move on. maybe this is a blessing that this happen now. everything has as reason why things happen.

I think the one thing that really bugs you is why he is leaving you when he still loves you. However, I think all that he has said are just plain excuses, he just want to sugar-coat his words so that he won't hurt you more than he already did, but I think he is actually hurting you more by not giving you a proper reason why. Anyway, men like him don't deserve your tears. You should cry this over and get on with life, find a better love and show that guy that you deserve better!! Go go !! Regards, Adrienne http://www.e-marketinghub.com http://www.e-marketing-systems.com

sounds very familiar. it happened to me before, but unlike you, i am the one who became so cold. i don't know the reason. he seems to be a perfect guy. but sometimes. love fades and you don't know why. the important thing is for you to move on.