lonely

Yes I believe that most of us feel this kind of emotion. Of course we are all human.If you are feeling lonely yOu need to stablish the reason for your loneliness. You may live on your own, have experienced a relationship breakdown or may have been bereaved and are looking for ways to make new friends and improve your social life. Getting involved in voluntary work in your local community is a good way of meeting new people, finding a sense of purpose by helping others. Local hospitals are often looking for volunteers to help visit patients or run the hospital shop. Local charities are often in need of volunteers to help staff charity high street shops. You could also think about joining any clubs and societies relating to any interests/hobbies you have. Dont suppress yourself too much. If you are interested in sport find out about local clubs, if you are interested in drama and theater find out about joining a drama group or helping out behind the scenes at a local theatre. The local library, town hall information office or local paper often keep details about clubs and societies.Adult education centers and community centres are worth checking out to see if there are any classes you may be interested in or hobbies you could take up. You may think about taking classes learning computers or a new language. For young people there are many clubs which meet in a friendly social atmosphere while learning a variety of new skills and helping in the local community, you can try joining them.

Loneliness is a painful awareness that you are not feeling connected to others and important needs are not being met. Loneliness may indicate that important needs are currently not being met such as the need to develop a circle of friends or a special relationship. People need people. Mutual relationships are essential to health. If you are lonely, you feel the need for warmth, understanding, and long to share your feelings and thoughts with others. Loneliness can be overcome. But it depends on you. It is important to know that loneliness is a common experience. Loneliness does not have to be a permanent state of affairs. Instead it can best be viewed as a signal that important needs are not currently being met. Think of yourself as a total person. Don't neglect other needs just because your companionship or friendship needs are not being met. When you are alone, use the time to enjoy yourself rather than just existing until you can be with others. Whenever possible, use what you have enjoyed in the past to help you decide how to enjoy your alone time now. For example, listen to music or watch a favourite television show. Make sure you follow habits of good nutrition, regular exercise, and adequate sleep. Don't let your studies, hobbies, and other interests slide. Use your alone time to get to know yourself. Think of it as an opportunity to develop independence and to learn to take care of your own emotional needs. You can grow in important ways during time alone. Avoid merely vegetating (sitting around doing nothing) - deal with your situation actively. Recognize that there are many creative and enjoyable ways to use your alone time. Keep things in your environment (such as books, puzzles or music) that you can use to enjoy in your alone time. Explore the possibility of doing things alone that you usually do with other people (like going to the movies). In summary, don't define yourself as a lonely person. No matter how bad you feel, loneliness will lessen or disappear when you focus attention and energy on needs you can currently meet and when you learn to develop new ways to meet your other needs. Don't wait for your feelings to get you going--get going and good feelings will eventually catch up with you.