Where did you think you'd be in life by now?

United States
July 23, 2007 10:39pm CST
I certainly thought I'd be married with kids and of course a few kittens. But instead I'm 33 and not married and kind of upset that I took the time to get my master's degree in counseling since I haven't been able to finish the required hours to get licensed. You have to have 2 post master's years full-time in a counseling environment working under a psychologist or psychiatrist. I never could work the 40 hour work week, though I tried an amazing amount of times! Having my own business online was the best choice for me after being raped and getting extremely depressed, developing Anorexia and PTSD, and just generally going downhill. I know that's not my fault and the guy is actually in jail for 10 years now but I'm definitely not where I thought I'd be in life. My brothers, both married, both have 3 children, both older and more social, have moved on with their lives. I hate to talk to them on the phone because I feel so small and their wives are more than a little bit of cruella-de-ville characters. So I rarely call my brothers because my sisters-in-law always pick up and never transfer me over to my brothers. Anyway, I was wondering if anyone else thought they'd be where they are now in life. I somehow think I should buy a house and get pregnant because that's what people my age appear to do. I don't want to be an old mom but I don't have a husband so I don't have many options. *sigh* I'm trying everyday to get out and be more social but 90% of the time, that doesn't work! Anyone feel like this? Kristiana
2 responses
sugarcrystalz
@sugarcrystalz (60)
• United States
24 Jul 07
I'm actually sort of the opposite of you. I'm 20, married, and a mother of 2. 5 years ago, I didn't want to get married or ever have kids, so my life has definitely taken a turn I wouldn't have expected. I thought that now I'd be in college with great grades and on my way to making a ton of money. Instead, I go to college online during nap time. I wouldn't trade my life now for the life I expected, but I sometimes wonder what it would have been like if I didn't choose to have a family so early.
stealthy
@stealthy (8181)
• United States
24 Jul 07
You are still young and need to find a way, it only gets harder as you get older. I am not where I thought I would be either. I thought I would still be working but haven't been for over a decade, fortunately when I did I was good at saving and make a decent living now off of my investments. I got married when I was older than you are now and divorced a few years after that and have no children because my wife didn't want any. After that experience I realized I would like to have at least on child which puts me in the awkward position, to say the least, of needing to find someone much younger than me, not much older than you, who wants children and would like a man older than her. This is all made much more difficult because I work at home doing my ivestments and don't have a lot of chance to meet people especially since I am a little shy in that area. I don't have to deal the effects of the trauma you have to, although my marriage left some things, but I'm certainly not where I thought I would be.