Parent=Enemy of love
By Jessem
@Jessem (372)
Mauritius
July 24, 2007 1:20am CST
Do you always tell your parents about the girl/boy whom you love? How will they react if ever they find out about this secret relationsihp? Do they show any respect for your feelings or it seems that they have already forgotten the days when they were young? Are you gonna be thrown out of the house? What if they dont approve him/her will it be the end of your love story then? Will you dare to go against them and choose your love? At my place i believe that in most houses these things are a taboo and want to know how it is in other countries? Ive been discussing all this with my gf koz i know that her parents wont approve our relationship and so i told her its better that we break up now before it gets too hard for us later.
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13 responses
@bluishrose (2289)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
I always tell my mom about my lovelife and always agree with her approval. My mom is very understanding and broadminded. It not very hard dealing with her. Except for my dad which is the opposite, he doesnt want me to have a boyfriend until i finish my studies so i didn;t tell him about my relationship he's so strict but my mom and brothers knows it hehehe
@raychill (6525)
• United States
24 Jul 07
I tell my parents about my boyfriends. But It's a while before they meet them as I don't live with my parents so if my boyfriend comes over he doesn't have the whole "meet the parents" ordeal. I've never had my parents disprove of a relationship and even if they did I think they would let me make my mistakes and my own decisions.
I think in love and friendship you have to make your own decisions... not your parents.
@jal1948 (1359)
• India
24 Jul 07
Most parents love theirchildren verymuch andhas the best intention, for their welfare, as regards to love parents will try to see many things is the boy /girl of good character,comes from a good family,what values they uphold, will this just be puppy love or may result in marriage,if puppylove what if it results in pregnancy,if marriage than what is the boys/girls age are they mature enough and capable to earn for them selves can the children take responsible decisions, honor their committments etc etc thelist is endless,because they know for afact that LOVE DOES NOT SURVIVE ON FRESH AIR
@senthil2k (1500)
• India
24 Jul 07
Parents are not the enemy of the Love always. There are many parents who still encourage their children to choose their partners themselves. I should agree that more than 90% of the parents don’t like their children falling in love. Its because they are much worried on the children, if they choose someone wrong. Apart from this reason, I don’t think any parent will hate their children in love.
@anousha (406)
• Mauritius
24 Jul 07
If u love someone truly, u should be able to stand by him/her no matter wat happens. The parents, if they are of orthodox type will be very angry and reluctant at first but they will slowly concede and accept ur love anyway...They will not be that immature to throw u out of the house because they don't approve ur bf/gf. So its not a matter of going against them but proving that ur responsible enough to be in a relationship.
@onlinebiz (119)
• Singapore
24 Jul 07
Why won't your parents agree to your relationship? If it is purely a relationship, there is no reason for them to object. If he or she is of a really bad background, then parents may object, but it is usually his or her character that matters most.
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@ssh123 (31073)
• India
24 Jul 07
If anything done secretly, and when the parents come to know about it, then they will definitely dislike it. It is always better to introduce your friend as friend and let there be exchange of pleansataries between them. Later on if the relationship cliks and marriage is going to take place, well it is better to keep the parents informed and they will be happy to join the party.
@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
24 Jul 07
Every single relationship I have been in has been met with a "You cannot be serious?" question. I do not tell my family about anyone I have feelings for anymore because they will just ridicule me for it. I am a White woman who loves dating men who outside of my race, and my parents hate it, so I have decided not to tell them about any of my relationships.
@gemmoney87 (211)
• Vietnam
24 Jul 07
I never told my parents about the boy I like. Because I just like, not love ^^. I don't want they waste time in the relationship which I'm not sure. But if my parents know, I think they will approve my relationship.
If you and your gf love together truthfully, you should try to convince her parents believe in your relationship. It's better than break up and regret.
@smilelxp (17)
• China
24 Jul 07
In middle school, I was fall love with a boy in our class. I really no my parents would not agree our relationship. So we dated secretly. But in those years, I knew that I am so young to love. If my parents got this matter, thery would be very agree. I was so afraid. At present, I am so old to be love. and my parents are so urgent to told me to get married. So, When I fall love with my bf, I told my parents and they agree soon.
@az03r4 (913)
• Indonesia
24 Jul 07
ouch, very difficult condition. if so, I suggest that you must persuade your parent to approve her'him smoothly and decently. Tell them that he/she was the best choice who can serve me forever after we get married. If they'er not watching u, try to think clearly, Is she/he was the best person for u? and Do you really love her/him? If there's nothing better and she/he was the best, you must do everything to get your parents approval. Trust me every parents in this world wish the best for their kids.
@ethel52776 (146)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
I never tell my parents on what is going on with my lovelife, unless they ask me, which they rarely do. When i have a guy courting me, I just tell them that he is a friend. I just introduced him to my parents as someone special when we are officially a partner. When I was about to get married, I only told them that I was gonna get married two months before the wedding when everything's been planned.
