What's your age? How do you respond to such questions?
@lavenderbloom (1057)
United Arab Emirates
July 24, 2007 4:34pm CST
Does anybody asked you your age on your birthday? What do you say then? Do you think it is ok to ask a girl or a lady about her age? When we were kids, we would tell that I am this year old etc etc. But when you are grown up, why everything changes?
I think it differs from person to person. Some people don't mind disclosing their age but some take it in a different way. Why ?
Share your thoughts..
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13 responses
@silver_shaddow (1204)
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25 Jul 07
hello,
I really don't care about telling my age, but I'd like to play games a little bit before I submit my answer.
Sometimes I say "guess" and end up not telling them, ha ha. Those who do guess, say I'm 27 years old and don't go anywhere beyound 30. I'm 33 years old and I think to myself, wow!! Kinda lucky I guess.
I don't know WHY women are so EXTRA sensitive about telling their age.I once was in London and I sat next to this woman. I asked her age and she looked @ me with disgust, like I murdered her mother or something!! It's not like it's gonna change anything, or make her any younger if she lied about it! I think it's silly...
So I ended up "re-phrasing" my question to when is your birthday? . .Blah
@lavenderbloom (1057)
• United Arab Emirates
25 Jul 07
Yes, for some people its like asking them how they want to get murdered. But, for me i feel its ok if asked without any intention. It wont be changing anything if you say you are younger or older than they thought. good to hear so many thoughts.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
29 Jul 07
My dear silver_shaddow, don't you know why women are so sensitive about their age.......and who is tobe blamed for this........Its you.....you men........all men.......because attitude of men towards women varies according to her age.....the younger the woman, the more will be liking for her........the older the women, less and less attention will be given to her. You men make women feel unsecured and that is why women is forced to hide her age........( But I know you are an exception to such men and we are still friends)....lol
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@silver_shaddow (1204)
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29 Jul 07
sorry i didn't read the last-line in your post. :P
so glad u noticed...But STILL i had to say!
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
25 Jul 07
I do not think..it is a big issue to disclose your birthday or age. It depends who want to know...to whom you are going to disclose. If you are know to each other...than you will have to tell the exact position.
What about you....? do you feel bad, when asked such questions?
@lavenderbloom (1057)
• United Arab Emirates
25 Jul 07
You are absolutely correct. why not disclose what we are celebrating. There is nothing to hide.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
27 Jul 07
Thanks for your positive thought and comments.
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@ssh123 (31073)
• India
28 Jul 07
Men have no hesitation in telling the actual age. It is the women are highly conscious of their age. That is why, a Reader's Digest carried a snippet : The best ten years of a woman's age is between 19-20 years!! They do not want their age to be changed for 10 years!!!
My wife too tries to tell a few years less when someone asks her age.
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@lavenderbloom (1057)
• United Arab Emirates
28 Jul 07
Great. Yes, I too agree with you. It strictly depends on person to person. Good to hear different different opinions about this age factor. Thanks for your input.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
27 Jul 07
i have hardly any problem with disclosing my real age. i think, we all should age gracefully and try and look graceful even though we are aging each year. take it this way. i know, you look younger than your age and when someone comes to know about your real age their eyes spark, can you beat the amazement? i bet you can't. lol..
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@lavenderbloom (1057)
• United Arab Emirates
27 Jul 07
Yeh. I believe in aging gracefully. Gaining lot of wisdom. Aging is a fact of live. Have to accept this fact and live happily making each moment of your life memorable.
Yes, it make us feeling great when someone guesses us to be younger than our real age.
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@VotreAmie (3028)
• United States
4 Aug 07
Hi lavenderbloom. Yes me too sometimes people ask me about my age, well I just tell the truth.
SOme women don't like saying the truth about their age, and I think that's wrong. Why don't we accept our age? Nobody will stay young forever? Aging is natural. It's a pity that some see it as some kind of disease or something to be embarassed about. Anyway take care lavenderbloom.
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@lavenderbloom (1057)
• United Arab Emirates
5 Aug 07
I like your thinking about age. it is indeed a natural factor. Thanks for sharing your thought. Take care
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@lavenderbloom (1057)
• United Arab Emirates
5 Aug 07
Me too. What's wrong in that. Thanks for sharing your view.
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@CassDean (18)
• United States
1 Aug 07
I find its older women who are possibly hiding their age from themselves. Some say its not polite to as a lady her age, but when you do they lie anyway, so all in all I personally would tell the truth, unless theres a good reason to lie... ie. to get into a club ( im 20) but dont ask cause they wont tell!
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@lavenderbloom (1057)
• United Arab Emirates
5 Aug 07
Yes, you are right. Sometimes it depends on the situation. If it helps then no probs. There is nothing wrong because you are not hurting anyone. Regards
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
17 Dec 12
Personally, maybe I am different but I do not mind sharing my age with people. I know most people will never believe I am as old as I say anyways, and that always feels nice. I have nothing to hide, and feel age is just a number, and no Big deal, but I do know others that do not sharing all of this and I often wonder why.
@lavenderbloom (1057)
• United Arab Emirates
25 Jul 07
Good. Nice thought. I too dont care. We are what we are.
@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
29 Jul 07
If I am asked this question I will always say the truth, because there is nothing to be ashamed about what is true. Let the opposite person accept you as you are, if he has a problem he can go to hell. If someone under estamates you for your age,colour, caste or your outer looks, then indeed this person has no place in your life. I would prefer to ignore such people. The more truthful you are in life the more happy you will be because your concious is always clean and you live with any hidden guilt.
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@lavenderbloom (1057)
• United Arab Emirates
5 Aug 07
Yes, apsara. I like what you told. Our near and dear ones will never care what age we are. Their love will never change because we are aging. When you lie about your age to an outsider, then you always have to maintain that lie, which is very difficult. So, why not tell the truth and be stressfree and happy. Regards.
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@oo0stingray0oo (148)
• Philippines
23 Jun 08
What's the question again? hahaha Seriously, I'll be 35 on September. I have no trouble whatsoever about answering such question. I think, and this is just my own opinion, it is only the ladies who are bothered to reveal that sort of information. My apologies to the ladies, I am just stating my observation. Peace!!!
@lavenderbloom (1057)
• United Arab Emirates
25 Jul 07
Yes you are right. sometimes we forget and we ourselves just ask. it is ok.
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@Winter08 (441)
• Canada
23 Jun 08
It would be interesting to know how people felt about their age in the era before these times of mass media influence. There are so many situations where it is OK for a man to be "old" looking but don't dare let a woman be other than youthful looking! It is rare to see a female singer or actor (or many other public female figures) looking other than slim and/or as wrinkle free as possible. Yet the men can be potbellied, wrinkled, grey ... it's all OK for them.
My speculation is that "worry" or "concern" about a person's age was a "luxury" item, something that developed in the levels of society in a time/place where keeping body and soul together was a less urgent concern. Those who had to spend much of their life taking care of getting food/clothing/shelter for themselves and their family probably had no energy (let alone thoughts) to spend on wondering about how old someone was.
So those are my thoughts on HOW asking a person's age has become an issue. The WHY the age question ... I think that is a individual thing based on each person's stage in life and the health of his/her self-worth/self-esteem.
How do I respond to the age question? I usually tell people ... once I remember what my age is. I so rarely (never) think about it that I have to do the add/subtract thing to calculate my age. I'm good at remembering my day and year of birth. The actual age number I have to work out.