Has your relationship changed since you got married?

Yes, they call that the honeymoon period. Of course it is a stage of courting when bringing flowers and such all the time. Men get comfortable, sit back and expect their woman will be there when they want them. They don't realize that marriage is 100/100. You both have to put all of yourselves into your relationship if you want it to last. My husband and I have been married 10 years next week. I must say the love making dropped drastically but I have always been insistent on at least once a week. However, the man has lost about 25 pounds over the last couple of months and his libido has picked up. Who'd have thought that's what it would take. We don't do much together and because of that I bought him tickets to a Brad Paisley concert for a Christmas gift. We went to the casino and the concert and had a great time. It was nice going out on a date again. We have two kids and I have developed a chronic pain & chronic fatigue illness so socializing has dropped drastically. My husband is a social butterfly and I am a drag. LOL! You know what? A woman can buy a man flowers too? Try and initiate that wooing stage again and see if he responds.

You said it yourself: People don't realize that what you do to get a person, you have to keep doing to keep them. So since he doesn't realize this, you have to make him. That is, give him something to chase. Don't just make love whenever he wants; make him come after you. It's the pursuit men enjoy. But that ends with marriage. They have the girl, so they see no reason to pursue her anymore. So you need to change the way you interact with him. Visit www.aroundherfinger.com. Though you may not agree with everything there, you'll get the pursuit concept. There's an ebook there you can buy too. But a good, free site similar to that is: http://wifeworship.tripod.com/home.html Also do a search for "Real Women Don't do Housework". These sites are meant for men, but you'll find many ideas there to spice up your marriage. With some practice, and when you start putting sexuality into your relationsip other than in the bedroom, you'll find your marriage improving, like it was when you were dating.

It happens to us all, honey. You could be talking about my marriage in your post. Hopefully you will be better at re-initiating romance in your marriage then I am in mine. Good Luck.

yes it did specially when we had children. but we talk about these things and explain why. at first i didn't quite understand but later on, i finally did. time is very important, we already have three kids and he's also busy working. but everytime he comes home, he finds time to play with his children even if he's kinda tired. we don't go out that often anymore but we still make it a point to have bonding together even if its only like 3 times a month. it will all be different when you guys would have kids.. but always try to have time for yourselves..

I have been married for 7 years now. Yes, there were a lot of changes from the time we were just dating to the time we were living on the same roof. Some were nice changes and some were not so nice. But we still go out a lot, talk a lot, and laugh a lot. I guess it's the trials and problems we face that make our relationship strong. I guess the not so nice change is that the mystery has disappeared. Now, almost everything is so predictable, less excitement but stronger bond. I suggest you talk to your husband and lay down your cards, you never know if he feels the same :) Good luck!

My husband and I did somethings backward but we had our son and got married a month after and at first nothing changed too much, he seemed more in love with me after we had our son and then all of a sudden a year later he seems to want nothing to do with me most day, I try to keep the romance alive and try to be loving but most of the time he won't even sit next to me but then he has weeks where he is the most romantic and loving man alive but that only happens once every other month. I think its just a phase and I hope it is, I think it has a lot to do with his job and how things are at work, when hes happy at work, hes happy at home.

I'm not married but I can't imagine why anything would change, it's still the same person that you've lived with for several years!?

Hi cassie Im sorry to say but this does happen to all of us.LOL I guess good things cant last forever. The thing is why dont we realize this when we marry these men. We should be prepared for this to happen.LOL Dont you think?

yes our realtionship changed but all for the better,I know I am one of the few "lucky" girl..if I could use that term..in the world. When we were still boyfriend/girlfriend I was not on top of his priority and most of the time it made me feel bad, we are friends and so he never impressed me with romantic stuff and all. But when we got married, evrything has changed, he has been very romantic and now I know I am at the top of his priority so he cater to me all the time, excited to do things with me and spend a lot of time with me, very supportive and loving husband. My greatest blessing indeed. Hope your relationship get better.

Hello there, I understand how you feel. It is true that relationship will change after the couples have got married. Because some men think the relationship are more secure as long as the rings are worn on the wives’ wedding ring fingers. And the commitments are consequently taken place. So things start changing…I am a ‘musician’s widow’ as my hubby will go out to play with his band at least 3 or 4 nights per week and leave me and my daughter at home. At the beginning, it was very difficulty for me to adjust as I was still in the dream of having a good time in dating him. Now I realize and learn how to put up with him.

The daily function of life tends to cause my wife and I to drift apart. We have found that we have to really make an effort to get together more often. It's not like making the effort is a bad thing, we just want to make sure that we take the time to spend some quality time together, even if it just means holding her while we watch TV in the bedroom. We also are planning on trying to go out and do things together, like going to flea markets and yard sales (which we both enjoy) before I have to go to work on Saturday afternoon. Don't let anyone fool you, a good marriage requires a continued effort by both people. You mentioned that he hasn't given you flowers much anymore. Try buying him a rose or maybe buy yourself some sexy or edible underwear or a teddy and give it to him.

My male friends hate me for this but I like to declare "Tara Day" every so often. I go out and buy her flowers and some trinkets (nothing expensive just something cute), take her out to dinner at her favorite restaurant. Then I will give her a hot oil massage when we get home and draw her bath. I'll leave any further events to your imagination. She never knows when they are coming, heck I never know, it just hits me during the day. We have been married going on 21 years now and with all due respect to the rest of you ladies, there isn't a woman in the world that could compete with her. And for you guys out there, try it. The emotional feedback is delicious.

I can't really answer this question for you, I have only been married for a month and we have only spent a week together. We got married while we were on vacation he's in the military so he is in another state most of the time. We then will only see each other two more weeks before he is deployed. Is it hard yes very but we make due, it's what we have to do now. So to answer your question we still do the same thing we use to but were not together alot so it's allmost like a vacation every time we see each other. We wont be able to live together till after his tour of duty.

I am married and it will be a year in few days . The things you said didnt happen to me because i only saw my husband two months in a year because of his job. So we are still in our honeymoon period. I will move next to him in few months and then watch what will happen. But as a suggestion if you feel something goes wrong dont keep inside. Share with him in a good way not like arguing. Because you know for men never stop talking women are nightmare :) And always take care of yourself. Try not to get weight so much and sometimes make make-up. And always be well groomed. And make surprises. It makes men attention a wake. Hope everything gets better

Yes. It ended.

In mine and dh's realtionship, a lot has changed. But one that has not is his way of thinking, and his attitude at times. I swear the older he gets the meaner and nastier he gets. Don't get me wrong, I love him with all of my heart, but sometimes I just wish I could just smack him back into reality. He can also be a real pita when it comes to our children, whom are 14, 12, 7, and 6 yrs old. As far as our romance goes, it's still the same, we just make love less often.