I had a Miscarriage two weeks ago and I Feel So Lost.

Hi Cassie, I am really so sorry for ur loss. I can understand your pain to the fullest extent as i've had two miscarriages in a row and i am still trying to become pregnant.We all start to develop emotions for our unborn little ones since the time we know we r pregnant.i was also devastated after the second one and i am still grieving for not being able to experience motherhood.But pl console yourself that you already have children and hence you might not have any serious health condition behind ur miscarriage.Be positive and dont add up to your misery by arguing about your husband's reaction. Men are different and they dont react the same way as we do.may be he wanted to take time out to digest the thing.Remember he will also be equally upset.Give him his time to recover and talk to him about this sometime later. Good Luck for your next pregnancy !

I very sorry that you lost your child. There are several points to consider e.g. first you remained strong, despite all the odds. Regarding the child it is best to think that he/she is with the Almighty God whose ways are higher than our ways. In the Bible, God has taken David's child to Bathsheba. David fasted for the child but when God took the child he ate food thus acknowledging God's action on the matter that God saved David from all the troubles likewise God has saved either you or the child from any trouble that might come. Now that your marriage is doing better, I believed your husband has been sorry for his actions and is also recovering from the loss. The important thing is the family is intact and you can trust God for the future. We had the same experience, my wife had a miscarriage last 9th of May 2007. Health care professionals did not satisfy our need in that hospital at 3 a.m. since my wife is experiencing terrible pain we managed to go to another hospital and by God's grace medical professionals attended to her very well. Like David's life application we believed that God's ways is higher than our ways, now my wife and the whole family has fully recovered believing that our baby (like your baby) is an angel in heaven.

Oh you poor thing, it is a very traumatic thing for a woman to go through and other people will not understand until it happens to them, it is a human failure really, but because this has happened to you , you will understand and be able to help people in the future, your little baby was not ready for this world yet but will be back when the time is right but has left you with something, compassion, which I believe usually only the people who have suffered has, maybe this is the way that compassion is spread...good luck to you and remember that little baby will be back one day.... :)

In 1997 my boyfriend at the time and I were on our way to vacation in Mexico. I was 11 Weeks along at the time. We made it as far as Tennessee and had to turn back because I started feeling very ill. By the time we got back into Pennsylvania, having stopped at rest stops at least six to eight times, I was exhausted and had been bleeding for hours. I had not wanted to go to a hospital because I knew what they would tell me... that I was losing my baby. We made it into Harrisburg and my boyfriend talked me into going to the emergency room there. By that time I was having very heavy bleeding and severe cramping. When I arrived, they put me in the waiting room but I went to the restroom because of the cramps and saw how badly I was bleeding. I just lost it and started screaming for someone to help me. At that point, they put me in a room and wouldn't let my boyfriend go in with me. I was terrified. This was not only my first (and only, thank God) miscarriage, but also my first pregnancy. They gave me nothing to stop the bleeding. I tried to sit on the bed but was bleeding everywhere and was so scared. I kept opening the door screaming down the hallway for someone to help me. After what seemed like a very long time, a nurse finally came in the console me. They discharged me after a few hours that night and told me to go home and rest. They had asked me if I had passed the fetus. As if I was supposed to know what that would look like, or even wanted to know. Since they did not find a fetus, they told me that I had had an empty sac and that there had never been a baby at all, but I did not believe them. For almost a year after that I felt empty inside, but I had managed to get pregnant again and my son is now 9 years old and healthy. I also have a daughter who is healthy and do not plan on having anymore children. I am happy now, but it took a long time to get over the pain. My boyfriend at the time was very upset by everything, but he stood by me and agreed to help me overcome the ordeal by trying to have another baby. That is my son who is 9 now. I am not with his father anymore, but have found a good man who gave me my daughter who is now 7. I am so sorry for your loss, and if you need someone to talk to you can add me as a friend and message me anytime day or night. I will always make a point to respond because I know how hard it is to grieve alone.

I'm really sorry for your miscarriage and I understand what you went through as I just had a miscarriage a month ago. I can't describe how sad I felt. But I was kind of prepared to it because my sister had a miscarriage herself and my mother also. But still it hurt. Now I'm trying to focus on the next time. I hope everything goes well for all of us. God bless.

I'm sorry you had a miscarriage. I had one myself so I know what you are going through. I will break down for you while you are feeling the way you are and why people react as they do. 1) Your body is in a huge hormonal upheaval. Because of this you are feeling much more out of sorts so try to put things into perspective when you acknowledge this. Of course, you have to grieve over your loss, but understand that although some of the feelings are due to grief, others are hormonal and hopefully this will pass. 2) Your husband is also grieving except not the way you are. My husband also used to escape from my problems with infertility. I was hurt like you, but eventually understood that he had his own way of dealing with his sadness. I had to respect that it wouldn't be the same as mine. Once I got that straight I was able to let go of my frustration at him. 3) Unfortunately, the staff at your doctor's office is probably so desensitized to loss that they forget to acknowledge it to their patients. If you are not happy with how you are treated, consider finding another doctor. Personally, I found someone I could talk to through counseling which was short term. It helped me get past the grief and move forward. Just give yourself a break and understand that grief takes time so take care of yourself and take it one day at a time.

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You've gone through a tramatic experience and no matter what nobody says or do it is still going to hurt. It is sad to say we live in a world of uncaring and insenstive people. I feel your pain, my neice went through a miscarriage at 12 weeks then she concieved again and delivered the baby at 6 1/2 months, the baby lived for three days. She almost considered giving up. Her husband was dealing with the pain of the loss in his own way and was not giving his wife moral support. Through counseling my neice was able to find out that he was hurting just as much as she was even though he didn't have the baby. And he needed someone to comfort him. They were able to comfort each other in the end. About a year later she got pregnant, this time she incorporated a specialist and the specialist gave her cervical stiches to hold the baby in her uterus. She stayed on bed rest and gave birth to a beautiful girl. It was touch and go because she had a lot of fluid. She came weighing in at nine pounds but after all the fluid was drawn off she weighed 7 pounds. My neice pulled through it. And despite it all she still recalls and mourns the loss of her miscarriage and severly premature baby. Good luck to you and remember don't give up anything is possible.

I am sorry for your loss, dear. I haven't been in the situation. I advise that you gather strength from God and from your other family members.