He keeps calling me...

** Good for YOU ** So glad to hear this, you are RIGHT, you can't grieve with him coming around all the time, my ex did this, said we could be friends, just not anything more than that, which never worked for me, cause everytime I saw him I wanted more than friends and I could not break that pattern or stop those feelings. I am soo happy for you, you have made the first step to moving FORWARD in your life, not backwards!!

You deffinately did the right thing. The first week after my ex dumped me, hed call me. And I was so confused because he dumped me but he was still calling me and I didnt know why. Id end up crying after getting off the phone because everytime we talked, it sounded like he was okay and it made me so sad that he was fine and I was sad. Nothing good can come of it at all, you only end up hurting more and more. If he doesnt want to be with you, dont give him the time of day. Just give him time to miss you, miss the relatinship. I was fed up with my ex so i just stopped talking to him, stopped wanting to hang out..and it worked out i guess since he asked me to hang out alone on monday.

Sweety you were right in saying that to him. He made this choice, so he has to let you move on. I don't see how that is possible if he keeps coming in your life. You have to take care of you first and with him trying to keep you confused, it's just hurting you. I don't blame you at all, in fact I think you did good, now keep moving forward and don't stop.

You absolutely did the right thing!!! He's doing this to make HIMSELF feel better, and it has nothing to do with caring about you. He needs to accept the consequences of his actions. He has hurt you, why should you feel guilty for trying to protect yourself from further pain?? Too bad that he's sad!!! He doesn't want you and has told you there's no chance of getting back together, so believe him and move on. Moving on means no more 'phone calls from him. If he ever truly cared for you he'll understand that what he's doing is hurting you even more than just breaking up with you. Friendship may be possible (though I wouldn't count on that), but really, Over is Over. You have already "lost" him (though I prefer to see it as HIM leaving YOU -- you were being YOU and he couldn't accept that and love you for who you are.) Do what you need to to help yourself move on. You deserve a Man (he's obviously a child) who will love you unconditionally. It really is HIS loss, and any sadness he feels is of his own making. If after a while of no contact he suddenly decides he wants you back, you need to understand that it's now too late. If he's done it once, he'll do it again!!!!! Move ever upward and onward!! You have much to offer the right person, and he's shown that he's not that person!!

You did the right thing. He does sound confused. Maybe he just wants to make sure you will still be friends. The fact is that it is impossible when you first break up. Right now you need to get over him and that can't be done if he is calling all the time. good luck....hugs!

you'll see... time heals everything... but of course it would not be easy... so make yourself busy, be productive... don't let him notice that you are affected at all...

I'm a Marie too! I can understand what you are going through. Although my situation is a little different. My husband and I are separated and although I tell him we will never be back together again it is so hard to stand firm with him. We have a daughter, and i'm pregnant with our son so he calls a lot and uses talking to her as a way to talk to me as well. In your situation I would say you did the right thing. You did what you absolutely needed to do to be able to deal with it and go on with your life. If he is still talking to you all the time, you will always have that hope in the back of your head and never be able to move past it. When James(the guy I was with before my husband) and I split up.. I couldn't talk to him for a year afterwards because it hurt too much and wouldn't allow me to move on. Finally, I was able to talk to him and we are now very good friend, if not best friends. It's just the way some of us girls have to handle things. If he doesn't plan to be with you again than he needs to give you time to deal with things.

You are absolutely correct in the fact that you need time to grieve over this loss. If you love someone, set them free. If they come back it is meant to be. I was in a relationship that had gone sour. I ended the relationship and to my surprise, he came back begging me to take him back. Nope. I learned my lesson from it. But, I wanted to share that when I sent him packing, he was the one to come crawling back. Just give this time.

I have not been on my lot to follow up on any discussions lately but I am taking it that you and your man have broken up? I am in the same boat as you. I too am going through a recent break up and my ex keeps calling me. WHen it was him that wanted to end it and he hurt me deeply. Now I just do not answer the phone when i see his number come up on caller ID . I find it this easier to do rather than having to talk to him at all. I'm sorry you are hurting and I hope time will heal your wounds as well as my own. Heart aches do not heal quickly for me. Good luck!

I think the best way, besides changing your phone no., is to avoid his calls by not answering them. Since he had terminated the relationship, he should not be calling you endlessly as though nothing had happened. You have done nothing wrong, so you shouldn't feel guilty at all no matter how he reacted. He may be playing with your feelings to gain sympathy, since things are so fresh and you are just so confused and emotional at this time. Don't give in to this game. You should stand your ground and move on. Perhaps...maybe perhaps...he might have regretted his decision to cut ties with you, and still feel the love for you like you have said you still love him. If that is so, then you might just want to consider giving love another chance to work. But don't make it easy for him to just walk back into your life. He has to show deep remorse first and he'd better have a very good explanation for his earlier actions, and a credible apology to tender. But you have to think this over very carefully, because if he can just blow hot and cold, and change his mind like the weather, then such a relationship can be very shaky in future, and you may get hurt again. So I'd say don't be too quick to reconcile, allowing your emotions to get the better of you. Think carefully what this means for your future.

you did the right thing, if he say it is over already so why he keeps calling you... that's not fair. I know guy get over thing so easy but it just hard for us as a girl to do that. Like my bf, he used to tell me over and over again that we are over and then he wanted me to go away and I did. Then the next day, he called and ask me out for the last time and i did... then he started to change and ask me for another chance. I was like what? Are you sure? he said he was too much at the time and now he realized it was his fault. I take him back... If u love him and he loves u, then you should work thing out. I know i was telling you that you did the right thing... however, since you said you love him so much and if he still love you and you two can work thing out then everthing will be back to normal. I wish you all the best. You two should talk again...

He is being very very selfish! He should just let you go and stop clinging on to you everyday like that. If he has so many things to say to you, y break-up? I really don't get him. Dear Marie, just let him go, don't let him have an impression that you are always available. Your time is precious, use it to get over him and find someone better. You deserve much better alright? Regards, Adrienne http://www.e-marketinghub.com http://www.e-marketing-systems.com