Is it OK to tell your friends about your relationship?
By ayseteyze
@ayseteyze (214)
Turkey
July 25, 2007 9:03am CST
We all want to share our hapiness and sadness to our friends. But when it comes to your relationship with your boy/girlfriend? Is it really required to tell your friend about what's going on in your relationship? Sometimes I think that some experiences should stay private, but then on the other hand, sometimes it can be helpful to share it so that your friends can show you the things you may not be aware of. Which one do you think is the proper way?
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15 responses
@Aloeli (398)
• Portugal
26 Jul 07
i think some things should stay private there a lot of things that maybe it's good friends not know...some friends can have an other opinion very different than yours and even if they are your friends today it's not 100% sure they will be your friends tomorrow so better be carefull in what you tell. i know that sometimes we need a good advice or something it's bad at our life but you have to think well if is a really good friend if it is we can trust but things about a relationship it's not good to tell and btway it's about two persons that love each other and no one will feel same way to give opinion about what's the matter. when we have a relationship with someone it's a connection we can trust each other and no one knows or have nothing with it.
@tbatenga (104)
• Philippines
26 Jul 07
There is no right or wrong answer here. I believe that it's good to talk about your relationship with your friends for the sake of discussion. Girls and even boys love to talk about their significant other with friends and there is nothing wrong with that. However, you are not obliged to spill all details specifically the intimate ones. But if you trust these friends enough then there's nothing really wrong with telling all especially if you're seeking for advise, but you have to be very careful in doing that. Personally, I keep intimate details between me and my partner only. I treat it as one form of respect to my partner and to our relationship.
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
26 Jul 07
I think there's a lot of gray area here. It depends on a lot of factors, such as what your partner feels on the issue, how likely your friends are to talk about what you say to them, how much information you are giving your friends, whether the friend in question is also friends with your partner... there are just so many factors.
My husband and I each have friends that we feel comfortable talking to about our relationship, but we also make sure that we aren't only talking about it when something is wrong, so that our friends don't get the idea that the other partner is a real jerk or something. We also agree not to talk too much about our relationship to people that are mutual friends, and put them in the position of choosing sides and such.
@scarywhitegirl (2766)
• United States
25 Jul 07
I usually don't volunteer information about my relationships to my friends, but if they ask how things are going, I will usually tell them that things are going well or poorly, with maybe a few minor details. Really, though, I'm a fairly private person, so I don't usually air my relationship issues to my friends.
@nutea_anin (281)
• Indonesia
25 Jul 07
i think there would be no problem sharing about my relationship to my friend. but usually i only share with those who i really trust and the person should know about me and my partner, so when i need their opinion, they can help me with an objective opinion.
Still i keep some problems which for me private and confidential and i don't want them to know. Sofar my best friends never ask anything bout my relationship unless i tell them if i need some advices and thank God they're always there and help me.
@granger1900 (125)
• United States
25 Jul 07
I don't think it is something required in a friendship. If it is then I would question whether it is really a friendship. That said, it is up to you to decide what you want to share with others. If I had a problem I wanted to talk about, I wouldn't talk about it with everyone, I'd chose someone that I trusted. Sometimes we just want someone to listen, sometimes to give advice or perspective, sometimes just to grumble and sometimes just to laugh. Intimate details of one's relationship with their boy/girlfriend are not required even it that's what our other friends do. You must do what is right for you and true friends respect that.
@russ8elle (8)
• Philippines
25 Jul 07
it is fun when you share to your friends on what's going on to your relationship,but it is not a requirement. well, some things should be kept in private and personal, and your friends will surely respect you for that. our friends can be helpful at times especially when you are confused on certain things that you cannot answer alone, so you seek help from your friends. it is good to ask for their opinions and it might help you to make a decision. But it's really up to you if you want to share it or not, either way wouldn't be a problem.
@kimyat24 (42)
• Philippines
25 Jul 07
yeah! it is healthy on your part if you can unburden some of your problems in relationships to your closest friends or maybe to those radio shows who offer advices since it would somehow makes you better. But there are also things that is too personal and thngs that should be resolve by both of you. I had experience before that i share my problems with my friends but it did not make good to me since they tend to interfere now between us. It made matters worst... and I made the mistake of putting my partner into a bad impression towards my friends which is too bad... what if things between us work after the tragic experience, my friends won't look at my partner the same a before... there are always better ways to make things work...