Sometimes I feel that all I am is a wife and mother. Does anyone else feel.....
By Cassie3107
@Cassie3107 (40)
United States
July 25, 2007 10:43am CST
Sometimes I feel like all I am is a: wife, mother cook, cleaner, friend, lover and nothing else. I feel that who I was before marriage got lost in the shuffle. I feel like I can not have a life outside of my marriage and children. Actually I don't. I also feel that I can not take time for myself and when I do I feel guilty. Even if it is just a walk by myself. I take care of everyone, but me. My stepson thought because I stayed at home with them that I never had a job before and I had a whole lot of jobs in my 33 years. I know I need some time to myself sometimes, but it is just hard for me to do. Does anyone else feel like this?
1 response
@helpingmomsathome (88)
• United States
26 Jul 07
I used to feel exactly the same way as you! I just recently forced myself to start doing stuff for myself. I have 3 kids (7, 5, & 2) and stayed at home with them since my first was born. Prior to that I had a great job as an adminstrative assistant with excellent pay and awesome benefits. It was really hard to quit because I felt like I was giving up my identity. I was a great secretary and got recognition for it, but now I'm a mom and all I'm know as my kids' mom.
I recently started working on things I enjoy (writing, designing my site, my blog, crafts, and mylot.com) to recreate my own identity. Something I can be proud of and feel I accomplished on my own.
Take 10-15 minutes a day and do something just for you and tell yourself you will be a better, happier, and more confident, secure parent because of it. It sets a good example for your kids.
@Cassie3107 (40)
• United States
27 Jul 07
Thank you for the comment. That is good advice. I think I will do that.
