when will my parents grow up i am 31
@easymoney75503 (1702)
United States
July 25, 2007 12:20pm CST
all my life just about i have felt like the parent when it comes to my mother and father. i read a discussion earlier and it made me think back and i didnt like what i thought about lol. i want my kids to have grandparents like most kids do but they cant. for there own good i have to keep my mother and father away from them. what is sad is they would make good grandparents if my mother could stay away from drinking and would take her meds. my dad would be great if he could grow balls. growing up i always thought there was something wrong with me and it took many years to learn that it was not me but them. i tried to let them be apart of my kids lives but the same thing happened over and over again and for my kids sake i had to stop it by telling my parents to go away. my mom sends gifts and i talk to her on the phone but she doesnt know how to get to my house and she doesnt see the kids. my dad i leave messages with old friends of his that i am ok and so are the kids but other then that i stay away. my mom still likes to party and when she does she gets mean. she drinks and smokes pott and will do it with my kids right there is why she is not allowed around. my dad cant stand up to his wife and lets his wife be mean to everything he loves. that and she hates me and my kids cause she hates my mother and she tries to take that out on us. he just sits there with his head hung low. growing up i had to take care of my sister closest in age to me and i had to live with my grandparents til my grandpa died. then i had to go back to my mothers and be a mom aagain. i left home when i was very young. i just wish they would grow up is all.
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@granger1900 (125)
• United States
25 Jul 07
Sorry to hear about your parents. It's all out of your control. At least, it sounds like you've found a way to break out of the cycle and realize it is them not you that was wrong when you were growing up. If only it were an ideal world. Each child deserves a good home and healthy parents but that just doesn't happen. Your children are very lucky. I hope you are able to somehow connect with other older people in your community that can be like surrogate grandparents, maybe it's an older woman or couple. I know I was fortunate for the time I had with an older woman, a woman I considered my spiritual mother until she passed away at the age of 86. She gave me what my mother could not.
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