Death of a baby?

Canada
July 25, 2007 4:45pm CST
I just recently in the past couple of months lost my babygirl..I was 29 and a half weeks pregnant..I wonder if anyone on mylot has experience a loss of a baby...I had high blood pressure in my last 2 pregnancies I have given birth to 3 children all together and my 3rd one died...I had a severe case of pre-acclamsia Toxemia...support hugsss and friendship or advice are all welcomed
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@sid556 (30959)
• United States
25 Jul 07
I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost a child while 4 months along many years ago. I do know how you feel and how it seems that no one can possibly understand. It did take a long time to get over. I will say the experience maybe caused me to appreciate the children that I do have even more. It is really hard to know what to say ...words just don't seem to help. Hugs and if you need to talk...email me.
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• Canada
25 Jul 07
Thank you so much for your support..I am also sorry for your loss..There is light at the end of the tunnel I'm told...if you need to talk i'm here as well
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
26 Jul 07
Sweet I am so sorry to hear this I had a Miscarriage but nothing like what you had to experience to carry the Baby and then for it to be Still born so I am really sorry and I can imagine how hard this is for you to deal with Hugs to you
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• Canada
26 Jul 07
Thank you so much sweety yes it is very hard...But it gets better as each day passes...I'm just trying to make it through the next week as she was not due to arrive til the end of July...I'm not sure if you read PurpleTeddyBears post about A loss for words and her friend was in the hospital well that was me...hugzzzzzzzzz to you thank you so much for your support and friendship
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
26 Jul 07
Yes Sweetie I do remember that very well as I remember replying to it It will get easier Sweetie eventually but it is not something that happens fast and you have the best support going Love and Hugs to you
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• Canada
26 Jul 07
well I have called mental health where I live and my file just has to be reopened when I'm ready to go that far..But I know there are steps in grieving and right now I'm still a bit in the anger part of it...Everyone has their own time and grieves in their own time hugzzzzzzzzzzzz to you gabs and ty for being a wonderful person and friend
@34momma (13882)
• United States
26 Jul 07
i have never lost a child before and I thank the Lord that I have not. I am so sorry to hear about your lost. my heart goes out to you and your family. we don't always know the Lords will, but everything happens for a reason. Please know i send my love to your and yours
• Canada
26 Jul 07
I also thank the lord you have not experienced it either..I never thought I would but knowing I have love of friends and family has been a great deal up help to me while I'm healing from this loss..She is my sweet little angel...My accept your love and please receive it back sweety hugzzzz to you....
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
26 Jul 07
thank you and you make sure you take care of your mind, body and spirt.
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• Canada
26 Jul 07
you are most welcome hun...I don't wish this even on my worst enemy...with that being said I truly hope we can become good friends and thank you I'm doing just that day by day...
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@kelly60 (4547)
• United States
27 Jul 07
I'm sorry for your loss. Don't ever let anyone tell you that you shouldn't talk about it. Sometimes that will help more than anything, and talking to a professional isn't always the answer. I talked to professionals for many years after I lost my two little ones in our house fire 15 years ago, but you know what? It doesn't go away. It does get easier in time, but I still think about them, and I always will. If anyone thinks that you should just keep it inside, they are crazy. If they think that the only thing that could possibly help you is to talk to a professional, they are crazy. I have talked to friends, I have talked to strangers, I have written about it. Get it out of your system any way you can, and just ignore those who don't understand what you are going through.
• Canada
27 Jul 07
kelly thank you so much for that..You completly understand why I posted this discussion in the first place and yes I have ran into some that have said it wasn't a good idea and some that right away wanna shove me into a counselors office it seems...You are so right I have found it very helpful and theraputic to talk about my baby to strangers friends and even a bereavement nurse from the hospital today is a rough day though...she would of been due anyday now...I'm so very sorry for the loss of your two children if you ever need to talk please feel free to talk with me sending you be hugzzz of thanks for your support and understanding.
• United States
26 Jul 07
I am sure that the last thing that you really want to hear is how sorry I am that this happened, I am, and how things will get better, which they will, but in reality we know that this is going to change your life... I think that it is great how you can share this with everyone, it really is a great healing tool to just get your feelings out. It's okay to admit that you think that this totally sucks and you can't understand why it happened. But realized that you still have three amazing and beautiful children who love you very much and one paerfect angel looking over you all the time. I will pray for your healing and joy!
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• Canada
26 Jul 07
not it's okay to say you are sorry..That shows support and comfort and that people feel your pain also...I thank you for your kind words and yes sharing with people has helped me a great deal to heal with my loss...And I truly believe as you said she is an angel looking over my shoulder thanks so much for your prayers and love big hugzzzz to you