battery

Some battered women stay because they're used to the battery. Some are afraid of what the men will do to them if they leave. Others don't think they deserve any better. ANd for some, the battery has destroyed their self-esteem and motivation so much that they aren't motivated enough to leave. It's truly sad. I think it could change, but we need a much better legal and psychiatric system for that to happen. We also need more shelters and hotlines. I often think online chats for battered women would be helpful, because so many people search for help online.

Women tend to stay in an abusive relationship because she feels as if she has no where else to turn. Also, the man has probably told her that if she tries to leave he will kill her or make her life worse than it already is. Often times it is because of children as well, even though in the back of her mind, she knows that it isn't safe for the child either. Lack of support from friends or family plays a big role as well. Unfortunately, you can't force a woman to leave an abusive relationship and she has to do it in her own time. I know, I've been there twice. It hurts, and you feel ashamed, degraded, embarassed that you ever let yourself get into that situation. The most important thing to know is that there IS help out there and though it may be hard for you to ask for help, you can and it can change. Things do get better if you only seek help.