Total honesty?

I don't see why not. Your past is a part of who you are and it does effect your spouse. The things that have happened to you are what shape your attitude and behaviour. Knowing your past is knowing what makes you you and spouses should always share that with each other. Anything my fiance doesn't know about me is probably from me just not remembering to tell him yet and the same goes for him. He's told me things he's never told anyone else and I love that.

I think honesty is extremely important in any relationship. However, honesty about past relationships are tricky business. Even if you feel it's all in the past, your spouse might have other thoughts on that. A person's emotional health is such a tenuous and mysterious thing that I firmly feel the less said about the past the better. Concentrate on the present, focus on the future with your spouse and forget the past. Yes, the past got you to where you are now but it doesn't have to rule your todays and that might happen if you share them with your spouse.

I have been totally honest with my husband about my past, and I can't imagine being in a relationship where I didn't feel that I could be totally honest. I don't want there to be parts of me that I am hiding from him. That would just make it seem like a false relationship to me. Not only that, but if I weren't honest with him about something, and he found out about it later, that would be more of a disaster I would think. My history is very messed up, personally. There are a lot of things that happened in my past that were bad, both things that happened to me that weren't my fault, and things that I did. I haven't hid any of this from my husband, and he has accepted me exactly as I am. So I'm very lucky I suppose.

I don't think it's absolutely necessary to tell all. Everyone needs privacy about certain things and that's the way it should be. When me and my husband first got together I asked very few questions relating to his past relationships. I just limited it to, have you been married before, how many times and did you have any kids. I don't know how many people he's slept with in the past and he doesn't know how many I've slept with either. It has just never been important to either of us. Which is probably a good thing since I can guarantee my past is a lot more checkered than his! LOL!

for me, yes we should be! coz it was just the past right, its up to the person to accept you as who you are... and for my point of view, whether it'll bring disaster or not, you should really be honest with your loveone...

Hi wykidd. For me honesty in a relationship is more on being honest about the things that are presently surrounding your relationship and not your past. Personally, I don't talk about my past relationships with my present significant other unless he asks about them. It's my right to keep any of the details that I don't want to be divulged and besides it's not really relevant to the growth of our relationship so for me, you don't really have to tell everything that happened to you in the past unless it will help you resolve some issues with your current relationship.

I don't think a persons past should be any concern to a spouse unless it it is going to affect them in some way, a relationship start and a new beginning so what went on before that time should be up to the person to talk about or if not so be it...I think there is certain things a person has the right to keepn inside, everyone should be able to have private memories for themselves.

Talking from experience I do not think it is wise to tell your partner everything. For me though I am very open and because of this there are no skeletons in my closet that may suddenly pop out one day. I know all about my partners past and to me it is fine, What he did before he met me has nothing to do with me, but my partner is not so good at understanding this and sometimes he has held it against me. I know many people who have kept things to themselves that other people know about, but not their partner. I would personally hate to find out something about him years later that he felt he could not share with me, so really its a double edged sword. Tell them everything and face the repercussions, don't tell them and worry that one day they may find out. Of course this does depend on what sort of past you have had!!LOL

i dont believe so i dont think my parnter should know all about my past when that had nothing to do with him if i wish to share things with him then i will if he asks question i will but i dont want to know all about his and he dont know all about mine cause that what it is the past is the past and the future with your partner should all that should be woorried about i know anyway there nothing really in my that will spilt us