Do you ever feel this way?

As a Zen practitioner people don't get me a lot of the time! LOL. Sometimes it is hard work getting them to get my communication. But I usually get it across in the end. The thing is, when people want to engage with me in "Zen-speak", that is the way it supposed to be :-)

I know how you feel I hate when someone totally doesn't get me. But I also do misunderstand others as well sometimes. It's hard for me to understand what a person means from pure text alone without a tone there at times. So sometimes I think they are serious when they are just being silly. It also depends on my mood. I have learned NOT to enter Mylot on a bad day, that is for sure LOL.

It happens to all of us at some time or other. I just shrug it off and go on. Lifes too short to get upset ove mundane things. Sooner than later you will run into someone who thinks like you and you will be smiling again. I have learned that not everyone in Mylot is as easy going as I may have thought but that's just the way they are. It would be a dull life if everyone was the same. So I try to learn from all of them how to face life with an open mind...but not so open my brain falls out! Heeee, Heeee!

There are people that are 100% serious. A subtle joke goes right by them. Never even slows down. But I also think the written word is perhaps the worst method of communication. If you are skilled at it and know how to put meaning into your words often there will be no misunderstanding. But that is so hard to do at times. And it does not gaurentee some will get it even then. When you talk about something that may be happening to someone else, even though you may be kidding, it's no joke to them. So it all depends on what is going on with that person. Stress, lonely, marital problem, whatever it may be takes out all the fun in life. So a joke is no longer fun. If you get a chance to go to a comedy store or any other place that comedians perform look around. While you are rolling on the floor there will always be someone that is not only not laughing they will look bored. I have seen this so many times and I wonder what is going on with them. They pay good money to get a laugh and there is nothing that could ever do it. So don't be offended just consider where that person may be coming from. By the way I have felt this way most of my life. So I know just where you are coming from.

yeah sometimes i do feel this way..like when i'm trying to tell people something but they don't understand the message that i'm trying to say or they think it's no biggie. i guess we just have different perceptions of things and different way of expressing things..

it happens a lot... sometimes people just do not understand some things because they do not know on how to lighten up. maybe too much stress nowadays could be the reason for this.

I have had great luck on my jokes but then I let something go over my heard (not often) and answer the wrong way and I get told off fast lo l then I have to explain

Being younger it must bug you about people. I have learned to just let them be and if they get me then all is good. I tend to be quite literal and at times that allows me to be perceived as funny. I happen to think that some people should be taking the world, work and its events more seriously than they do. So we shall hope that middle ground will be found and you find the peace and understanding that we all hope for.

Hey wim, Yeah,ppl do believe the things I say even when I'm joking -after they gasp I have to say "no just joking" my favorite is when ppl say I can't believe you have a 17 almost 18 year old son I say "yeah,I had 'em when I was 11" they'll be shocked for a minute and then I say "just joking" LOL +'s |:)

i know what you mean. either people are not reading what you said or they are just taking things way to serious. either way i don't care if they get me or my humor. i am going to keep plugging away.

I have noticed that there is a total lack of humour on myLot. Everyone takes everything to the letter of the word. I also think that humour is something which is slowly vanishing in this world. Humour is an endangered specie. lol People have so many problems to deal with in their everyday life that they have lost all sense of humour. And when someone attempt to be funny... they look at him/her like if he was crazy. It is simply not natural anymore for someone to have the time to make jokes. If you have the time to make jokes... there must be something wrong with you. You simply don't take this harsh life seriously.

Hi Wooitsmolly. I am sorry but you are going to get a wet blanket from me. You say that when YOU tell a joke and people do not get it. and it happens a lot, on my lot as well. Now I have to ask the question What message are you getting or not getting. Please this is not a personal attack, but you appear from your discussion, and that is where I get my information. not to care on one hand but on the other feel slighted when people do not" get you" I know I had the caviler attitude of take me or leave me, and you know what they left. I as a person can not be bothered with some one that doesn't care. Because if you don't why in the world should I? And yet there is a part of me that knows you care and deeply, because if you truly didn't you would have been out of here a long time ago. So please show me the real caring person, I am not asking you to change, I am asking you to examine why you feel that you must be the person that they "don't get. Being kooky is fine to a point but it is not worth being alone. I know I have been there and done that, it is a very lonely place. It took me a long time to understand that it was" me that didn't get it."

Well, in real life and on a computer screen are two different things. Here on mylot, no one sees your body language, your facial expressions, nor do they hear the tone of your voice. THEIR perspective, frame of mind and mood set the tone for HOW they read your comments. So what you said in a joking way, someone else can read as quite serious. that's why e-communication can be such a BAD way to communicate. In person, if someone doesn't get you, it might also be that they are in a different frame of mind. sometimes I don't laugh at my husbands jokes when I have a migraine, or I have something serious on my mind. People often just don't get each other. I wouldn't always take it personally, recognize that if someone gets upset at something, they might be having a REALLY bad day, and a chill pill isn't going to do it for them.

Perhaps you might feel better if you think that you are an exception other than the norm? :P I hesitate to give you feedback but after some consideration, I feel what I am contributing could be of use to other mylotters if not you. It is part of my sharing to make one a better and more acceptable person. If you do not agree, just take it I am crapping, but don't abuse me. lol. In my opinion, if this always happen, perhaps it is time to take a step back and look inwards. Once a while, it could be some exceptions. However, if it always happen, then something is not right. Why is it that other people can joke and many others can accept but not when you tell the joke? There could be some underlying reasons. Think along this line. You know yourself best :)

I seriously don't think I will ever be understood on any rational plain of existance,lol, even though I feel like I make perfect sense at least 80 percent of the time!!

No I don't really feel that way unless I'm with some hardcore serious people. There are times when I am serious and talking about an event and people start laughing because they think it's a joke because of the way I describe it.

It happens to every one. One problem with putting it in writing is that people can not see intonation and expressions so they can not tell if something is in jest or is serious. And sometimes people just do not read the whole thing out before make conclusions. I just responded to a post where the person made a comment and then said that it was a joke. Reading through the response it was obvious that a lot of the people just did not read the whole thing through or they would have known it was a joke.

I happens in my school days, they are not understanding what i am trying to say but they imitate me...

Yes, it does happen, and chances of that happening are more on the internet via text communication. Because this medium lacks things like the tone of the voice, the facial expressions and thus the person at the other end has to create a tone and expressions purely from the text. A slight variation in the use of words makes all the difference. Sometimes its also upon the mood of the reader.

I think so too. If they don't get you at all, they will be either too serious or miss the fun. Sometimes if I don't understand, I will think about it first carefully. If still I have no idea about it, I will ask for the funny point and have a good laugh later when getting the point. lol