Breaking up with your first love, how did you cope with it?
By fab315
@fab315 (1231)
Philippines
July 26, 2007 10:50am CST
Sitting, thinking back to that magical first time i fell in love. I could still remember the butterflies in my stomach, the sparkle in my eyes, and the stupid smile on my face. First boyfriend, first love. How even 10 minutes apart from him could seem like an eternity? How the simple act of holding hands could make me feel like the most special person on the planet?
I was 18 yrs old, he was 17. My parents wouldn't allow me to have a boyfriend that time. Because i loved him, i disobeyed my parents. It was like a fairytale story, "him and me against the world"...hehehe. My parents hated him and his family.(they had a very bad reputation in our city)
Now, fast-forward a few weeks, a month, or perhaps even years ahead, and what happened?? 4 years of being together.. We broke up and went our separate ways, most likely never to see each other again.
Nothing prepared me for the pain, the tears and the emptiness that i felt that time. The smiles vanished from my face, the sparkled left my eyes. What made it worst was i couldn't be more open to my parents about it. Eventhough they've accepted our relationship, still they're not very okay about it. My friends consoled me.
I remember how i spent hours crying alone 'til i fall to sleep, wishing that it was just a dream. And i recall that it took time, and many dates later, to make me realize that life wasn't over and the best was yet to come.
It was myy first pain, my first heartache....how did i cope with it?
I promised myself that the pain would go away and that I would love again. That all the pain, the tears and the crying are just the smallest portion of LOVE, that the biggest portion is yet to come. And i took some comfort in the knowledge that heartache, after all, is only a temporary condition.
And you? how did you cope with your first heartache?
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@ang_2906 (76)
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26 Jul 07
There's nothing quite like the pain of the end of a relationship. My first heartbreak was when I was sixteen. I had met my boyfriend at college and we weren't even together for very long, but the short time we were together he treated me like a princess.
The end was so unexpected and it seemed everyone else knew about it before I did and that made me ebarrassed but I was determined to put a brave face on it, so I acted as though the break up was going to be a mutual decision. Being the adult I approached him and explained how I felt and you could see the relief on his face. Inside however I felt myself crumbling and I didn't think I was going to make it through the conversation.
I did however and over the next few months I realised there were plenty of guys out there that were just as nice if not more, and that he wasn't the be all and end all. It was a great pleasure when I saw him a couple of years later and I had moved on and he didn't appear to have.
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@rijashere (26)
• India
26 Jul 07
though i couldn't cope with it initially, it was the most logical and magical moment of my life..it was the day i came to know that she never loved me and i was fooled around...i still remember it as the most precious moment of my life...that moment taught me how to approach life and the necessity of thinking before taking any decision....so i really love that moment...
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